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[Spangles]

 Hi ladies

Well here I am on a long awaited spa break with my other half. Sounds amazing but all I want to do is go home. I woke at 4.30 Thai morning and have lay here pondering ever since not good i know.

I thought the break would lift me but its done the opposite. We arrived at the hotel which seriously resembles a crematorium, complete with brick pillars along a covered walk way and a memorial garden!!

Putting this aside we decided to hit the spa..................chilling in the steam room and all of a sudden the door burst open in in walked a group of 8-10yr olds!!! Oh yes I'd gone down at family time!

Seriously not the experience I was hoping for but he ho, make the most of it and all that.

This morning I have woke up with terrible anxiety and diarrhoea but also felt a little nauseous, automatically I put it down to my anxiety and depression followed by menopause.

Am I expecting too much or is this how it is when you are menopausal?

Thanks

Shellb
xXx

[Maggies]

Hi Shellb.

So sorry hun to hear how you feel this morning. Maybe take it a step at a time, insomnia,anxiety,nausea are all things that I have experienced in this  journey......but not of them will hurt us it is a feeling or symptom of the time in our life.....what other things are on offer for you today? a nice walk, a massage maybe, or having your nails done? just thoughts hun but enjoy the time with your OH too who wants to help you on this break away and journey in life......love and hugs Lyn

[mags]

Hi Shelb,  so sorry to hear you aren't feeling good, I know exactly how you feel,  I have been on so many holidays where I have felt anxious, sick and panicky and just wanted to come home.  The most recent one was this Sept when we went to Bulgaria and I spent most of the time in the apartment crying,  this was after several agonizing weeks of wondering whether to go or not, on the day we went I was ok but once we got there all went downhill     I am post meno and anxiety and bad depression has been my worst symptoms,    I hope that you can manage to do a few nice things,  as Lyn said,
maybe a massage to relax you a bit?    Are you taking anything for your symptoms ?   

Really hope things improve for you and you manage to enjoy things a bit,   Lots of Love and hugs, Mags

[Spangles]

Thank you Lyn

It's good to know I'm not alone in this although I feel it sometimes. I have booked to get my nails done later and mabe some sleep catch up!
I'm so tearful today and have no reason to be, al I can think of is hormones.
I'm now 4 months without a period again so my doc changed my HRT regime, she said the absence of them was probably because the meno is really kicking in now, well I just hope thats what it is and that it will hurry up and do one!

Thanks again
Shellb
xXx

[Taz2]

So sorry to read that you are not enjoying your break Shelb. Listen to you body at the moment and do what you feel best. I gave up a lot of things which caused me anxiety. Some may see that as "giving in" but I saw it as actually doing what was right for me at that time of my life. It's not always great for your partner but hopefully you have got an understanding one.

Which type of HRT are you taking?

Taz x

[Spangles]

Thank you Mags and Taz

I am taking citalopram 30mg daily and I have been on various HRT for 18months. Currently I am using evorel 50 for 3months with 5mg of norethisterone for the last two weeks Although I have only just started the regime the oestrogen is the same so I am where I would usually be on the sequi. It's so confusing as I don't know what is my real anxiety and depression and what is my meno anxiety and depression. Some days I think I just going mad!
I'm really hoping there is light at the end of the tunnel and that it doesn't stay like this for too long.

Thanks again
Shellb
xXx

[Taz2]

Be kind to yourself Shelb. Your doctor seems to have tailored your HRT regime individually which is good - mine would just have put me on to the Evorel Sequi patches. Have you had norethisterone before? This is one of the progesterones which can give anxiety and low mood so watch out for that even though you will seem to be on a lower dose than that in the patches.

Of course there are also lots of bugs going round at the minute - especially ones affecting the tummy - so it could be that you are not well anyway and it is nothing to do with hormones. It is always so difficult to know.

Taz x 

[groundhog]

Hi Shellb - sorry to hear you are feeling like this.  I get very anxious when out of my comfort zone and it's horrible when all you want to do is come home.  Glad to hear you are having nails done - maybe do some other things just for you and your OH of course.  Some spas do lack atmosphere but maybe if you have a little sleep and try again you will feel better.  I am on citalopran and some days I feel as if I am going under but other days I'm ok.  It's a rocky road isn't it.  I can't take HRT owing to history of endometriosis but I am on vagifem .  I hate feeling like this too and it's a struggle - hope you manage to lift your spirits a bit and have a nice break x

[CLKD]

I hate the struggle that anxiety causes  .. I have spent many holidays wanting to come home, so that I know if I've enjoyed myself or not but never the opportunity of trying it out first ......... so wish the time away so that I get home before panic sets in 

Half a day at a time?

[sweettooth]

Hi Shell, know exactly what you mean, i used to feel even worse if i had went away because you feel extra pressure to feel 'good'! it will get better shell but at present just try to relax and dont beat yourself up x

[Spangles]

Hi Ladies

Thank you all for your kind words, it makes me feel better to know I'm not alone and any different with this whole menopause thing.
I got my nails done and then smudged them! Never mind it's really not important. Just having a relax now so we'll see what tomorrow brings, a better morning than today hopefully.

Thanks and hugs
Shellb
xXx

[honeybun]

Just much happier at home probably being a bit anti social.

I did enjoy my holiday last year but I had huge moments which was horrible. Still planning to get away next year although I suspect it will be a struggle.


Honeyb
x

[Spangles]

I think we should have 'menopause' holidays where we can all go, at least we will understand each other!

xXx

[Taz2]

I have my own menopause holiday - on my own. It works a treat!

Taz x

[CLKD]

So do I Taz, at least DH and I holiday together alone