Hi Dyan,
I'm another hernia/GERD 'ster! Mine came on at around the same time as meno; reflux, gastritis, awful burning pains in stomach. 3 gastroscopies/endoscopies, H-Pylori tests, a 24hr PH test at Barts - that's where they feed a tube down to your stomach which tests the level of reflux over 24 hrs, downside is I had to travel there and back on the train with the tube taped to my face, I got some looks I can tell you! So the diagnosis is definitely GERD/GORD and I'm eligible for the operation. Tried all the over the counter meds, all far too weak, Lansaprazole didn't work on me, only thing that did was Omeprazole (the other PPI), but the side effects were grim - anxiety, blurred vision, generally feeling unwell.
The only relief is if I have a liquid only diet for a couple of weeks (no not beer & wine unfortunately, but vitamin shakes like Cambridge diet for example). If you've got any to spare, losing just a few pounds can make a difference.
So now I'm waiting for hernia repair and anti-reflux surgery (Nissen fundoplication), where they loop the stomach back on itself and stitch it to prevent any reflux coming up. BUT, since I have taken HRT my reflux has decreased a bit! I thought it would be the opposite but no. So, I am thinking of postponing the op.
It has taken me since October 2012 to get this far on the NHS so don't be frightened to really push for what you want - I've found you have to! Good luck and I do hope you get some relief soon.