I was always quite self confident, and in some ways getting older/menopause has given me a 'don't care' attitude in that, my hair/clothes/nails don't have to be so perfect, (those things used to be mega big for me)! But in other ways I am less confident, I too get upset and offended by mostly imagined slights! But the biggest thing for me since the meno started at 53 (just over 9 years ago) is that the ageing progress in it's self is chipping away at my confidence as an attractive woman. I try very hard to keep my weight down, after having been a size UK 12 all my life, I went up to a full size 14 in the first years of meno, and have never got back down! I have always been told I look young for my age, but I now wince when I catch sight of myself in shop window etc...age is beginning to show, and I really don't like it! 😔 I try to be grateful, for reasonably good health, a good life etc, but I get so down it's hard to bounce back, can anyone relate?