Ok so I haven't read the last link posted yet but will. I was on HRT for four years and when on that I felt great but doc said I had to stop in spite of my pleas. I recently attended a menopause clinic and the doc there said that as I seemed to be over the worst that going back onto a libido enhancing HRT wasn't very sensible. My problems started about 6 yrs ago, it felt as tho my husbands penis had a bit of sandpaper on the side. Things gradually got worse and worse. Tried the doctor but no help and have ended up with mild vaginismus. After visiting finally this menopause clinic I am trying vagifem and some moisturising stuff Hayllo or something like that, but I'm honestly only doing it for my husband, if I was a man I would describe it as not being able to raise a smile, couldn't care less if I never did it again and the harder I try the worse I feel. I have now bought some tablets called Goldmax which had quite a good write up but I'm not holding my breath. Thanks for listening guys.