We all write lists, which has proved very successful. I asked for contributions towards an ipad shared between Christmas and my 60th in March. They clubbed together and bought it for Christmas. My daughter has just told me to ask for contributions towards the airfare to USA to see my son graduate his paramedic degree in May. This would be wonderful, as I had many tears through his childhood due to his severe dyslexia. He left school barely illiterate. I am so full of pride and admiration of what he is achieving.
My parents don't want much, so I put together a hamper, including alcohol. They are in their late 80s, growing old disgracefully, having been teetotal when I was a child! My lovely mum-in-law was the hardest one to buy for. She would give anything she didn't want back! One year, I found a large carved wooden cat. She loved it and now I have it as a reminder of her. She made it very clear she loved me.