Thanks for your reply, DG.
I can't believe that GPs are so unhelpful when it comes to the menopause. I couldn't have a smear test 2 years ago because of the pain so the nurse wanted me to sign a disclaimer to opt out of the NHS screening programme which I refused. She said it was meno related. You'd think she would have mentioned local HRT.
After my first DEXA scan I was only offered Adcal D3 but the National Osteoporosis Society nurse told me it was unnecessary because I had plenty of calcium in my diet already. I was logging my diet on My Fitness Pal at the time. My GP's attitude was "well she's only a nurse so what does she know anyway?" I asked Dr Hamoda at KCH about this and he said that he would have said the same as the nurse, that supplements are only useful for people who don't have much Calcium in the diet, otherwise there is no advantage.
I had what seemed to be a lactose intolerance some years ago. Milk and anything with milk made me bowel incontinent and it all stopped when I switched to fortified soya products, always with added calcium and D3. I wanted to increase my calcium intake in my 30s to look after my bones. I didn't expect osteoporosis by this age though. I'll be seeing a gastroenterologist next month so I will find out if I have a genuine lactose intolerance or whether it's something else. I'm not sure that fortified foods are as good as natural sources.
I have quite a complicated medical history. I have ME/CFS which has been quite severe and I've been housebound in recent years so exercise is not an option and don't get as much sunlight either. I also have haemochromatosis, a hereditary iron overload disorder, which is another risk factor for osteoporosis. My sister also has haemochromatosis and she has osteopenia, so I obviously have a genetic predisposition to low bone density.
My GP never suggested HRT for my bone health. Dr Hamoda said it was the treatment of choice at my age, he mentioned "the window of opportunity" to start HRT and get the benefits. I'm quite pleased to have actually been able to see someone with this level of expertise. I'm actually appalled at the lack of information and treatment offered for women going through the menopause and beyond. I'm glad I found out quite early about my bones too. Just how many women are unaware that they could have low bone density? It's not until they have a fracture that they find out. DEXA scans on the NHS are like gold dust unless you have any obvious reason to have one.