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LucyP99:
Hello, I have just joined and in desperate need of help please. I’m 52 and wondering whether I’m suffering from depression or peri menopause or both? I lost my sister a year and a half ago to cancer, the same cancer that took my Dad 13 years ago and also over the last few years have had my son (now 19) turn against me for reasons I do not understand.  My daughter (13) is a lovely happy child. My partner doesn’t say a lot but he does listen bless him coz I can be very moody with him. My mother lives miles away. Don’t feel I have anyone to talk to or open up to. I also work as a HCA in a care home which I quite honestly hate the job. I just feel I can’t cope. I feel lost, overthinking constantly about negative things, constantly looking at bad news, crying, want to hide away, don’t want to socialise. My last period was 9 months ago and before that 8 months before. I don’t have hot flushes - but it’s the extremely low mood. I just want to be my happy go lucky self again. I feel like I have PMT constantly. Oh and I have a dry itchy scalp and joints hurt.
Sorry for such a miserable first post x

CLKD:
Hello, I have just joined and in desperate need of help please. I’m 52 and wondering whether I’m suffering from depression or peri menopause or both?

 :welcomemm:   browse round.  Make notes. U can be as miserable, worried, stressed as U want on here.  Nowt is taboo and hopefully, sharing will help.


I lost my sister a year and a half ago to cancer, the same cancer that took my Dad 13 years ago 
. is the disease hereditary?

also over the last few years have had my son (now 19) turn against me for reasons I do not understand. 
. R U in touch with him at all?  Maybe if so, write a letter explaining how sorry you are etc. and [if you are willing], that when he is ready U have a listening ear.  that you can't solve every problem in the World but that you may be able to source support should he require it.


My daughter (13) is a lovely happy child. My partner doesn’t say a lot but he does listen bless him coz I can be very moody with him. My mother lives miles away. Don’t feel I have anyone to talk to or open up to.
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I also work as a HCA in a care home which I quite honestly hate the job. . The care industry is very difficult to negotiate: lack of support etc..   Is it recently that you have started to hate the work?

My periods waxed and waned for several years until they stopped.  Hot flushes were a nuisance for about 4 months after, my body itches occasionally: lack of oestrogen, probably : and I developed vaginal atrophy - do read the threads about that.  As oestrogen levels drop the body may become dry: inside and out - skin, deep in the ears, nostrils, scalp, vagina - and the muscles may become lax = aches and pains.  U may benefit from HRT.  In the mean time do try some pain relief to keep you less painful, as well as making time to walk in the sunshine to top up VitD levels.

GPs can request thyroid function and VitD level blood tests as well as a general health screening.  Some blood tests may show where you are hormonally.  However, these are reliably un-reliable  ::)

LucyP99:
Thank you for your reply CLKD
I don’t know if it’s hereditary to be honest I’m too scared to find out - it was pancreatic cancer  :(
My son did come home and our relationship is getting better - sorry should have said that it’s just the stress of it all didn’t help me and feel it’s all built up due to everything else.
Since my sister passed I have hated my work more and also don’t feel I have the patience anymore. It is hard work - understaffed, underpaid, overworked etc
I will look around the site and take notes as you have suggested thanks.
I am going to speak to the doctor on Friday.
Do you take HRT?

CLKD:
Fortunately I've not required HRT other than localised treatment for vaginal atrophy.

Pancreatic cancer can appear quickly.  My cousin had a diagnosis after suffering with intense pains for 3 months.   :'(

Make a list to discuss with your GP.  Let us know how you get on.

I think that when there has been a tragedy in a family many look to C how they can do what they really want, rather than sticking in a job that doesn't give satisfaction.  MayB write your CV out to C what skill base you have. 

VioletAquarius:
Along with the periods, itching and achy joints are peri menopause symptoms. The other symptoms could be both I think.

Make an appointment with yr gp to discuss hrt to see if that will help, although from what I understand it can sometimes take a while with trial and error to find out exactly what you need.

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