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[mags]

Hi Bev, didn't realize the girl was a dog, silly me :     I am sure you will be ok when those people come round,  perhaps if you did tell them beforehand just how bad you have felt then it may help them to understand even more.  I agree that being honest is good as it does take off some of the pressure. I think you are doing really well to be able to even consider having people round, that just shows how much you have improved    I certainly couldn't do that right now.  Will your hubby be around to help out when they come?
Our Christmas tree isn't up yet but will have to do it soon,  I am still lacking in motivation so will have to leave it up to hubby and daughter I think    Good luck with the new girlxx

[mags]

Hi Clkd,  how are you feeling today, saw on another thread that you hadn't been feeling good, here's a  for youxx

[JJ]

Your welcome mags, I know how you feel, as been there. The feeling that its never going to go is horrible. Remember, I'm much better now, have occasional blips but they just come and go. I'm looking forward to christmas, can manage social events and look forward to most, still get hot flushes but I can cope with them, some nights I don't  sleep great but I don't stress out over it now. Menopause can be a difficult time, I never in my wildest dreams thought it could be so blooming awful but I'm definitely able to cope now. You will too x

[mags]

Thanks JJ,   and glad that you are now so much better, what antidepressants were you on?  xx

[JJ]

I'm still on them, I'm on a trycyclic anti depressant , I tried an ssri but it didn't agree with me. All the anti depressants do the same thing they just have different side effect profiles, the ssri generation are more widely prescribed. There are lots of different types in each class so if one doesn't suit lots of other options. I struggled deciding on whether to go on hrt or an anti depressant , hard to make decisions when your felling really rough! But I tried the anti depressant and I've not regretted that decision,I have the option of hrt if I want it. They are NOT a magic happy pill, not for me anyway, they just slowly helped me to feel better which enabled me to get back on track.

Anxiety and depression seems to be a common problem in peri menopause/menopause so logically as that was my worst symptom I felt the anti depressant would target the serotonin deficiency. I've never taken anti depressants before, I did have a bout of post natal depression after one of my children was born, over 20 years ago, but that was short lived and passed pretty quickly. Try not to feel guilty about not feeling well, and remember you are not alone as lots of ladies have difficult time in menopause.

[CLKD]

   Mags.  Never good at this timeof year <sigh> so it's a bit of a struggle. 

[bev567901]

Hi Mags,
How are you today?  It has been so warm hasn't it very unseasonable but welcome!

Sorry to confuse you I would normally refer to a girl staying or visiting as a bitch but didn't like to here in case it upsets.

It looks like we have Christmas smileys, not good if you want to avoid Christmas ha ha. Can't get away from it now can we, are you shouting at the telly like me. I have given in to it now sort of but can feel my hackles up a bit when I don't feel well. The rest of the time it is divine. I have been lighting lots of candles recently, a sort of on fire diazepam replacement xxxx

[CLKD]

They have only appeared in the last 10 mins  - too early 

[mags]

Hi CLKD-   It Is a bad time of year isn't it,  especially when it is in your face all the time,  hoping you feel a bit better soonxx

[mags]

Hi Bev,   not feeling good again but hey ho!   Christmas adverts certainly don't help when you're feeling low   Glad the candles are helping to calm you a bit, that's a good idea,    Don't worry about confusing me, It doesn't take much with my frazzled meno brain xx

[mags]

Thanks for that JJXX

[Kathleen]

Hello mags just wanted to add my support and say I know how rough this ride can be. I think we are the same age, 57 and until my periods stopped three years ago I didn't think menopause was such a big deal. I know better now of course.
Take care, you are most certainly not alone.
K.

[mags]

Hi Kathleen and thanks for your kind words,   how are you feeling at the moment?    Big hugs, Love Magsxx

[Kathleen]

Hello mags and thanks for asking.
At the moment my big problems are anxiety surges, probably too much adrenaline and lots of palpitations. Oddly enough until recently the accompanying sweating was a problem but that seems to have gone. I can get out shopping but I am very nervous around people often even my own family, it's as if I've become scared of people.
I have had other phases in the past and some such as daily headaches lasted six months but have never returned. I wonder if as our bodies adapt to decreased hormones we sort of go through the gears of changes, a bit like childbirth where one stage of labour  moves on to another before you reach the big finish.
One thing is for sure, menopause is not for the faint-hearted.
Take care and wishing you well.
K. 

[mags]

Hi Kathleen, sorry to hear that you aren't  feeling good,   you do sound a lot like me,  I too seem  to be scared of people  and my own family.   I have the adrenaline surges before a hot flush and awful anxiety and lowness.   This meno thing is  just awful and does I think go through different stages, I just wish it would all stop.  You Take care too, Love Magsxx