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[mrsjacko]

Hi ladies a friend found this site for me as I am very much struggling to get advice about menopause I have spoke to two nurses and docs but seen to get no where I had to have a full hysterectomy on 30 July 2013 at the age of 25 I am on hrt I was put on tablet but as I forget to take my meds sometimes I was noticing and decided to try the patches I just wanted to find the hrt that suited me as I will have to be on it until I am 52. I am writing today to try and get some advice from ladies that have and are going through this as I have know one to explain and docs look at me like I'm crazy and say try herbal things but I need to understand how to best take care of myself I have started gym but hot flushes keep making me pass out is there anything I can try please please any advice is so valuable to me and my family as if I can't get my head around this lifestyle and mood swings I can not expect my 9 year old daughter or husband to understand

Thank you for taking the time to read this post

Mrs jacko

[honeybun]

 

It is so vitally important for you to take HRT at your age. I am very surprised your gynaecologist did not prescribe something for you.
A patch would be ideal. You can have ones that you change once or twice a week depending on what one you use. You don't need progesterone so in theory could use an oestrogen gel but that has to be applied every day.
If you have a look at the green meno on the left it can give you your options.
Print off and take it to the doctor.
I would recommend Evorel as it sticks really well.

You will soon start to feel better once you get this sorted. Don't be put off by your doctor's ignorance. Sometimes you just have to tell them what you want and then insist.

Honeyb
x

[Joyce]

So young. I was 10 years older when I had my hysterectomy. My GP gave me HRT. Tablets first, but later gel. Now patches called Estradot which also stick well.  You really should have HRT. Speak to your doctor again or maybe another doctor at your practice.

[mrsjacko]

Hi I was on tablets when came home from hospital but later changed over to the patches I spoke to a nurse and she said could be that my her isn't agreeing but doctors won't even look at changing me over again I find the patches was best for me but now panicky because of dizziness and just general lack of energy I just want to be able to be a normal 26 yr old but the embarrassment of the hot flushes and mood swings stops me doing a lot of things I'm not sure how to get my mind and body in a good place I'm trying positive thinking but the moods just change so quickly

Mrs jacko x

[Joyce]

Maybe a referral to hospital might help.

Husbands don't really understand, you could try printing off the Advice for Husbands on this site. My mum started menopause just a few years after I was born. She had a lot to contend with at that time of her life & to be honest I really wasn't aware of any changes in her behaviour at that time. In hindsight, yes. If you feel your daughter would understand what you're going through, try explaining in simple terms what is happening to you.

[CLKD]

Ask for a gynae referral back to the Consultant who did your surgery, or to a menu clinic - you may find details left of screen in the menus.

Explain to your family that you need help at the moment; around the house, in the kitchen, your daughter can keep her areas tidy; she is old enough to take on a few tasks too.  Have a buzz word with your husband so that he can point out to you when you are OTT 

[Ju Ju]

Also, reassure your children they are not responsible for any mood swings. They will cope as long as they have some understanding about is happening. 

[CLKD]

But they might be responsible! so need to know that Mum needs help …… and she doesn't need to be 'wound up'  …. some days I could cope with an issue which would throw me into a frenzy the next 

[Ju Ju]

I made this comment because I grew up with a mother who had mood swings and blamed me for making her angry. I was scared of her and scared of doing something wrong. Very damaging. I had PMS with mood swings, but made sure my children understood what was going and they were not responsible . That doesn't mean they had their moments, but discipline is more effective if done without anger, with love and sometimes with humour.

[mrsjacko]

Thank you so much ladies  do you use any herbal things ? I have been struggling and felt silly but my friend suggested here and I think it helps to get different points of view x 

[honeybun]

I really think that you have to get your HRT sorted out. It's the only way for you to feel normal and function properly. No herbal preparation will do that.
Pick your most sympathetic GP and request a referral to a meno clinic.
Alternatively you can email Dr Currie for a small fee. Details are on the home page.

Honeyb
x

[CLKD]

Oh Ju Ju how is it that parents can make their children feel responsible for nowt at all  ……..

Let us know how you get on!

[Ju Ju]

It gives me great pleasure to see my daughter and her partner bring up my little grandson in such a relaxed way and with absolute love.  He is such a happy child, loved by all who know him and happy to be himself.  What a wonderful start in life and what a good foundation. No growing up thinking he is not worthy or wanting in some way. No one putting conditions on their love. He doesn't need to misbehave to get attention. He is having the childhood experience that I wanted.

[paisley]

Hi just read your post and I don't think you are being looked after properly. Hrt wise. You are young and need a high oestrogen levels. If I was you I would go back to my GP and insist on a referral to Chelsea and Westminster Hospital and see Dr Panay who is an expert on menopause and especially early menopause. Don't get fobbed of as it is your right to be referred. You have your whole life ahead and should not suffer.