Oh, please don't start the talk until he has been at home for a few weeks. They are under a lot of pressure in fourth year and they need to wind down for a wee while before facing the real world.
He probably doesn't want to move back on a permenant basis anymore than you want him to, but he probably doesn't have much choice. None of them really want to come back under mum and dads roof after they have lived independently. But needs must.
Both have mine have moved out and moved back....my son more than once.
He did contribute to the household finances when he could but there were no rules and regulations such as a curfew....he is an adult
.....that simply doesn't work. My son came and went as he wanted. He did do a bit of cooking, I did his washing along with ours....why run the machine twice...he did some grass cutting too. He kept his own room tidy...I think, as I never went in.
But he was an adult and was treated as one....they do respond to that.
He is now out on his own but comes home often to stay for a night or two and I love to see him.
Enjoy him, we only have them for such a short time before they are off for good....it doesn't have to be a trial and you will soon adapt to having three in the house instead of two. And you will miss him like crazy when he goes....I know I do.
Honeybun
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