Oh how times can change, I have just found the post I wrote on the 14th July 2011, praising my wonderful husband for his understanding.
He came home from work early yesterday to tell me how angry he is about my menopause, or "illness" as he calls it....
He says he is not coping very well and is feeling angry and neglected.
Maybe he thought the menopause was a two minute thing and it would all be over quickly but months down the road the poor man is suffering................. suffering...suffering !!!!!! i have days where I think if it were not for my amazing children I would like to just drift away and not "suffer" this weird time.
I dont quite know how to approach the situation now?
When I am feeling well and having a good day I like to catch up with the kids who are 19 and 22, and meet them for coffee or suppa.... this apparently makes my husband feel neglected, if I can pay the kids attention why cant I do the same for him. He says all he wants is some attention and to go out to lunch every now and then.
I have these weird anxiety feelings so unless I am having a really good day I dont want to go very far, and I want to use those few good times to see my kids, who have both left home. I work with my husband so we are around each other every day.
I feel totally unsupported, and I feel like he is behaving like a small demanding child. I can only just manage to hold myself together at the moment let alone have to look after him too.
I feel angry but mostly disappointed. We are not speaking. The thing I find with the meno is that I cant just put on a brave face and make every thing ok and it seems like that is what he wants me to do. The meno is going nowhere fast.
I am a believer in communication being the key but what do you say to someone who is angry with you for something you cant help.... I refuse to go to lunch with him and sit and suffer just to make him feel better, I tell him how I am feeling which I admit is repetative and boring but its real and its happening...... they tell me it wont go on for ever