It's impossible to quantify how much another person suffers during the menopause and to say that those who choose not to take HRT cannot be suffering much, is unkind and unhelpful.
There are other ways to help your body and mind adjust to the menopause and anyone who decides on something different should be given support. Especially on this site.
Prajna, reading back what I wrote (in a hurry) it may have sounded like I was implying those who dont take HRT are somehow suffering less than those that do. Sorry - that's really not what I meant
I was thinking more of the many people who were incredibly supportive when I felt so ill I could hardly walk (despite being a fit runner previously) and had to have brain scans - but once they heard it was 'only' hormonal, they treated me in a really dismissive and even patronising way. I never, ever envisaged myself taking HRT as I have always tended to be a 'natural' girl, but I reached a point where I could not maintain my job without some form of intervention. My consultant said, at my age, my heart was at risk if I didn't take it so I had no option. However, since then I have had to endure so many people telling me they 'didnt let meno get to them', 'were strong enough to handle a few badly behaved hormones' etc etc that I have become very defensive. Even my own mother has suggested that I have 'given in' by taking it. It's so hurtful.
I know sometimes I must sound evangelical about taking HRT/the pill, but it's only because I know how much time I wasted initially on ADs, pain killers, anti convulsants, vitamin supplements, EPO etc (not to mention £££s on acupuncture and seeing an osteopath) because I felt I would be judged on HRT. Now I take it (well, the pill in my case) I so regret not doing so sooner as it's the only thing that's given me some form of normal life again. Outside of this site, all I heard were unhelpful comments such as 'it gives you cancer' 'it's not for 40 year olds', so I guess I have tried to give another perspective to those currently suffering, but have been put off HRT.
I totally accept that some choose not to take it, others simply cant. For me, I don't think I could have gone on without it - and regardless of what my friends and family might think, I am finally beginning to accept that I am not 'weak' for doing so.
- But whatever our situation, the key thing is that on here we are all supportive of each other and our personal choices. I really enjoy hearing from those in other situations and would be the first to try any alternative solutions that have been successful for people with similar symptoms to those I had.
Apologies if I didn't make this clear in my first post, B x