Hi gymbunny

from me too.
Sorry to hear about what you've been going through.
As you started your oestrogen only 2 weeks after the op you cannot say whether the symptoms are due to surgical menopause (as silverlady says) or the HRT. I would suggest it is most likely to be the former as you have not been long without the oestrogen.
At your age I would want to be on a much higher dose of oestrogen ie looking to gradually increase to at least 100 mcg patches - many women in your position use gel as they find they can get a higher dose but you can always go higher than 100 mcg by adding patches. Need to increase gradually though.
The tricky thing with oestrogen at your young age is hitting the sweet spot - enough not only to completely eliminate symptoms and also make you feel good, but not too much to give higher than physiological levels. In the natural cycle oestrogen reaches very high levels around ovulation and then drops to much lower - but you probably wouldn't want them to be as high as this all the time.
Don't be fobbed off re the meno clinic. In your position I would try to get a referral asap -you may need to be tested for (and prescribed) testosterone too.
Personally at your age I might also take micronised progesterone now and again ( provided you are not progesterone intolerant) - unless it gives you pms - as this also performs various functions in the body. Unfortunately it doesn't agree with some women.
Take care of yourself and hopefully you will begin to feel better in due course.
Hope this helps
Hurdity x