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[BlueButterfly]

Letmein,
You could always be gluten intolerant...only way to tell is to stop eating it for awhile and see how you feel. I believe that's where I am getting or at. After talking with my mother and sister...they both seem to have issues eating it as well now. Not sure if it is aging, genetics, etc. No idea really.

And yes, on the sleep I have been considering moving to another room...same issues...his snoring, fidgeting, restless legs...whole body jerks in the night even that make me jump awake! Sometimes I get lucky and get sleep and can sleep through it. It's not often...and yes, it's hard not to feel so much anger towards him sometimes.

I am light skinned, love the sun, spend way too much time out in it during warmer months without sun screen...I may regret that one day.... But it makes me happy being in the sun. These grey, cold winters really get to me. There's just no replacement for real sunshine for me.

[Letmein]

I thought it was only my OH who did these jerkimg movement at night! I can't fathom how he manages to jump so drastically and still sleep through it like a baby whilst I'm there next to him anticipating the next jerk!

Good point about giving gluten fee a go, nothing to lose doing so. Got my cortisol blood test this morning so only allowed water. Of course, I'm not feeling half as hyper this morning as I normally do! I'm starting to come to terms with accepting that somehow, it really is the menopause causing such neurological havoc in my life.

Don't you ever feel that it would be nice to be a bear, go to our cave and sleep it a LL off, waking up all refreshed after the menopause in the summer of course, ready to enjoy life to the full again!

[Letmein]

Thanks sparkle! Got to love GPs (I really do, feel more sorry for them and the massive workload they are left with trying to manage). Saw nurse who is fantastic and joked about me being back for more blood. Led to talking of latest results and I said gp had said I had low vit d and wanted to know the levels and also had forgotten to ask what my ferritin levels were. She looked and was confused as computer was saying that the FBC specimen had got lost. Turn out my gp had been looking and reading my results from my blood test 1 year ago! (except for the vit d which did come back).

Bless her, she said she would do them all again and added vit b12 test. If I hadn't ask about my results, I would have assumed they were all fine, strangely very similar to last year's

[BlueButterfly]

I thought it was only my OH who did these jerkimg movement at night! I can't fathom how he manages to jump so drastically and still sleep through it like a baby whilst I'm there next to him anticipating the next jerk!

Yes!! Same...he sleeps so much better than I do! It's really just not quite fair for sure. We got a mattress that is better at not transferring motion...but it still isn't enough. Separate beds or rooms is needed some nights for sure. I'd probably sleep so much better.

Glad you are able to get the tests redone at least so you can get the right numbers now!

I need to be eating gluten free again but I'm really struggling to do it this time around. I can feel it with my digestion that I need to...not sure why the struggle this time.

[Letmein]

Is it because of the taste? Lack of choice? Needing to do more cooking?

Sleeping seperatly helps a lot. It's mainly about the anticipation of being woken up by him and therefore struggling to relax. I was worried he would take it badly as a rejection but he hasn't at all and loves to have the bed for himself! We are closer than we've been so no impa t on intimacy and affection.

[BlueButterfly]

Is it because of the taste? Lack of choice? Needing to do more cooking?

Sleeping seperatly helps a lot. It's mainly about the anticipation of being woken up by him and therefore struggling to relax. I was worried he would take it badly as a rejection but he hasn't at all and loves to have the bed for himself! We are closer than we've been so no impa t on intimacy and affection.

I'm okay with taste, sometimes the textures are off so that's different and yes on the cooking because I can't convince the family to jump on board so.  We tend to eat a lot of bread and pasta as well. Just a big adjustment and I think it is harder this time because I know it needs to be more than a temporary change.

Right now I think hubby would feel very rejected about sleeping in other rooms but we should probably talk about it...at least sometimes!

[BlueButterfly]

I will have to get a bed set up in the spare room I think.

I'm going backwards some days it seems. My sleep has been awful and with that comes more palpitations/heart pounding. It's definitely when my body feels any kind of stress. This can be just from watching an intense (well, seriously quite mild these days) part in a movie or such. Takes my body so long to calm down from that. Finding myself on edge more, not handling life moments as well. Need to get myself calmed because we are trying to make some major life changes too (happy stress though but still stress) and I need to be ready for that.

I did go to bed earlier last night though! So proud of myself...in bed before 10 and before everyone else! It still took a bit to fall asleep but faster than other nights.

Sleep, meditation...and eating right. The last one is the challenge. Starting some light weights too. I have so much muscle loss from my weight loss and it was evident how bad after the first session. Definitely taking it easy but I think it will help with the many body aches I have.

[dahliagirl]

If we get any good spring days, my back door is in a sheltered spot and I can sit on the doorstep in my vest making vitamin D while I have a cuppa. If I am lucky, the blackbirds come and entertain me in their bath.  Only a very few short weeks to go 

[Letmein]

How is everyone? After a massive low, I'm now on a huge high  I am now left with no doubt that poor sleep quality is my problem and my poor sleep quality is caused by my general level of anxiety. I had a wake up moment last week when I woke up after one dreadful night again and I thought that's it. No more rushing to the doctor, worrying about worrying about 3 erything and my new motto is going to become 'I don't care'.

Well so far, it is doing wonders! I don't care if my boss isn't happy with my work (I'm sure he is but I spend all my time convinced he isn't and looking for signs of it to worry about it), that my OH is upset with me (he might be at times,  ut I know he still loves me deeply), that my teenage son is not getting top grades (it's his life and he still has plet y of time to find the motivation to give his best) and that everything in life is frightening. As a matter of fact, I've even decided to do something for the first time in 30cyearsxthstconly last week was an sblolute no go. I've decided that it was time to stop letting it hold me bs k and after I do it a few times, I'll be fine with it.

Well amazingly, this week, I've slept better than I have done in over 2xueafs and yep, it's giving me an energy I forgot I'd ever had. So that's that! I can only hope that the mentality last but even if it doesn't, that's the pla e I'll have to find again because the sense of freedom from it all is amazing.

9ne thing I've heard said quite often by women who've got over the menopause is that: that they don't care what others think anymore and feel so much better afterwards, maybe I've just had a flash of what's to come 

[dahliagirl]

I have had a week of not caring.  It is quite nice in places.  Nothing has blown up.

[BlueButterfly]

Still struggling with sleep and a good diet. I can feel the how both affect me. I miss being younger when I could eat what I wanted to.
I'm just feeling absolutely exhausted at the moment as I have been awful at sticking with a sleep routine for the last week or so. Working on getting back to that and eating right.

My anxiety is so much better now though. I worry about some things as they happen in the background but it does not stop me from doing things or seem to have the same affect on my moods. Do I dare say....I think there are actually times that I don't feel the anxiety or worry even. Shockingly right now, some things are going on that would usually leave me in tears curled up but I feel calm about it all. Maybe it just hasn't caught up with me? Or maybe I just don't care anymore? I really don't know...but I like that I don't feel broken/anxious/a total mess over it all.

Mood swings...well, that's another story.  I have been feeling so much better mentally I thought I would see how I did if I didn't use the progesterone cream after my last cycle.....bad idea! Mentally fine (no anxiety or panic)...physically so much pain came back around when I should ovulate (didn't this month -yes I can tell). Mood swings so much worse as well....guess I'm one of the odd ones that do well with some progesterone. This peri has really made my endometriosis so much more aggressive. Hoping I can get my diet better soon as I've read that helps some women with the endo as well.

[BlueButterfly]

So need to get back on this. Hubby reminding me I felt better while eating better, etc after some symptoms started coming back has made me want to jump back to my original diet. We've been traveling more, eating awful and sleeping even less. I do wonder if that is bringing back some of the issues. So I'm working on gluten free again and cutting out dairy some (I really struggle with cheese but going lactose free last time was very helpful)

So today....back on my vitamin mix - magnesium, vit C, Vit D (thought since the sun was out more I could stop using it but I don't know), fish oil, B Complex (been months without!), garlic (keeps my chronic sinus infections away), hair, skin & nails formula and probiotic.

Diet - Cut out gluten as best as I can, cut out sugar, lactose-free dairy, more balance

Lifestyle- Get more sleep! Exercise more - must practice yoga daily. It helps my body aches so much. And get back to meditation.

Hoping this helps.

[jaypo]

I do think diet has a huge impact,if stray from my diet for too long my gut suffers.Wheat is a big problem for me,not allergic to gluten but I am to wheat,it is getting easier but boy do I miss bread,the wf stuff is so stodgy with no substance to it.Like the gastro specialist said to me,we are the only living thing that continues using milk after we're weaned,our bodies aren't constructed to take it but I can't give up cheese 🧀 already vegetarian so it's tough enough sometimes.
Good luck,hopefully you'll feel the benefits soon BB

[Kathleen]

Hello ladies.

I know very little about adrenal fatigue but I have plenty of experience of the standard version lol!

I have often wondered how many of our meno problems would be eased by better quantity and indeed quality of sleep. Surely Mother Nature didn't intend to torture us with sleep deprivation so perhaps our modern lifestyle is the underlying cause of our difficulties. The only other times in my life when I've felt as I do now is when  my children were very young and I was having sleepless nights. Infact my trusty meno book states that very tired people are often anxious and irritable so lack of good quality sleep may be more responsible than the meno.

I am also interested in the impact of diet and I now eat whole food, plant based. I'm doing this for the anti inflammatory benefits but I hope that it helps balance hormones as well. I may even try some early nights to see if that makes a difference!

Wishing you well ladies.

K.

[dahliagirl]

I have been looking at low carbing. I tried a couple of days.  I have looked at the Harcombe diet which is proper food with avoiding mixing carbs and protein, and the Bullet Proof diet which is supposed to help with energy levels but includes things like Stevia which I am not keen on.

Both advocate low sugar.  Both seemed like too much hard work 

I am going to go back to low GI as I think that was good and easier to keep to, and plenty fish and good oil food and fewer crisps  I originally looked at Diabetes UK and Arthritis UK websites for the oils, to help here.

I have not had much trouble with sleep since HRT, just the occasional night (I was pinging awake until the birds sang for several nights on the trot, or just failing to get to the final point of dropping off before that).

I do have a lot of trouble with tense muscles and adrenaline though.  I am doing more walking and using everything I have ever learned about posture and relaxation over the years in dance/yoga/pilates classes.  The vitD and magnesium/joint supplements may be helping here or it may be wishful thinking    I will keep taking the vit D over the summer, but a lower dose.  One year I sat out every day from the beginning of April, then the weather turned dull and wet for ages and I started hurting again