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[jedigirl]

Thanks Greenfields and CLKD
Have kept busy today and am tired now so that's another day coped with!
 

[marras]

Hi Jedigirl, can't muster up stern words only to say sorry to read of your anxieties. 'Another day coped with' is a good way to look at it, one day at a time. Dwelling on our health issues is a waste of time. Easy to say, I know, I have arthritis of the spine and in pain every day and I often wonder how I will be in years to come but that frightens me so try to live each day at a time. Visit your friend, she needs you and your company and good friends are hard to come by.
All the very best to you and your friend

[jedigirl]

Thank you marras
I will visit my friend and be there for her as i have for years , I'm just ashamed how difficult it feels to be able to do it at the moment.
Sorry to hear of your arthritis. Not a pleasant pain to be living with, I'm sure.

[CLKD]

You may find that once you are at the Hospital and found the Ward where she is that you will feel differently 

[jedigirl]

I hope so CLKD, either way I'll manage, it's her awful time after all. My anxiety will have to take back seat for a few hours. 

[Kathleen]

Hello again jedigirl.

I was just thinking that talking about your concerns to your friend may be a helpful thing for both of you, she would certainly understand your worries and it may give her the opportunity to speak more about her own situation.

A long time ago my aunt was in hospital and was told she would probably need an operation, she was terrified and all visitors were under instruction not to talk about it for fear of upsetting her. She was very close to my mother (her sister) and during one visit my aunt waited until my uncle had left the ward to have a cigarette before she broke down and told my mum that she was desperate to talk about her treatment because it scared her so much! She went on to have the operation without problems.

I hope that if you do visit your friend that you both feel better for seeing each other. Comfort and support is what friends are for.

Take care.

K.

[LizeeeH]

Im with 100% on this one

I started with all this horrid health anxiety after watching my father die slowly of cancer and now every time I watch a medical programme BANG I have what they have......I just want to be normal, anxiety strips you of a "normal life" SO huge hugs from a fellow sufferer!

Lizxxxxxxx

[CLKD]

I went to see a friend whose pet is fading.  Had a huge anxiety surge so needed to take my emergency pill in order to cope.  We talked and talked and ……… I felt OK whilst there.  It is going to be a difficult few days for the family 

The pill will leave me tired but I was able to visit and say goodbye to the pet 

[rebelyell]

It is often the way that anticipation is worse than the reality.    I am always OK if I am distracted, that is how I know in my heart of heart that I have health anxiety and not something serious.

[jedigirl]

Thank you all
My lovely friend had her operation today and I will visit tomorrow when she is more able to chat.
Thought of her and her family all day.
Ready for a hot bath and early night to be honest, feel drained. Will probably feel more reassured after seeing her now.
JG XXX

[jedigirl]

I should add I've been at work all day, not feeling drained from thinking of my friend all day, though couldn't get her from my thoughts

[CLKD]

She may be on restricted visiting for a few days, will you ring the Ward first?  After GA one likes to sleep  but she may be able to talk on the phone, often they bring the phone to the bed.  You could ask when you ring to see how she is what the procedure is for the first few days.

[jedigirl]

Thanks clkd
My friend was adamant I should go today and we spent a lovely hour together. She is very nauseous from GA and her tummy very sore where they took fat to place where breast removed. It was so comforting to see and hug her, gently ☺

[BrightLight]

Pleased for you that your visit was positive

[CLKD]

How do you feel now that you have braved the Hospital?