You are most welcome sweetheart!
The challenge that I have found with all this silly hormone nonsense is that we get so exasperated and depressed about our emotional over reactions that it can be hard to sort the wheat from the chaff and work out what exactly is going on in our heads and our hearts ( never mind our ovaries lol!) There can be a tendency to start doubting our genuine emotional responses to things and to try to suppress our subconscious messages with tablets. It can all get very muddled.
After all we are sensitive creatures with high levels of perception, emotional intelligence and instinct. I love those qualities in myself and other women and its important to me not to lose sight of them. I would rather accept that they have become heightened rather than loose them. So along with some help from HRT....I'm trying to make friends with the menopausal me.
I can completely relate to your lack of resilience in being judged and appraised as I have also noticed a definite decline in my tolerance of criticism from others. I guess that I have always struggled a bit with this really but as I approach 50 I'm kind of coming to terms with this decline and accepting it as age, wisdom and ego.
I can tell from the number of job offers that you have had and the impact on those you leave behind that you work hard at all that you do and guess that you expect a great deal from your self so I'm going to ask you to mull over a question that I have recently asked myself......Could the over sensitivity around judgment come from years of judging yourself harshly?
re finding someone to talk to - I have found it hard. I have finally got a place on a course run by mind in a neighbouring town which starts in March, It would have been better to have something one to one much sooner but now the HRT is kicking in I feel I can wait. The course is for 4 weeks and is called Right to be me which really struck a chord with me so I'm looking forward to it. Actually thats a break though in itself as I havent been able to look forward to anything for sooo long!
When you get the book try the flower exercise and if you are a visual person you could have look at mind mapping by Tony Buzan and illustrate the things that are important to you. It will help you stay focussed on finding the fulfillment that you seek and perhaps more importantly help you to recognise when you have found it lol!
I would happily chat to you MB but I dont think newbies are able to PM each other