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[renee]

Hi everyone,

I am in absolute awe of this Menopause!!! I absolutely cannot believe how thousands of women are left to feel this awful! I'm flabbergasted as to why more isn't done to help a population of women who go through a really life changing menopause.

I am 47 and have been told my dose of 1mg Climagest is no longer working and I have been increased to 2mg. I have tried alot of remedies etc for this Menopause but it rears its ugly head and Im defeated again!!! Back to square one of sleeping round the clock, forgetting my name and all the other 30 symptoms. I feel Im just left to my own devices, Iv been told there's no Meno clinic now where I live. Sometimes it can make you feel so alone.

Renee xxxx

[Joyce]

Aw you are not alone in your thoughts. Re meno clinic, keep asking. I had to push for ages before one GP eventually said there was one at our local hospital.

[Taz2]

Welcome to the forum 

How long have you been taking the 2mg for? It can take a while to kick in properly.

Taz 

[renee]

Thanks Taz and Cubagirl, I will ask again at my next Doc app about Meno clinic at my nearest Hospital... There must be one!!!

I have just started the 2mg Climagest today, been in 1mg for 7 months.

It's really good to be able to actually speak to people who understand!

Renee. Xxx

[honeybun]

If you click the link "find a specialist" at the top of the page then you will see what's available in your area.
Mine is 40 miles away. There used to be one at our local hospital but it's been closed down.

We are not important enough to warrant local services.


Honeyb
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[renee]

Thanks HoneyB, I will have a look.

Renee xx

[JeanneA]

Hi Renee, I totally get where you are coming from, I am going through the same symptoms of this horrible menopause as you are and I'm many other women also.

I have sent you a P.M.

Take care.

[Suzi Q]

welcome sweetie
it will pass xxx

[lesley998]

Amen Suzi...it WILL pass. But you still have to get through it.

God alone knows how women did this journey in the past.  They were probably dunked or burned as witches. At least we have some idea WHY one day we literally wake up and feel like we have gone mad.  If it's not physical, it's mental.  Sore back.  Aching hips.  Blood - either flooding, or not there.  Sweats. Tears. Depression. Manic laughter.  Hair loss. Nightmares. Insomnia. Constipation. Dried up.

And yet we still have to do all the things we did before.  I have learned to NEVER underestimate the power of the simple hormone.

Hang in there. 

[Night_Owl]

Maybe call me bitter, but I will never understand how some women can "sail through" meno with hardly any noticeable symptoms, they stay the same and just age slowly and gently.  This is the case with many women I've met/know.  "Oh, I didn't have any of that" they say.

How on earth can that be when I've turned into a shadow of my former self,  totally transformed in a vile way from the top to toe, inside and out, brain function, hair loss, etc etc, the full works.

And all this cr@p started at age 44.

I will never function as I used to before - but others are sailing along the same - ie. still able to work full time in demanding jobs, still sleep 8 hours a night, as they always have ...

And yes, we all have to get accustomed to old age and 'get over' waiting to go back to who we used to be cos it's not gonna happen - but feeling so old and ill at 50 and still having to function in our roles in life and the modern world, is very difficult.

Night_Owl
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[Taz2]

I guess it's the same for people who discover they have a terminal illness and yet all their friends are still fit and healthy. There are no plausible reasons as to why it happens to some women and not others. I have a 64 year old friend who has "sailed through" meno but she is plagued with aches and pains, her hair is thinning and her sex life has dwindled to nothing. When questioned she just said "Oh that - well that's just part of getting older isn't it - to be expected". In effect she is not "sailing through" but just seems better able to cope with the changes and adapt to them.

How old are these friends who are still exactly as they were before they went through meno? Maybe they are late meno starters? They could still be afflicted at a later date when you are out the other side and feeling much better 

Taz x

[honeybun]

I think a lot of women hide how bad they feel. It's still a bit of a taboo subject for some.
I remember being in a group of about ten women who were ranging in age from mid fifties up to late sixties. This was in my pre HRT days. I had a full blown dripping going red in the face flush. I was busy fanning myself and T shirt flapping trying to cool down and announced I hated this meno thing. You could have heard a pin drop. Not one woman answered me. I was really embarrassed and vowed then never to bring up the subject again.

A lot is hidden.


Honeyb
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[Night_Owl]

The women I'm referring to are 50s/60s, one is in her 70s, says she never had sweats.

A lot of women seem to be competitive and don't like to admit to weakness and meno with all its hideous symptoms = weakness.  But how on earth do they hide it.  You only have to look at my face to see I haven't had one unbroken night's sleep in c.6 years.

But I have detected a certain 'I'm made of better stuff than you / have more backbone' snooty type attitude from some women.

Think I'll go along with Honeybun's view and never mention the subject, only on here.

If I didn't read these boards and other women's experiences, I would still think (even though meno is obviously not new to me and I'm quite a few years post-m) that I'm a total freak with a sick body.

When somebody innocently says along the lines of - 'oh I had a really bad night's sleep last night, I feel rotten today', ie. just the one.

Me - want to scream: how about having 2,190 consecutive - and counting - bad nights' sleep.  See, I've turned into an unreasonable nutcase, I know, I know!


Night_Owl
x

[Taz2]

You can also get a slightly warped view of meno and think that everyone goes through a bad time by reading all the posts on a forum such as this - women who don't get symptoms (and there are many women who do have an easy time of meno) never consult a forum such as this one because they don't need the fantastic support it offers. 

I think that we can all be guilty of feeling stronger than others if we have never experienced the symptoms of a particular condition. I remember feeling that people who didn't want to breastfeed their babies were awful.. until I tried it .. hated it and gave up really quickly. A friend who had older children and hadn't managed to breast feed did tell me afterwards that at last I would realise what it felt like and stop nattering on about how great it was to breast feed. I did feel quite ashamed that I had come across as "holier than thou" in the pregnancy months!!  Maybe women who have had a good meno just can't understand how it can affect others - especially if they have never had to read up on all the negative symptoms?

Taz x

[renee]

Sounds like your all as fed up and angry as me!! Our menopause experience has literally changed our lives... Mine for the worst. To be honest I feel bitter and absolutely at the end of my tether having to deal with this so called ' natural change' every day!!!

I was an energetic, outgoing, healthy women before this came along in my early 40's, my kids were grown and now it was time for me....so Iv read in many magazines and books!!!


Now Im anxious, exhausted, dried out, bloated and miserable living this existence of a menopausal life and that's the truth of it and probably how most women who go through a bad menopause really feel

Think Iv said my peace.... Haha.


Renee xx