HI Counrybumpkin,
I don't know if I've had something similar. There was a specific area down below that was very sore and after sex (extremely painful), it was uncomfortable when having a wee for a couple of days after. I managed to get a practise nurse to have a good luck when having a smear test (the GPs had previously said they couldn't see anything) and only when looking through the tool thing they use for smears could she see this tiny red sore area. I made a separate appt with the GP and had to ask for them to use the smear test tool to look at it. As a result I was given Ovestin and told to apply it just to the area that was sore ( apparently the rest of my bits down there are ok, at the moment anyway!)
I have been using it and will report back at a later stage to see if it helps; unfortunately sex drive is so poor that I'm trying to work myself up to trying out and seeing if less uncomfortable!