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[CLKD]

Saw it  - get into that car, Oban can be lovely on a fine day.  Lots of magazines packed?

PennyF ........ I would be pulling the 'I don't feel too well after being in the bathroom for 2 days' trick  ....... after all you don't want to spread 'it' around the local town    If your Mum is tireder than usual then her GP needs to do blood works.  Maybe though she isn't sleeping as heavily in the night?

[Pennyfarthing]

Thanks CLKD.   She has recently been put on co-codamol for her aches and pains and my hubby has those and he reckons they almost knock him out so he doesn't very often take them.  I did mention this to her when she started on them but it went in one ear and out the other.

We had an hour on the market, about half hour in a small supermarket getting her groceries and then we drove back as there was a Farmers Mkt/Craft Fayre on near where she lives.  She never once said she was tired.  When we got to the Farmers Market several people she knew were there and she was talking away for ages.  I went the whole way round and she was still talking.  ;DWe had a coffee and a chat with someone else and then I said we'd better be going and she almost fell in my car and was saying "I am SO tired, just get me to bed."  I pulled her leg and reminded her that 5mins earlier I'd been waiting for her as she was talking the hind legs off a donkey.  "Oh" she said "I'm fine when I'm talking but then the tiredness hits me."  She always has an answer, my Mum. 

[CLKD]

Perhaps she is bored  so too much time to dwell on how she feels 

At least you got out and about ...... do you feel better today?

[CLKD]

I was talking with a lad I know last week.  He has his elderly dad to stay with him currently following a fall.  His dad lives 200+ miles away from here.

When Social Services attended his dad before the fall   - without any of the family being made aware  of the impending visit - he was asked what would help his daily needs.  He was given a list and kept telling SS, my son does that for me, my relatives can do that, my neighbours help with ........ well his neighbours are very elderly and infirm and they haven't spoken for over 3 years; the relatives live in one direction about 1 hour away and his son is workign part time ....... why won't SS contact relatives to find out the EXACT situation    all this talk of allowing the 'client' to be in control of their needs isn't helping anyone 

[valiantkate]

Hmm, sounds all too familiar. Our son has severe learning difficulties and now lives in supported accomodation- not too far away so we can be involved with his life and he can come home whenever he wishes. He does have a few 'issues' should we say with his behaviour, as parents we like to be involved and to support the team supporting him. We had a meeting  with the SS and were told to 'back off'. so he sleeps in until goodness knows what times- he wears dreadful  clothes, the swimming trunks (lime green) and black socks and formal shoes and t shirt well, we were horrified when he arrived home the other week wearing that get up.
we feel that we have no support from the SS now and have no one we can turn to for advice. Honest- its the service users choice- so if he wants to lie down on the M25 thats his choice!
Sorry ladies- having a rant here, phew feel better now! 

[CLKD]

Yep - how ever un-able a person is SS usually take their viewpoint rather than the relatives  .... something about 'dignity'.  However, if a person doesn't get advice: and that applies to any of us : about how we look and what we are wearing    .........

[honeybun]

My elderly was in a mood tonight. Cut the conversation very short. Just did not have the energy to listen.

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[CLKD]

Good for you, you're learning  ..........    let it go, she will have forgotten by morning.  If she hasn't, quietly say 'that was yesterday, I'm now dealing with this morning ........ ' 

[honeybun]

 


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[CLKD]

Any fall-out this morning Honeybun?

[honeybun]

No falling out. I called as usual and it was never mentioned. I refuse to be drawn in any more and its working quite well. Difficult to strop without an audience.

 


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[Pennyfarthing]

Hmm, sounds all too familiar. Our son has severe learning difficulties and now lives in supported accomodation- not too far away so we can be involved with his life and he can come home whenever he wishes. He does have a few 'issues' should we say with his behaviour, as parents we like to be involved and to support the team supporting him. We had a meeting  with the SS and were told to 'back off'. so he sleeps in until goodness knows what times- he wears dreadful  clothes, the swimming trunks (lime green) and black socks and formal shoes and t shirt well, we were horrified when he arrived home the other week wearing that get up.
we feel that we have no support from the SS now and have no one we can turn to for advice. Honest- its the service users choice- so if he wants to lie down on the M25 thats his choice!
Sorry ladies- having a rant here, phew feel better now! 

Until recently my friend worked as a carer for a lady with quite severe learning difficulties. She lives in her own rented home but has a day carer and one at night.  She has a car which they take her out in and she loves socialising and day trips out.  She has come on in leaps and bounds since my friend worked for her for 2.5 years.

A supervisor came round and made lots of negative comments about the way they were looking after her.  One example she loved going round the charity shops and buying clothes because all the staff would spend time chatting to her.  My friend used to make sure the stuff she bought was nice quality.  The supervisor said she didn't approve.  Other things were brought up and my friend decided she had had enough and quit. The night carer carried on and she brought the lady for a ride out to have afternoon tea at my friends house and she was told this had to stop.  The night carer then left too.

New carers were found and they don't drive so the lady is now in her house 24/7 watching tv.  How can that be better?  She misses all her nice ladies in the shops and trips into the countryside.

[CLKD]

Supervisor for whom exactly?  Where is the GP in all this 

[Pennyfarthing]

Supervisor for whom exactly?  Where is the GP in all this 

For the agency they worked for. I'm sure she had a different title but can't remember what it is. 

[CLKD]

What a shame.  Are there any relatives involved?