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dulciana

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Re: Daughters.......!!
« Reply #30 on: February 22, 2017, 03:36:49 PM »

Until 2001, there were always three birthdays for my family to celebrate on my birthday - mine, my sister's and our grandfather's.  Now it's just the two of us, as our g'father died that year aged 97.
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coldethyl

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« Reply #31 on: February 22, 2017, 04:34:11 PM »

Mine is 13th - I shifted my clinic appointment to following week as I don't want to think about cancer on my birthday ! This time last year I was in throws of planning my 50th and awash with anxiety - this year it's an uncertain future I face but I'm strangely much calmer x
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« Reply #32 on: February 22, 2017, 07:25:56 PM »

Facing your own mortality actually releases you to got on with living and enjoying life do you find coldethyl?
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coldethyl

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« Reply #33 on: February 22, 2017, 09:39:33 PM »

Some days. Others I just want to hide under duvet and wake uo to it all being a bad dream. I think what I'm learning is that it doesn't matter when you die, it's still dying and that I've got to make the most of life in the here and now. My grandad died last  year at 96 and until the last few weeks, he certainly didn't want his life to be over - so I'm coming to accept that no time to go is the right time so it's no good thinking that a few more years would be good as it'll never be enough. Just accepting that you are alive today and that is all there is for any of us seems to help x
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CLKD

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« Reply #34 on: February 22, 2017, 10:17:19 PM »

Also coldethyl you are living on adrenaline, do be aware that you may get a big dip once you don't have as many appt.s to go to.
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coldethyl

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« Reply #35 on: February 22, 2017, 10:44:12 PM »

Also coldethyl you are living on adrenaline, do be aware that you may get a big dip once you don't have as many appt.s to go to.

Yes I am aware of that and my psychologist has lined up weekly appointments to discuss strategies for the longer term when you no longer have the safety blanket of contact with the unit  much. To be hair I'll be living on my nerves a while longer as I've a minor procedure to remove the filter I have in my vena cava ( I had pulmonary embolisms due to tumour pressing on groin veins) via jugular!!! And then possible ileostomy reversal later in year. I'm taking one day at a time and strength from the inspiring people I have met at unit. X
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« Reply #36 on: February 22, 2017, 10:46:02 PM »

OH! do you get to watch  :-X  ::) ..........

This thread has meandered a lot >whoops< ..........
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coldethyl

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« Reply #37 on: February 22, 2017, 10:49:38 PM »

OH! do you get to watch  :-X  ::) ..........

This thread has meandered a lot >whoops< ..........

I hope not .. It was bad enough when it went in via groin and they were shouting out numbers and stuff to each other. Nurse said my pulse was amazing as it went from over 90 to 70 in a few seconds once they said procedure done!!
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CLKD

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« Reply #38 on: February 23, 2017, 10:26:37 AM »

Did you grip the Nurse's hand hard? 
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coldethyl

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« Reply #39 on: February 23, 2017, 10:45:28 AM »

Did you grip the Nurse's hand hard?

no one held my hand!! all too busy with their scanners and scalpels.
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« Reply #40 on: February 23, 2017, 10:52:45 AM »

 ::)
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« Reply #41 on: February 23, 2017, 11:18:05 AM »

Did you grip the Nurse's hand hard?

no one held my hand!! all too busy with their scanners and scalpels.

I read this as spanners and screwdrivers! My mind has gone on holiday...... :o
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coldethyl

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« Reply #42 on: February 23, 2017, 11:24:06 AM »

Did you grip the Nurse's hand hard?

no one held my hand!! all too busy with their scanners and scalpels.

I read this as spanners and screwdrivers! My mind has gone on holiday...... :o

Possibly used them too!!!
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« Reply #43 on: February 23, 2017, 12:33:41 PM »

 :rofl:
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