jessieblue, firstly, I am very sorry to hear about the difficult time you are having but I can relate to it. I don't know if this will help you but this is my experience.
My darkest menopause days where when I had a Mirena coil without adequate oestrogen. My personal view, which is based on my own experience, is that if you are going to have a Mirena coil, you need a high dose of oestrogen to go with it otherwise the synthetic progesterone becomes far too dominant and causes all sorts of problems. This is what happened to me. The theory is that most of the progesterone in the Mirena is confined to the womb but in my case enough of it got into my overall system to cause problems. Unfortunately, I had my first Mirena fitted in 1998 just before my hormones levels started to drop off and looking back, it was the root of all my problems. It started with panic attacks (I used to have to get off tube trains, I suddenly developed claustophobia and hated lifts and flying, felt nervous driving on motorways), constant low mood, non-stop vaginal itching, burning and frequent urination. I had endless tests and all came back clear. When my oestrogen levels dropped very low, I suddenly developed silent migraines which I now know are only caused by synthetic progesterone together with low oestrogen.
To cut a long story short, the reason I had these symptoms is because my oestrogen level (and possibly testosterone) was far too low, it's as simple as that. I tried using oestrogen patches with the coil but they didn't produce anything like enough oestrogen to combat these problems - with hindsight, I wish I had tried Oestrogel because I think it would have worked better.
I felt better as soon as I had the coil removed and now I am on a completely different HRT regime (Oestrogel/Utrogestan/Testosterone) which is brilliant and I can honestly say that all the problems I had went away virtually overnight. I never have panic attacks now or any of the other problems and I feel completely back to normal as long as I don't take too much progesterone. I am now 55 and about 10 years post menopause.
Even if you do not have a Mirena coil, if you are oestrogen deficient, chances are you will experience some of the symptoms I mentioned, it seems to go with the territory. Sorry if this is unhelpful but the only way to treat oestrogen deficiency is replace it. You might need ADs as well but I would start with oestrogen replacement.
This is only my personal experience and you may be completely different but I hope it helps.