No, Dad just isn't a big talker. He's introverted. He is more comfortable in the background. All my memories of him are of him sitting approvingly watching, but not participating in family life. I don't remember him playing with us or disciplining. He was always approachable, but you had to do the approaching. My kids would climb on him, but he wouldn't invite them; they instinctively knew he loves them. When Mum was so ill, he did ring and talk. Mum says he got a lot of solace from talking to me. Their marriage works, but I have had to step in and tell him to get the doctor in when Mums ill and that she doesn't know what she needs when she is ill, so not to listen to her. He sounds a walk over, but there's a lot going on there. When he worked he was a 'boffin' -scientist.
I rang last night and Mum is getting better. She hasn't had a UTI. She says things were different this time. She had all the hives come up all over her body, as before, which are now subsiding. Her blood pressure is up and down and she collapsed the other night. The doctor thought one of the concoction of drugs could be responsible, but if so which one and why would she be ok some of the time. It's not clear what has been wrong with her. Sadly this has put her back. Dad had been able to take her out for a few gentle trips. She even managed to get to us to celebrate Dad's 90th birthday. We live an hours drive away.