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[dulciana]

Does anyone else find their stress levels can rise if they're on their own?  I went for a good, brisk walk to our local shops this morning, got what I needed, felt fine, came back and did various productive things, incl. my usual music practice.  Then I had an early lunch, relaxed with a bit of TV, then the laptop and now I'm feeling stressed again.   I think it was the flickering of either or both screens that did it. At one point, I was sitting there with my fists clenched, feeling all uptight, not quite knowing where to put myself.  I'm a bit calmer now but I'm left with a shhh sound in my ears, which always comes when I'm stressed.   I'm working this afternoon and have plans to do something constructive en route, but I'd be interested to know if anyone else gets these sorts of episodes.

   (Perfectly happy, really!)

[Rowan]

In one word duciana Yes, I get those episodes.

[CLKD]

When I was depressed, 3.30 p.m. onwards was my worst time. I had managed to get through the morning routine, had a sleep and was then waiting for DH to return.  My anxiety would rise but it was probably because I was hungry.  I prefer shopping either with DH or alone, can't be doing with others phaffing in the shops with me  ........... and rarely go out with others to eat.

I think when I am busy my mind is active, then the sudden realisation of reality hits 

[Rowan]

Mine is when I get slight BPPV, or when in OH is in hospital and the its brought on by stress.

[Taz2]

I get anxious when I'm with people - love to have the house to myself and can relax then. I even feel like that when with family. Sad but true.

Taz x

[Kathleen]

Hello Dulciana.
I don't have this myself but I know ladies who feel the same way so I'm sure hormones are to blame. Infact I am one of those women who prefer to be alone when feeling stressed, I think the 'ill at ease' sensation that comes with menopause is the real culprit, I certainly recognise the feeling of not knowing what to do with yourself and being tense and on edge. Hope you feel calmer soon, take care.  K.

[Galadriel]

You know I hadn't given it much thought till you posted this thread dulciana.
Thinking back over the past 6 months since I started working from home (empty)on Fridays, I guess I do. I work from home because it makes it easier for me to attend my acupuncture and psychology appointments (both are always Fridays).

Most of my biggest meltdowns have been while working from home in an empty house. It all starts off well, logging into the work system, first few overnight emails attended to and always a teleconference call with my global team. 

After that, it can go steadily down hill - tense shoulders, neck and jaw. Sometimes it even involves my tongue being jammed to the roof of my mouth so I have indentations from my teeth round the edge - hurts too
It doesn't make any difference how busy or quiet the workload is. What does stop it is if DH is working from home too. Just having him around de-stresses me.

Thank goodness I have weekly psychology late afternoon - she is great at unwinding me!

She's going to have her work cut out for her this week... DH is working from home but I shall worry about him when he goes for his job interview 

Galadriel x

[dulciana]

It's wierd, isn't it, the way these feelings can take over?  I often wonder if it's because I've always been a bit prone to get uptight.  The difference now is that there very often isn't an obvious reason for it, but I've a feeling I'm not alone!   It all seems to be bound up with nervous energy, too, because whenever I'm totally involved in something, it doesn't happen.   

[bev567901]

Dulciana I have been the same last year when I was really bad if my husband was working a certain distance away I would feel more anxious. Bit of separation anxiety I guess. I knew if I rang him to come home it would be a slippery slope so toughed it out luckily. Funny as at the time I couldn't bare anyone else. I ironed everything in sight, knitted you name it I had to keep busy. I was so acidy on the bad days too made all by myself stressing. I hope you are able to figure out the triggers & work on it, I am sure you will. B xx

[orrla]

Spot on Dulciana! Involved in something is the answer!

Popping out to a shop and watching tv is hardly any tiring work - try washing floors and see what happens?

& Compare that what you did today to when you were twenty, physically speaking. I bet it is 1/4 th, if not less.

We, humans, are built to move and tire otherwise we are up to no good, I'm afraid. Modernity with all its technological inventions makes us sick!

Sorry!

[dulciana]

Yes, but the round trip was a good half hour's brisk walk, so I did feel quite virtuous!   And I didn't mean watching TV was hard work - it's more that the flickering screen got to me and brought on the stress.  But yes, being involved in something is the answer.  Time to go and practise the organ - I've got a concert coming up and loads of stuff to practise.  Self-discipline's the thing!