Thanks everyone, sorry for the delay popping back to reply!
Yes hair loss is frightening, and not because of 'vanity' do i want to restore my locks....
It's also a big indicator of self-esteem for a lot of us, and that is not vanity either, but more about the way we see ourselves and what things we like about our appearance. Having said that, of course identity is not totally about how we look, but it is a big part..
I have felt so much better on HRT I'm loathe to stop, and of course being in Surgical meno, cant' really ...
I've settled on a low dose of both Oestrogen and T.. and I feel ok, my hair is no where near how it used to be, but I'm living with it.. The way it's settled now is the partings are very big, you can see where I've lost chunks of hair and the remaining hair is very thin and brittle... When I wash it and dry it looks fine, but after a day or so goes very stringy and thin again..
I've had extensions but I'm not sure those are so good either..
i would say to anyone who could, see a specialist, a trichologist as NHS are not interested (of course, they have more pressing things to sort out) I'm sure there might be things you can do before you get to the stage where you've lost a lot of hair
I guess it's all part of menopause (for some, not everyone)..
In answer to someone's question was it hereditary? My mums hair also got finer and thinner, but then she had chemo, lost it all and it grew back very thick and curly! so go figure...
Thanks again for all the answers and support. Best of luck to anyone else who is struggling xxx