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[Joyce]

Meaning??? 

[Taz2]

Well.. you can put your own interpretation on it.... but it's now been replaced with "Reason why men pull away". Sorry to hijack this thread.

Taz x 

[CLKD]

AAAHHH - physicality rather than 'gone off' 

[Dorothy]

Don't girls read the back pages of magazines these days which is where I got my questions from: then I asked my Mum, one thing she wasn't was backwards about coming forwards.  My friends in Sec School sent me home with questions for my Mum 'cos there's wouldn't discuss sex  .

Menopause should be discussed when a lady goes for her pregnancy tests ;-).  There should be more info in GP Surgeries, Libraries etc..

Not every woman gets pregnant...childless women are discriminated against enough as it is without withholding menopause info from them!  I'd suggest leaflets on the information rack, next to the ones on stopping smoking, signs of cancer etc.  And also, maybe providing information on the first well woman check past 30 or 35. 

[Katejo]

At the bottom of this thread, on my computer anyway, there is an advert advising which foods to eat - it's shows a rather large cucumber! Google's picked up on the Viagra word I think. 

Taz x

Mine's showing mobility scooters and shopping trollies - dread to think what that says about me! 

S x

The advert on my page is for Barclays Bank but on Facebook I get ones for 50+ insurance and similar.
 My Mum told me about periods. I remember her showing me the Dr Whites and the sanitary belt though I chose the stick on version once I started.  I remember exactly what happened when I actually started my first period at school. My only recollection of sex education at school is a teacher telling us about condoms and showing one. He was an older man and a respected teacher but he looked really uncomfortable. I also did some in 'O' level science lessons

[Dana]

We desperately need a replacement for the progesterone part of HRT.

This ^^.  IMO this is the one major flaw with HRT. Women shouldn't be forced to either have hysterectomies or to give up all the benefits of estrogen simply because they can't tolerate continuous progesterone or they don't want to have periods for the rest of their lives. This is an area that definitely needs more research.

[Dana]

Don't girls read the back pages of magazines these days which is where I got my questions from: then I asked my Mum, one thing she wasn't was backwards about coming forwards.  My friends in Sec School sent me home with questions for my Mum 'cos there's wouldn't discuss sex  .

Menopause should be discussed when a lady goes for her pregnancy tests ;-).  There should be more info in GP Surgeries, Libraries etc..

Not every woman gets pregnant...childless women are discriminated against enough as it is without withholding menopause info from them!  I'd suggest leaflets on the information rack, next to the ones on stopping smoking, signs of cancer etc.  And also, maybe providing information on the first well woman check past 30 or 35. 

As someone who never had children, I agree Dorothy. I think it would be more appropriate to start discussing it with women in their 30s when they go for their pap smears.

I was someone who was totally clueless about menopause. Mind you I don't know if I would have taken much notice of any early information though because I never had any hormonal issues, so I stupidly made the assumption menopause would also be no big deal.

I also think younger women really don't want to think about getting older, or what life will be like once they reach their 50s. Society has never been very kind to us older ladies, so I can't blame the younger women for wanting to put their heads in the sand for as long as possible. I did.

[Lizab]

In my original post I did not advocate talking about menopause at the same time as periods, it would be too much for a pre teen to get their head round.  I suggested it could be approached in 6th form or college once the girls are young women.

They certainly need to know the whole story from beginning to end.  Ignorance certainly is not bliss.

I think giving an overview of beginning to end is a good idea when they learn about periods and sex. Obviously one can't go into great depth, as they don't need or care to know at that age, but something like "here is the life cycle of your reproductive system".  I can't be sure that I'll be alive or have a relationship conducive to that kind of conversation when my daughter is in her thirties. The education as part of wellness exams at a certain age would be great, something like how at whatever age women begin mammograms or colonoscopy. If it became standard, over time it would become common knowledge.

[Dorothy]

Think they should also include information on early menopause.  I had symptoms for years which I knew were 'like' menopausal symptoms, but didn't think it could be because I was 'too young'.  No one ever told me it can happen in your 30s (or younger)

Our 'human biology' section at school was so 'scientific' and impersonal that we never actually made the connection between what we were studying & our own bodies!    I think the idea was that parents would teach the rest at home, but my mother made such a hash of it that I was still fuzzy about the whole process when I was 16. 

[babyjane]

my mother never spoke about bodily functions and told me nothing at all.

I was talking to DD about the menopause again this weekend, just in a matter of fact way and mentioned early menopause.  She told me that she knows someone who went into early menopause at 19 years of age and went into shock when it was explained to her.  She still hasn't come to terms with it, or the loss of any children she may have had naturally.

It is such a privilege to have a relationship with my DD that allows us to talk naturally about these things.  Hopefully she will retain the facts for the future.

[CLKD]

Point taken.  I didn't have children but somehow menopause [The Change] arrived in my vision quite early on (before I was 30).  I had aunts I suppose who began to grow chin hair so was told at the age of 11-ish that it was something that 'happened to old ladies'. 

I think the physicality can arrive as a shock to ladies though at a time when we should be moving forwards and looking towards retirement etc.. 

[getting_old]

The only sex education I got was a video for girls only at school, and the agony aunt sections in magazines. My mother never made any effort to discuss anything with me, and I was somewhat horrified when I got my first period. She never mentioned her manopause either, although looking back I think she had anxiety issues, and I don't have any close female friends so I think I was probably suffering peri-menopause symptoms for at least 2 years before I even thought there could be any changes going on with my body. As far as menopause is concerned this site is my only source of information (and I am extremely grateful to everyone here for sharing their experiences).

[CLKD]

I remember my Mum having acid reflux, she was often taking Milk of Magnesia.  She would also flop down and drop off to sleep, crashing fatigue?  But it was never discussed.  I was married and away by her early 50s …….