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[getting_old]

Sorry to moan but I just really hate where we live, and I've lived in some pretty awful places (won't name them as I don't want to offend anyone ). It's just one thing after another - the bloke next door is a drunk who beats his wife, whilst the woman up the road is either super chatty or totally snubs you depending on the way the wind blows (I prefer the latter!).

The folks over the way keep finding rubbish bags full of empty booze bottles and used condoms in their bushes, and I've seen the bin men peeing in them too! Today some guy parks outside the house and starts spraying his tyres with stuff that's left a right mess - obviously doesn't want to pollute his own driveway, then a group of kids park and head over to the electricity substation to spray graffiti and drink / smoke at mid-day.

We're only here because of DH's job and I know he'd happily move but it would still be the same area and would mean investing more money in an area I hate. At least we currently rent so we could move at a minutes notice should the opportunity arise - just need to try to think positively!!

[honeybun]

Can you not find a nicer area to rent and still be close enough to your husbands work.

Are you going to be there for a while....if so why not explore better places to stay. It really does not sound nice at all but there must be somewhere a bit better in the general area.

Good and bad in every town.

Honeyb
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[getting_old]

I do keep looking for rental options but there aren't too many around and I really, really don't want to buy anywhere as I don't want to be tied to the place. At least I have a better idea of the area - when we got this place we didn't know the area at all, although interestingly the bit we're in is viewed as one of the nicer ones!

I also keep looking for job opportunities for DH too!!!

[Joyce]

Our daughter moved a few years back because of awful neighbours after they moved south. Neighbours across from them let 3 year olds run about the street after 10pm. They sat on their front door steps drinking alcohol openly. Drugs, fights, police most weekends. The final straw came when someone completely destroyed a car along the road from them. Huge police presence & many arrests. Daughter was terrified for our eldest GD who was 3 at the time.  They then spent ages finding somewhere else. It's not perfect by any means, but much quieter & safer for their kids.

[CLKD]

Does your Husband's company pay towards the rent?  Could he speak to HR about the situation and ask what options are available for moving?

If all else fails, book into a Hotel?

 If you know that a man beats up on his wife then call the Police *every* time.  The Police can take action against him even if the partner won't testify.  But they have to know first.  Speak to the Police and ask if this couple are 'known' to them and ask advice on what to do next time you are suspicious.  You may save her Life!

Are the Electricity Company aware of people at the sub-station?  They have a Duty of Care ……. so again, give them a ring and put them in the picture!

[honeybun]

Or......ducks here.......don't get involved.  Far safer on occasions.

Been there done that and regretted it.


Honeyb
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[CLKD]

I would never regret it.  Some girls are too scared to walk away but some will walk if they have support ……. asking the Police for advice is the way to go ….. but not doing anything 

[getting_old]

DHs company don't pay towards the rent. HR were utterly useless when we moved here and didn't offer any help whatsoever, plus some live locally and I don't want to offend them!

Neighbours are in their 60s and the family visit regularly, bring the grandkids and don't seem to see any problem - in fact I think one of the kids lives with them sometimes. The other neighbours have said to steer well clear as police have been called in the past and it's denied.

Electricity company know and try to patrol but it's not just one set of kids - it seems like it's the place all of the kids go, so if they catch one lot it doesn't deter the rest.

[babyjane]

I am so sorry you hate where you live and the impact it is having on your quality of life.  No neighbours are perfect and, as neighbours we probably aren't either in fact we had a run in with one of ours a couple of weeks ago.

However I think I will give thanks for them all today after reading your post.

[honeybun]

We lived in a flat once that had problems with a young man beating up his wife. I did get involved and took her in and called the police. They split up for a while and then got back together and then collectively made our lives hell.

So therefore I will not get involved in anyone's relationship ever again....I learned my lesson.

As for kids hanging around. Unless there is no way they can ever know who is reporting them then I would not get involved there either.

Honeyb
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[Joyce]

Confronting the situation could make things a whole lot worse getting-old. You still have to live there.  I hate situations like that, but you have to think of your safety first.

However, just because others from company live there, doesn't mean you should have to. They are maybe not having the same bother as yourselves with youngsters & ill-behaving neighbours. If you are really unhappy about situation, can hubby not put in a request to move to somewhere a bit quieter.

[Limpy]

I would never regret it. 

You might if the drunk decides to start beating you up.
We aren't talking rational pleasant people here.

Similarly with the graffiti spraying kids, if they know you've reported them................

[honeybun]

Exactly Limpy, maybe CLKD is braver than me....after all she has said she would take someone's phone out of their hand  ......ummm, not in Glasgow she wouldn't if she valued her safety and I would imagine every big city is the same.

My life was blighted by a violent neighbour....well two in two different places......note to self, never again live in a flat.

People in general don't want outside interference and will tell you so.....loudly 

As for some kids....they are feral.


Honeyb
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[getting_old]

I prefer to keep my head down and not get involved with the neighbours as they all seem rather strange and I think there is history between several of them that I just don't want to be part of.
One evening I put the dog out and he barked once because the drunk neighbour was out, so the neighbour started barking back

[CLKD]

When there was violence in our household whilst I was growing up I was told 'that can't happen because your parents are ….. ' professionals.  Community spirited.  Involved in 'good works'  .  It is unlikely that a man beating up on his wife is going to turn on someone reporting him, after all how would he know ……… the Police will give advice on how to handle such situations. 

Getting_old - what does your OH think about moving ?