Many thanks, Mrs January, you've given me another angle to try... I didn't know about the over 75 assessment, for instance, and will look into that. Dad seems better in himself at the moment (especially compared to a month ago) and he's getting plenty of visitors because it's near Christmas, so unless there's a crisis I'm going to tackle everything again after Boxing Day. We're halfway through setting the power of attorney up, so there's some progress
I'm concentrating on my own health at the moment... I had my pre-op yesterday, for next Monday's hysteroscopy / endometrial biopsy. I also had external and internal ultrasound scans to look at my uterus and ovaries. Ovaries look ok but my endometrium is thickened, around 13-16mm, and there's an area that may be a polyp (it wasn't clear on the scan). I did ask if the thickening could be due to my menstrual cycle, since my next period has been due for 2 weeks now? But she thought it would be more to do with the tamoxifen. As for the 'polyp', I had a scan a few years back which clearly showed a small polyp. So perhaps that's what this is. I'll know more once I've had the hysteroscopy
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The radiographer did say that the endometrium looked 'well-defined' which I'm taking as a positive sign.
Sigh. I'm just taking one day at a time at the moment. We'll stock up on food at the weekend and plan to keep Christmas lunch simple. I just wish I could feel more festive! Thanks everyone, it helps to write it down