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Advice for husbands
platte:
I had to leave work for medical reasons, (not related to menopause of course). My husband took over the bill payments, and money managing. A big relief!!! The problem now though is, he says I shouldn't have any stress in my life now, and should feel happy all the time. Yeah, in his dreams. I really feel like smiling when my face is bright red, and sweat is dripping down the back of my neck. That is especially fun when we out somewhere special, and by the time I get there, my beautiful new hairdo is now dripping with sweat, and plastered and stuck to my face. Or when I am dealing with yet another period from hell that I just finished having a few weeks ago. Or, well...... you know ladies, I could go on and on.
Have a good one ladies.
Platte
Bckquine:
Thanks for all the good advice and the fantastic humour. Am sitting here at 5.25am because I could not sleep and cannot belive I have been LOL! One really amazing thing I have learned from the list of symptoms was about the 'electric shocks' going off in your head. I was having those quite regularly up until about a year ago and thought I was going mad and could not tell anyone ( as did not know what was happening myself) and know here it is in black and white! It was real, it was happening!
Think I will print off the article and show it to my partner and daughters so they can maybe begin to understand why their partner/mother is behaving so loopy!
Thanks, thanks, thanks :)
Newtc:
Thanks for this, I saved a copy for my partner yesterday. When I mentioned it to him, he asked what was in it and I told him it would be better for him to read it, to properly understand. I was so pleased (and amazed) that he read it as soon as we got in from walking the dog last night (thought it would involve a few weeks of gentle reminders lol). He was very quite and hasn't said a lot about it, but I think some lights have gone on and I think he's taken aback by just how many symptoms are linked to the menopause. It really helped me too, there were some things in it I hadn't considered as being part of it.
:thankyou:
katrin:
last week i handed the print out to my partner who still has not read it as he hasnt had time- think hes got halfway thorugh- how long does take to read- took me 5 minutes.funny that theres time to watch football on tv this afternoon . i felt so comforted when I read it that my symptoms were all there in the list so I thought he woudl be too and sympathetic.and also give him an understnading of somehtign that he had no knowledge or experience of at all.so every time I grump or cry or get hot or whatever else, I say to him page 3 or page 2 - read it and you would identify my symptomatic behaviour on the list! .he is a modern man still living in victorian times- and i am very hurt that he hasnt even attempted to understand.
viv:
Dont be offended Katrin. He is a man and if he is like most of the others his empathy bone has been removed. Its not that they don't care, they do. They just don't want any details. My dear hubby makes sympathetic noises, and then moves on. He is yet to ask me how I am feeling today. Not even when I am sitting next to him holding a battery fan and dripping all over the floor. :( ( Now on HRT)
I know he loves me, its just they are wired differently to us and they dont know how to cope. If I cry he hugs me but dont ask him to understand because he cant, not wont, just cant.
I think that this is why a forum like this is invaluable to us because we all understand and even if we dont have all the symptoms that others have we can empathise.
I think its a case of accepting what our men are like. There will be a few out there that get it, but just a few.
Viv
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