Re families.
My parents split up in 1969, before it was usual, I was 11.
Mum left me and brother with dad, we upset her new man.
I knew nothing about cleaning so we lived in squalor, I could cook though.
Wasn't what you call a supportive environment.
I Left home at 16, didn't see family at all after 18.
They rarely tried to contact me, so I severed all contact after I turned 40.
What passed for logic is that they weren't there for me when I needed them.
However, OH's parents were lovely and helpful, I supported them in any way I could.
Strange things families.