I understand more than most about being independent, but I have tried for at least the last year to repeatedly give them MY example of who and how, I have help in MY home.
Shopping delivered/hairdresser/cleaner/foot lady/pharmacy delivery ...etc.
So its not as if I am asking them to consider anything that I am not ALREADY DOING???
I keep getting told .."we'll we will wait till this crisis is over / that Hospital Appt is done then we'll consider it".
Dad says he wants help in, but Mother is the Block.
It doesn't help that I am estranged from most of my family, I love my parents but I admit I don't like them very much.
I am seen as the Black Sheep of the Family. There is a lot of OLD baggage attatched to this ... but I still keep in touch and still try to be helpful/cheerful etc.
Which I think is DUTY and Guilt all mixed up together. When they do eventually go ...it will be MY fault ...as far as the rest of them are concerned.
I am ready for that, and accept it. ....But Still ....