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[Gafias]

I've found the mental symptoms a lot worse than the physical ones. 
At present I seem to be going through a very emotional phase.  I react out of all proportion to what I see and hear.  I'm trying to avoid the news at the moment as if I see something upsetting I can't get it out of my head, if it makes me angry I'm absolutely enraged.  And, when I'm outside the house, there's something round every corner to set me off.

Anyone else had experience of this?  I'm sick of it (as is my family) and I just want this whole thing to be finished.  (Rant over!)

[Lovely]

My sympathies - and I am similar though sadness seems my main thing. And shame. Nothing to be ashamed of really - just normal human stuff - but overwhelms me sometimes. Do you think we'll grow out of it?

[Suzi Q]

i AGREE i look back now and realise reading posts on here just how bad i was
my last period was 17 years ago on he 24th august
i still get over whelmig periods of sadness oddly enough on Saturdays? go figure?

[Meg]

Dear Gafias

Feel pretty much the same way.  Have avoided the news for several months now and I used to keep up to date with it but now it just goes over and over in my mind so I dont read it or listen on the radio at present.  I think that the over-reacting is very common to menopause but as you say it is very difficult when you used to have more of a sense of proportion but it is all down to hormones.

Meg

[Kathleen]

Hello Gafias.
I know how you feel, I am permanently irritable and angry inside and, like you, the slightest thing sets me off. I'm like a bear with a sore head, especially in the mornings. I wish I had a solution as I'm sick of feeling this way.
My son tells me that when he and his friends were aboout 13/14 they would talk about how they'd wake up a in a rage every morning and were horrible to their mums, they are all 21 now and lovely lads. If their hormones can settle down I suppose ours will too. Here's hoping!
K.

[Weejeannie]

Hi Gafias

My empathies and sympathies.

Could have written your post myself.

I seem to take this out on my poor partner. One of his main traits is to stick his head in the sand over important matters, then they come back and bite him on the bum. Usually this ends up costing him money. I let it build up then explode because of the way he deals with stuff, I then drag up everything, start crying and go into a depression.

The sadness is difficult to deal with, I want to be a happy person, but in general I am not at the moment.

We can only hope that this too will pass (hope it's soon)

WJ x

[Lovely]

One thing that helps, specially with the anger, is running. Running nearly every morning now for 50 mins, not very fast but on lovely local green treesy park with people with dogs who say "morning" but don't expect a conversation!  Sure I would be worse without this.

[Delilah]

Hi everyone

I completely empathise with how your all feeling. I wrote recently about blowing everything out of proportion and a lot of ladies here on the forum knew exactly what i meant.

I've gone from finding adverts and news really hard to watch as i felt so sad about everything, to worrying myself sick about my children and hubby and imagining all sorts of things happening to them - at one point i had to watch my youngest (18)  walk all the way to the end of the road every morning because i couldn't just shut the door when he went out incase something happened to him - totally irrational but i couldn't stop myself.

I've wondered if hubby might be having an affair because he's not particularly attentive for a couple of days. When i've spoken to him, he's just up to his neck with work and tired out. Why didn't i realise that, i would have before all this meno stuff started.

It really is a tough time and i hope and pray like all you ladies out there who are having a bad time too that this will come to an end and the old me reappears.

You're not alone.

Delilah x

[CLKD]

   have you tried eating through the day i.e. grazing.  If you think: a toddler gets irritable when hungry ...........

[Ju Ju]

I avoid the news. So many awful things are going on. I can't do anything about it. But I can influence things nearer to home just by being kind, listening to people if they want to talk to me.

[Meg]

well said Ju Ju.  Sometimes things seem so awful but in small ways we can all make a postive contribution.

Meg