My mother would not hear the loud noise that the phone makes when it's off the hook and even if she did here it she wouldn't have a clue what it was
If they refuse help then there is nothing you can do. My mother need more help than she currently gets.....a carer morning and evening....but she refuses....so she just has to struggle on because my sister and I simply can't do anymore than we do.
I have told my sister that I will not do overnight stays now....not at any point so mother would have to pay for overnight care if she needed it. Mother also knows this.
I do what I can but I know it's taking its toll on my health but I will carry on as long as I am able. Can't say fairer than that.
I would echo what CLKD says though. Don't take anything on that you are not prepared to do long term.....that's what's happened to me and once you start it it's impossible to step away.
Honeyb
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