Hello everyone.
I am just back from three weeks in my sisters house, helping with my 21 year old nephew. The internet connection was not great and I only had my phone and nephews old laptop to go onto the internet, so could not really give the full picture. I think I just needed to blaaaah it all out so 'someone' even if you are all in cyberspace! Funny how we deal with things. Forums, and friends, have been a great comfort to me over the last few years.
The thing is, we do not have my sisters body. She threw herself from a road bridge, and has yet to be recovered - if she ever will. The bridge is at an estuary with strange tides and currents, and she literally could be anywhere. So we have no closure, no funeral. The legal and practical issues are an absolute nightmare - do not know where to start. Lawyers fees are 200 per hour. Then there is the matter of her husband who has secondary progressive MS, and has been cared for at home with local authority help, but is currently in emergency respite. Do not know where the funds are coming from for all of this, and without a body, the situation is just so complex..we are in limbo. There is accepted presumption of death due to things left behind...but in Scotland the law is seven years before can be legally accepted.
It is all such a mess.
Hug your loved ones close
Lesley x