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babyjane

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How I personally coped with the menopause
« on: July 13, 2016, 11:03:53 AM »

I am now 59 years old and most of my menopausal symptoms have either gone, are a lot milder or are medically treated, like my anxiety.  This is how I personally coped with the years when the symptoms were most bothersome and my husband was out at work..

Fatigue and lack of energy - I had a cleaner every fortnight to do the heavy housework like hoovering and cleaning the bathroom and changing the bed.  I also sent the heavy ironing, like my husband's work uniform, to a lady who took in ironing. Other things I did not iron if they were just things I wore round the house and did not go out in, a 'clean and crumpled' look.  I also used Pledge fluffy dusters which pick up the dust instead of just spreading it around and, on the whole, I lowered my standards to what was necessary.  I also resisted the pressure to cook everything from scratch and got ready prepared vegetables, especially butternut squash.

Hot Flushes/night sweats - A Magicool spray was invaluable as was a small hand held fan and layered cotton clothing, no acrylic or polyester, and a summer duvet all year round.  Sleeping in the spare room if necessary with the window open or even sitting on the back doorstep in the night.

Mood swings - St John's Wort worked very well for me although I still had my jeckyll and hyde moments

Thyroid levels - having autoimmune underactive thyroid it was important that my levels were regularly monitored as menopausal hormonal fluctuations affect the thyroid levels too which can also affect the bowel function.

Weight gain - I just had to go with it as nothing I did worked.  I gained about a stone and a half during peri and lost about a half over the next few years.  I have now come to terms with being a bit heavier than I was pre meno as it is not a good look to be scrawny which is how my neck goes if I lose weight now. As little in the way of processed foods and sugar also helped me.

Anxiety/depression - A biggie and has needed medical intervention and counselling.  Don't be afraid if the menopause brings long buried insecurities to the surface.  If they are severe then there is help to be had and I am glad I asked for help.  If you were emotionally stable before meno and the anxiety is hormone related then I believe HRT can help but I never went down this route. Keep talking to people and don't be ashamed to say how you are feeling and let them help if they offer to.

VA/Dryness - for me Vagifem has been excellent and also helped with urinary frequency especially at night and Systane eye drops are very good for dry eyes.

Insomnia - I don't know the answer to this one, I tried a lot of things but the only thing that helped me was a single tablet of 500mg paracetamol.  I still woke up several times but at least my mind didn't churn as much and keep me awake.

I had some difficult times but I can honestly say it all seems to work itself out, gradually improving.  the difficult thing is having patience as it is not a quick process for some ladies.

this is not meant to be a sermon but my own experience in the hope that something could maybe help someone who is where I was about 8/9 years ago.
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Janice68

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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #1 on: July 13, 2016, 11:15:08 AM »

Thank you babyjane for sharing your story it's well appreciated too. My doc tells me to be patient it's been so much of a nightmare this journey!!
Thanks again!!!
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Janice68

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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #2 on: July 13, 2016, 11:50:55 AM »

I've never heard of magicool spray before. Another one to try there. Can you buy at chemist? Jan x
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Elizabethrose

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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #3 on: July 13, 2016, 12:21:36 PM »

What an absolutely brilliant post: thank you so much Babyjane for taking the time to write it. The peri/meno journey can be long, hard and so confusing for many women, it helps enormously to read other womens' experiences, written in a matter of fact, non lecturing way. I applaud you. x
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babyjane

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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #4 on: July 13, 2016, 12:24:53 PM »

I've never heard of magicool spray before. Another one to try there. Can you buy at chemist? Jan x

Yes it is widely available - Boots, Supedrug, Amazon, ebay.  Of course it is more widely available at this time of year.  I used to stock up in the summer as I was also hot in the winter  ::)
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babyjane

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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #5 on: July 13, 2016, 12:26:00 PM »

What an absolutely brilliant post: thank you so much Babyjane for taking the time to write it. The peri/meno journey can be long, hard and so confusing for many women, it helps enormously to read other womens' experiences, written in a matter of fact, non lecturing way. I applaud you. x

Oh goodness me, thank you   :)

There are so many small aspects of this time of life that I am sure many women don't even mention for fear of sounding silly.  One of the things that bothered me in the beginning before I even knew this forum existed and I had never heard if Vaginal Atrophy, was that when I went to spend a penny the urine flow would spray all over the place, right and left, instead of straight down which could mean a wipe with a flannel afterwards.  On joining this forum, learning about VA and labial shrinkage, it gradually clicked into place and I understood the 'why'.  I am fine if I know why, it is the wondering that makes me anxious.
These small worries matter as much as the large issues.  I have always thought that if it matters to you then it matters, full stop.
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walking the dog

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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #6 on: July 13, 2016, 12:32:57 PM »

Thank you babyjane it gives me hope there's light at the end of the tunnel.
I'm also a magicool fan it has helped me lots
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Janice68

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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #7 on: July 13, 2016, 12:39:51 PM »

Thanks BJ, that's on my list now be good for summer and winter. It's a shame you don't have a magic wand for insomnia!! 
Good post thanks for sharing!! Jan x
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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #8 on: July 13, 2016, 01:00:06 PM »

 :thankyou:
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babyjane

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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #9 on: July 13, 2016, 03:17:02 PM »

I just tried to post what I would have liked to read about 7 or 8 years ago but I didn't know where to get information.

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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #10 on: July 13, 2016, 03:31:31 PM »

Put in Libraries, Health Centres, Vet Surgeries, Leisure Centres, Gynae Clinics? in a small booklet ……… no need to add a name to it but with an Advert about this Forum?
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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #11 on: July 13, 2016, 04:01:16 PM »

BJ, thank you sooo much for summarising all your experience in such a great way! Reading it, I so wished I am nearing or already past this maddness, but ......Thank you, enjoy fully every single day - with a smile!!!
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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #12 on: July 13, 2016, 04:25:34 PM »

Babyjane Thank you  :thankyou:
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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #13 on: July 13, 2016, 06:24:07 PM »

Great to hear someone's story who has come out the other side! Despite it being helpful and informative, it's easy to get demotivated reading all the issues we all have but so good to be reminded that things will calm down, so thank you for that.

Knowing this isn't 'it' forever makes all the difference in how we perceive our current difficulties.
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dulciana

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Re: How I personally coped with the menopause
« Reply #14 on: July 13, 2016, 09:19:22 PM »

Anxiety/depression - A biggie and has needed medical intervention and counselling.  Don't be afraid if the menopause brings long buried insecurities to the surface.  If they are severe then there is help to be had and I am glad I asked for help.

What sort of help did you ask for, babyjane?  I'm going through horrible anxiety problems at the moment, that are having a mental and physical effect on me.  (I'm not on HRT either, by the way.)  They usually strike when I'm by myself, overthinking or - oddly enough - needing food.  How were you helped?
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