Hi Annie, yes I am a life coach and it's really interesting how you can help people. You are completely right about primary and secondary emotions and if you read about Emotion Focused Therapy, it explains all that. Someone can react in anger to a situation but the 'real' emotion is fear. We all need to have 'meaning' in our lives and to make sense of bad times. If I didn't have these awful symptoms, I'd never have joined this forum and started getting to know all these great women! I believe that when it all seems to have gone to pot, something good comes out of it. It just depends on how you approach life, in fear or curiosity. I am going to doctor today to see if this really is cystitis and have appointment at meno clinic next week. I am determined to not just sit down and cry, which is what I feel like doing! I'll meet a friend and have a chat and thank God or whoever, for the fact that I have a friend! I also have beautiful kids, two of whom are coming to visit, with their partners, soon. I love my dog and she loves me, so that's good enough for me at the moment! Keep thinking positive, Annie and so will I!
I will surly cheer you on to your path, Rose! I learned something new yesterday that was rather interesting from a herbal clinician. She explained that when women go through prei and menopause and their estrogen and progesterone decreases they also lose amounts of dopamine which plays such a huge role in our "happy receptors" in our brain function. She advised me to go on what is called DLPA which is a natural dopamine that works asap. I took it today and OMG I feel like I USE to feel before menopause. I have a grip on myself todaay, I am not an emotional basketcase, I feel balanced more than I have in over 2 years. YAY for dopamine! ha!!
Instead of the hundreds of thousands of women who are getting prescribed Zoloft and Prozac and whatever else the pharmaceuticals are tossing at us that in most cases are not touching a darn thing except reducing MORE dopamine in our systems because they are sarotinin, which also depletes dopamine from us, we are spiraling downward and not upward. I learned a ton and when I got home I researched and she was absolutely right!
I am pulling my dopaime levels back up where they should be and I am on my way from menopause effect recovery! I don't know if it is going to help me save my relationship at this point, but honestly, what matters is my well being, my quality of life. I can handle ANYTHING as long as I have have that inner connection to ME and what I need and want to be in this life!
I saw my therapist today and she is amazed at how in just a week ( day one I was about to toss in the towel on my life, as I didn't see any point) and today, where I am ready to take on anything that comes my way, because, I AM WORTH IT!
I had a nice long meditation this morning which opened up a channel to what I had been missing, my inner most connection to all energy. Wow I missed that for the last couple of years! It felt so wonderful to not only "feel" but to "remember" how amazing it is to know that we are so connected to everything. I had a GREAT self hug and knew that I was not alone while giving my spirit a warm loving well deserved hug!
People are wonderful to have around us when we most need them, family, friends and those whom we may never meet in person, Yet, knowing that you have yourself and the love of all things with you even when you can't feel or think you can reach out to it, is just euphoric! My Therapist said to me today she is delighted to see my quick transition and that is is truly from the heart. I had no choice ( well I did, there were other options, self pity, furthered lack of self esteem, and the list goes on). Something kicked in with me and I DID pull my boot straps up by the handle and secured them tightly.
I will be sending you and SO many other women out there this wonderful energy in thought so that you and the others can chime in and find your own self love and find that amazing happy place again, even better than what you have ever known it before! My love is out to you all and still loving me!
Annie