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[CLKD]

I enjoyed clearing out after Dad died - Mum is already given stuff away ……… but it will be interesting to see what memories appear eventually 

[honeybun]

My mothers house is pretty full of...stuff.... It would take an age to clear. Don't think we will be doing that any time soon. I have decided my mother is a force of nature and will be there forever   . Both her and her sister have problems but are as tough as old boots really. Must be in the genes.

Sister is not speaking to me it would seem. She let herself be wound up by mother and then flew at me. Eventually I told her it was none of her business what I did so now she is in a massive huff. She is a control freak and is not used to any opposition at all so that did not go down well. Her choice and as I won't be calling her this could go on for a while. Peace perfect peace.


Honeyb
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[CLKD]

  ……….. let your sister stew?  Will you still be visiting your Mum on 'your' days and what will stop you  ……. isn't a little bit of you curious to know what pushed her buttons this time 

Trouble is with mine: she will tell me that she speaks to my sister in a way that makes me think she has rung, but my sister then tells me 'Mum never rings'; then Mum will tell me that my sister only rings when she knows Mum [which is most days] is out so that 'I have to ring her back' - NOPE Mum you don't  ………  my sister works shifts so probably rings when she is on days off ……….

[honeybun]

Oh I do know CLKD......mince 



Honeyb
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[Dulciana]

My Mum used to iron absolutely everything - but not very well - right down to hankies, pants and socks.  It's made me go completely the other way - my poor Hubby has to beg me to iron a shirt and trousers to out in, in the morning!   

[CLKD]

Can't Hubby iron  ……….

Mince  - never the big issues is it 

[Dulciana]

Can't Hubby iron  ……….

Nope.  Can't/won't, CLKD.

[CLKD]

Bit like me then  …….. I only iron absolutely necessary trousers that have hung over hangers for too long. 

[bramble]

Does anyone know this poem? It is so true of my life.

This Be The Verse by Philip Larkin

They **** you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were ****ed up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.

Bramble

[honeybun]

Had kids bramble and doing my utmost to make sure I don't make the same mistakes. Think I'm doing ok up until now.

My mother was the queen of manipulation for so many years. It was all in her favour of course. Now she has memory issues and she can't remember what she says and to whom. It causes all sort of problems between me and my sister as mother sits back like one of Macbeths witches and stirs as hard as she can.

No worries.....it's Sunday tomorrow and sis will be doing a reading in the church. She will be full of churchy feelings and full of forgiveness and will phone me as soon as she gets home to apologise for being an a##.
Some hope  ......

It's mothers big wash day tomorrow. I have told her to put the machine on in the hope I will be there. It's freezing hard and there has been no sign of a gritter here. I am at the top of two very steep hills. Hubby won't let me drive if he thinks I may prang the car.
Hope my sisters churchy feelings are in still in place when she has to deal with the washing if I can't get there 

The very bad bit of me hopes I am well and truly stuck in the morning hee hee.


Honeyb
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[Limpy]

I am at the top of two very steep hills. Hubby won't let me drive if he thinks I may prang the car.

Honeyb - I'me sure he's worried about you pranging yourself - not the car.

[honeybun]

Umm, possibly although the two hills are very close to the house.

I drive out of our street and then drive for about 100 meters then turn down a 1/20 hill for another 50 meters. Then another turn and it gets even steeper and that road meets the main road.
It was a bit scary today as we ended up facing the wrong way as the wheels locked and we drifted. I shut my eyes to be honest. If you hit the main road at the wrong moment 

Mother won't get that bit at all.

Hubby drives to get the papers on a Sunday so I will just have to wait and see what he says. He has had to leave the car parked at the bottom of the first hill, along with all the neighbours  ....and walk home.

Hey ho sure sis will be more than happy to help 


Honeyb
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[Limpy]

The thing is Honeyb if there is ice on the roads you can't take the car - just too dangerous

[honeybun]

That's exactly what I am thinking Limpy.

All joking aside, it's a sheet of ice out there tonight. My daughter has gone out but her boy friend came to collect her and he has a four wheel drive. He said the hills up here were a bit iffy. Maybe that's mechanics speak for slippy. He wouldn't let my daughter drive....he will bring her home later tomorrow and told me he will take her to work tomorrow evening.

Now, do I think my mother will care....now let me think....thinking hard.....um nope. She would encourage me to walk. 15 miles 


Honeyb
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[Dulciana]

Does anyone know this poem? It is so true of my life.

This Be The Verse by Philip Larkin

They **** you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were ****ed up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.

Bramble

Dear, oh dear -  speak for yourself, Mr. Larkin!