Hi janm
So glad to hear you are healthy and well!
Sorry to hear you have experienced lecturing about a life of misery without HRT, and that you also feel that somwehere ( where?) there is an evangelical crusade to get women onto HRT!
In fact from reading on here I feel many women's experience is quite the opposite - that doctors are often more ready to prescribe anti-depressants than HRT for menopausal symptoms, rather than crusading for its use, and urge women to remain on it for the shortest possilbe time!
As I said maybe on this thread or another - an individual woman's experience is interesting, but cannot inform us about risks and benefits, short or long term, which is where the science comes in - not a matter simply of opinion but evidence based, through studies & data.
I like to think that those of us posting on here are giving a balanced view by linking to the most up to date information as it comes to our attention mostly through this site or by general reading - from the expert gynaecologists and researchers. The fact is that yes it is a questions of statistics and trials which can help women make up their own mind as to what they are prepared to risk in terms of future health. As you say - it is your decision but must be based on what is currently known.
I don't remember reading anywhere that women are condemned to life in a wheelchair without it, but scriv's experience was quite extreme although had the desired effect! As I've said several times before recently - do you want to do the experiment on yourselves - because once done it can't be undone eg go through an early menopause, try without HRT for 20-25 years and see what happens? Of course many women will be fine - but what if you were going to be one of those who weren't?
I am sorry that you tried several HRT types which gave you worse symptoms than without it - and I think womenin your position will have more difficulty in deciding to stay on it, - ie those who have an early menopause, do not have bad menopausal symptoms, and experience worse symptoms on HRT than offit - I can imagine it would be difficult to be persuaded to continue! Often this can be remedied with a different type and it's a pity that some doctors aren't sufficiently knowledgeable about this!
I hope you continue to experience good health!
Hurdity x