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mac

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #375 on: July 25, 2012, 08:02:26 PM »

Dear Pisley and Anne B

Just wanted to send you both a hug as i can't offer you any constructive advice.  Well apart from IGNORE your neighbours they don't know what your going through, easier said than done I know.

Good luck with your appointments I really hope you get some positive solutions.

Thinking of you both.

Macxx
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Anne B

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #376 on: July 25, 2012, 08:08:32 PM »

Thanks Mac
Thank goodness for mansize tissues. I must be keeping the tissue industry afloat with the amount of crying I do! Surprised I haven't shrivelled up with dehydration.
 I do sound like a right miserable sod but honestly I do laugh occasionally.

Cheers
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Anne B

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« Reply #377 on: July 25, 2012, 08:15:35 PM »

Thanks Susan
Think I could have resorted to physical violence if I wasn't so knackerd.
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paisley

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #378 on: July 25, 2012, 08:52:04 PM »

Thanks mac, susan and Anne,
I will say it again, I really do not know what I would do without this site. You are so encouraging. Brings tears to my eyes thinking about it, God I am so emotional. Thanks for all your replies.
It makes a world of difference talking to women who know exactly what you are going through and so supportive. Emotional words over.
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CLKD

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #379 on: July 26, 2012, 09:54:15 AM »

" ............ of changing and it might making things worse ........ "   :'(  I was like that when I couldn't eat.  Although I felt ill and was told that if I had food my body would feel better: what if I felt worse  :o so I was physically unable to eat.   Existed on very little for 4/5 years.  Then I began to listen on the days that I could eat and gradually  ::)

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CLKD

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #380 on: July 26, 2012, 09:58:05 AM »

Anne B - why do you engage with this woman ?  Gradually knock her out of your Life?  When I had breast cancer in 1995 I ditched many people who were around me: some were toxic, others not interested in my problems, some couldn't get a grasp on exactly what radiation treatment entailed .......... so slowly my C.mas card list dwindled  ;)

You are who you are and your symptoms make you feel ill.  If you had a plaster etc., I often wonder too why we tell neighbours our most intimate problems .......... I have become less open in the last few years.  It does become easier to keep stuff to myself ..........

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Anne B

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #381 on: July 26, 2012, 10:20:42 AM »

So right CLKD
Think I confided in her because was feeling quite lonely. My days run in to each other at the moment and all my troubles seemed to tumble out of my mouth whilst having a normal wee chat with her. Was quite shocked at her attitude as she is a nurse and I thought she would be a bit more compassionate. Anyway you learn your lesson don't you.
Definitely off the Xmas card list!
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Anne B

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #382 on: July 26, 2012, 11:31:01 AM »

Fleurie
Thanks for your words of wisdom.
You're not going to believe it but the aforementioned neighbour has just been to my door and asked if I will feed her 2 cats over the weekend as she is going to her caravan for a much needed destress break.
You have got to be kidding? No chance.
Told her a wee porkie pie that I was going to my Sister's house for the weekend.
Should I feel as guilty as I do?
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Anne B

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« Reply #383 on: July 26, 2012, 11:48:23 AM »

Oh Susan
Don't know whether to laugh or cry. I like the cats just not the owner! Frightened now that she doesn't go away and I'll have to hide in the house all weekend with the blinds shut!

On another note. Yeah, I am totally batty. Changed my patch on Tues night thinking it was Wed night. Still have to keep checking the TV to tell me what day it is today. The brain has been totally fried with being at home for 7 months. I definitely need to get sorted out and get a routine.
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Smokey

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #384 on: July 26, 2012, 04:08:08 PM »

Hi ladies,
 
Not been on for couple of weeks as have Been on hols, was dreading it as kept feeling a bit sick a few days beforehand, but once on plane I was ok,
It was 41/2 hour flight.  I felt great all week, hotel really fab can't stress enough if you want to go abroad all inclusive go to an alantica hotel they have 15 hotels all over and it's the only hotel in fifteen years that I gave excellent rating for food, rooms pool, well lots of them, service etc.

Came back and after 24 hrs of bad weather felt ill again, am wondering if vit d deficient.

Still don't feel much better after taking thyroxin for two months, I'm getting antibodies tested at next blood test.

I know what you means about being knackered all the time, I keep thinking maybe it's all just menopause, an now seem to feel stomach acid after eating certain fruits.

I keep thinking will I ever be well?  Mac I hope work went ok, I remember going bact after several months off, I was shaking and so nervous, and quite often spoke to customers and my words just came out backwards, and the lights were terrible, made me feel spaced out, but aren't nearly as bad now HRT has at least done something well looking back really loads actually. So keep positive, I still can only cope with two hours at a time, I'm on my feet most of the time and work in a well known store Ar**s and love it if only I didn't start feeling I'll 3/4 of the way through my shift.
They are brilliant at work and very understanding, as I have ms as well think they expect me to collapse or something I'd I do too much.

Remember mac at work when and if you have a meno blip just keep saying to yourself I CAN DO IT,

I hope every one gets sorted, god I wonder if we will still be on here in the next few years!  Symptom free I hope.
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Anne B

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #385 on: July 26, 2012, 04:38:53 PM »

Smokey
Glad you had a great holiday. Which country were you in?
I am Vit D deficient and have been taking high dose supplements for 2 months so far. Probably a fairly large proportion of the country are deficient and don't know it. You should ask to be tested along with your Thyroid antibodies.
Welcome back and hope you feel better soon.
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Smokey

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #386 on: July 26, 2012, 05:45:11 PM »

Thanks Ann B

We went to Cyprus and it was very hot 95-100 some of the time, when we left air-conditioned room it was like having a fan heater blowing into your face, with out the fan bit, but I don't mind the heat as the one thing I don't get is hot flushes, well not yet anyway.

What sort of symptom did you get dor vit d deficientcy I know fatigue and my arms really ache when drying my hair, but that could be due to old age am 47 but my brain still feels 18 and my body 90.

Oh year I've done the patch mix up too!
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Anne B

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #387 on: July 26, 2012, 06:34:09 PM »

Smokey
Went to Cyprus a few years ago on one of these allocation on arrivals deals and ended up in Aya Napa at a club 18 to 30s club. That was an interesting experience to say the least. Had a laugh when I saw my OH eyeing up a tall blonde in a miniskirt from behind but when she turned round was a man. Cyprus is beautiful and I would like to go back some day but probably with the SAGA club!

With the Vit D deficiency I had really sore joints and extreme fatigue. Still have to a certain extent but I think now that's more due to my low oestrogen level at the moment. My GP prescribed me 5 months of Vit D capsules - not the chewable tablets (disgusting stuff). I make sure I take a multivitamin with calcium but no Vit D included as well as drinking more milk.

47 is too young to be feeling the way you do but I'm sure you will get sorted out and regain your vigour.

Cheers
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CLKD

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #388 on: July 26, 2012, 06:48:11 PM »

Anne B - so your sister was taken ill so you chose to stay home  ;) - have the answer ready and DROP the guilt  ;D
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Anne B

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Re: Confused and sad
« Reply #389 on: July 26, 2012, 06:53:11 PM »

CLKD
Good advice. Thanks.
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