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[CLKD]

My Psychologist once asked "Why do you think you are so important that everyone is looking at you?"

Have a quite time in a supermarket and watch others: how many are looking at you/people in general, most are checking money/kids/shopping trolleys/shelves  ........ I was phoned by a friend many years ago who complained that I had walked by her in the street  - I replied "Good job you didn't speak or touch me, I would have leapt sky high!"

Survival is selfish  even as I sit here my tummy is slightly anxious, I've eaten recently so that may be the reason ......... but it's my tummy not my head that's worried 

Yep, been through it - thought I would never step outside the front door ....... but now I can do certain things with DH that I would never have considered without medication   

The other thing people used to ask: "How do I tell family/friends that I am taking A. B. C.?" - my reply: "How often do you tell family/friends when you go to the loo for a bowel movement? Is it really anything to do with anyone other than you and your GP?" oh I'm so brazen, I used to worry what others would think .......... not any longer.  What you get is what you see 

[littleminnie]

Hi LindyLouLou
Know exactly how you are feeling, I was in the same place as you 3 years ago.
Your tests are fine, eyes are fine so now you know it's the menopause and nothing else.
I felt exactly the same as you, couldn't eat, sleep or go to work.  I didn't know how I was going to get through the next half an hour never mind the day, I felt dreadful.
I learnt a lot about myself at that time.   There are plenty of people on this forum that has been through this and felt as bad as you.  Do try and eat it does help. You will feel better.
LM x

[Kathleen]

Hello ladies.
I wanted to add that I'm in the same boat at the moment, I wish I knew the answer to this problem.
I am permanently on edge and it's exhausting, my moods range from angry to anxious to morose but always seem to by pass happy (huh!) or even calm and content, why is that? I also find that I react in an extreme way to everything, it's as if my emotional setting is turned up to maximum 24/7.

I know you ladies will understand and I'm so grateful for that as I think my family are fed up with me going on all the time.

Thanks for being there, I'm going to treat myself to a little cry later and hope it helps.

Many hugs and best wishes to you all.

K.

[Suzi Q]

Hello, sorry for starting another thread about this.  I just feel so bad.  I have read this forum for a long time and always found it so helpful.  Felt so good for quite a while too that I dipped out - now the anxiety is back with avengeance. 

I have health anxiety and suddenly with the news that my brother needs a triple heart by pass - I have plunged terribly.  Not sleeping, racing heart, worried about dying. So nauseaus, tearful.  I was feeling so good.

Sorry to sound so depressing. Just wanted to get it out by venting my feelings.
Lindy

\Hey LOU LOU
dont stress sweetie wana join my club hehehehehe
Im taking my beta blocs as Im skipping beats feel terrified daily it will go with the Blocas but last time it took 29 days before it went and Ive not had a periods since 1995 at 42
Early meno or what they now call Ovarian failure
YOU VENT as much as u like ur not alone OK XXXXXXXXXXX

[louie2]

Hi, You are definitely not alone.. anxiety is dreadful, I agree with the CBT counselling, I have just started it and feel it has helped somewhat, my doc wont give me anti depressants along with HRT x

[CLKD]

Louie2 - why wouldn't your GP prescribe ADs and HRT? maybe he/she would like to see how the CTB helps before prescribing because if you take too much of anything you won't know what is/not working 

[kerrieann]

clkd, please take this in the right way   i want to ask how did you get to the point where you dont mind what others think ? have you always been that way or did you work at it ?
I ask the question because i think alot of my anxiety is centered around what other people think, as someone else said in this thread, i always have to put on a happy face never wanting to show how i really feel, worrying that i am not looking as good as i should etc, which is so much harder as the years go by.
Hope you dont mind me asking, i admire your attitude to life from what i have seen of you on here 

[Mrs January]

Hey ladies

I too have had incredible anxiety.I take Citralopam 30 mgs and have for just over a year now, on top I take 30mgs of beta blockers for my hand tremor, good and not so good days with spilling food or handwriting..... But I am me and I am proud as you should be of who you are... We have meno to deal with and sometimes have to do it alone and manage work, children etc..

Love and hugs from me

Mrs January xxxx

[bev567901]

Lindy Lou Lou you sound very familiar the not sleeping, nausea, anxiety, crying...... I Hope your AD kicks in asap it may not take as long or have the same side effects with the increase. My AD helped such a lot after the anxiety undermined my foundations so to speak. I now have HRT patches which are the icing on the cake. I wish I had been given them a year earlier but its done now. Eat, do whatever it takes. You mention sleeping tablets, the ones I was given (zopiclone) gave me a roaring appetite within 15 mins of taking them I was in the fridge demanding all sorts of food I don't normally have like a pregnant lady. Luckily that has worn off now but it helped put some much needed weight back on & a whole field of chicken & pigs are alive today thanks to that (I am veggie so work that one out???) Plus pickled onions are now not trailing under the bed. 
I cannot believe I am no longer in that  state of 24/7 anxiety, I read my journal yesterday & it served to remind me that improvement is possible. You work in a school that in itself must throw a lot of problems up but I would guess there will be ladies of our age in all departments who may also confide similar to you. They might already recognise but not want to comment. Your not alone certainly & I am hoping that you are fast asleep as I type this. B x

[CLKD]

will start a new thread 

[leony]

OH went to see urologist today nothing wrong with his kidney just a bit of scar tissue on it don't know what from but its working fine but he has a build up of fluid in his man parts or a hydrocele said they can operate if it gets to big or painful but he says its fine it doesn't hurt so not to bother as there is a risk of infection or bleeding so stupid me worrying over nothing again as usual.

[dulciana]

There seem to be so many triggers for anxiety, don't there?  I was okay tonight until I put the telly on, then the fast talk, action, constantly-changing picture etc started me off.  I went and had a bath and stuck the radio on, but then the music was too fast and made me feel worse.  Now my fingers are tingling, there's a shhh sound in my ears, I've got a headache, my teeth hurt and I've got "anxious" breathing.  I've got a bottle of chamomile oil which I'm going to sniff, as that sometimes helps.  I just wish I could avoid these anxiety triggers, but they're part of life and I completely forget about them until something snaps again.  I don't want to take medication for this.  But anxiety does make me feel like a ridiculous meno-nutter in front of hubby and daughter.   Sigh!

[honeybun]

Not sure if you are on HRT or not but have you considered St John's Wort.
It's really good for anxiety.

I have made the choice to take it with HRT with the knowledge that it can reduce the efficiency. For me it's a worth while trade as I can't tolerate AD'S.


Honeyb
x

[CLKD]

Noise makes me irritable  especially if I am unable to stop it at source (i.e. cars travelling over the 30mph limit, lawn mowers going on and on and … )

[Wombat]

And husband snoring.....lathe biggest irritant of all....

Wombat x