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[CLKD]

Kind of.  The response was they would tell their cleaners ……….  we never went back.

[getting_old]

Don't blame you, but think about what else you might have found 

[CLKD]

  …….. it was a student let so we kind of knew what else might be there  .  Bedding was clean, bathroom was comfortable and we went there 3 times in all. 

[CLKD]

OK - so I have realised why I've had anxiety since Mum raised the question in April of 'what' we are doing for our anniversary next month. I got the same feelings as I do from Sept.,, onwards, i.e. the C.mas anxiety.  Whilst I don't want to say 'no' as I can see the sense of Mum taking us out for a meal, it has made me quite depressed and anxious since April  .  Even now thinking about it my stomach has tightened.  It's even putting me off camping 

[dazned]

  CLKD

take one thing at a time maybe,cross one bridge before you think about the the next one.

[CLKD]

In the day that's easier to do but that lurch of the gut as I drop off to sleep is un-controllable 

[dazned]

How horrible that feeling is. 

What does DH think about the best way to tackle it is ,or doesn't he know how you feel about it ? If you feel that strongly about it maybe tell mum that as its special anniversary DH wants just you two to be away together alone then have a meal with mum afterwards maybe .

[CLKD]

Trouble is ……… the anxiety will still be there.  I did think about that in April then thought it would be better to get it over with then …..  ….. have told her we will go over but not to book a meal …………..

[Limpy]

Oh heck CLKD it's not good to think you've got to get it over with.
It's your wedding anniversary...........

Dazned has said lots of sensible things
What does your OH really want to do on the day?
Perhaps you could do something with him that you both want to do (that may be owt or nowt BTW) then meet up with your Mum later.

[CLKD]

    That's what we usually do, go our own way  but hey, Mum's 88 and currently healthy …….. so I'll ride the storm.

[Hurdity]

Hey CLKD - you do what you and your husband want to do on your wedding anniversary! It's definitely not a time for duty! For our 25th we went away just the two of us - no kids or parents or siblings.  30th we had a meal just the two of us. Sometimes one or two of our children come with us (for the meal) as it's in Aug and we're usually on holiday so if they happen to have joined us they come along too - but no big deal and no formality. No need to cause yourself any stress - as Limpy says - it is your anniversary and no-one else's 

toffeecushion - hope you enjoy(ed) your holiday!

Hurdity x

[CLKD]

I was wondering about Toffeecushion too 

I can't remember what we did for our 25th, found the cards from Himself last week    so suggested we ought to think about buying cards for our Ruby at the end of August, didn't we  : he gave me a look of surprise which means he's already bought or …………. 

I want to be able to enjoy Life without anxiety clouding every plan.

[Galadriel]

Mine is riding high today CKLD - all of a sudden, the day before we go has arrived. I was fine right up till I woke up extra early this morning... now my brain is in free-fall trying to make sure I have everything on my list - what have I forgotten? Will I get everything done in time? Will we get to the airport on time? What if the flight is overbooked ( thanks Radio 2 for raising this new worry on yesterday's drive-time show!!!) and we get bumped off? How will I cope with driving on the wrong side of the road? The list is endless

Whatever you do CKLD, I hope you and your DH have fun.

Galadriel (in a tail-spin) xxx

[dazned]

Galadriel airlines have always done that ,can you check-in online,if not just get there in plenty of time you will be fine .
It's the ones who roll up one minute before check-in closes that might have problems! Have a great time away .

[CLKD]

It's a nuisance.  After all these years you would think that airlines would no longer over book  .  If seats are unfilled well they've been paid for? so it means others can spread out!