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Had a nice sunny frosty start here in Norfolk and was nice all day but this evening wind howling round the house like the wizard of oz, rain lashing it down yuk.

Ooh bet they’ve hit a nice selection of seasonal ‘beige picky bits.’ Every supermarket seems to do them now. Party mini packs of ever more indulgent and inventive snackeroos. I wonder what they’ll come up with sometimes. I do love browsing those though! Mini versions of things for Christmas I wonder why we like things made tiny or into ‘logs!’

I buy my DHEA from iherb and monitor my own bloods annually.

I doubt my GP would know what DHEA is.

The reason I use DHEA and not testosterone is partly cost and access but also because I am on the combined pill for suppression of ovulation.

DHEA has been studied for safety and efficacy in women on the COCP,  but testosterone has not.

I maintain testosterone levels in the upper quartile of female healthy range and FAI of 5.

When the time comes for me to graduate from COCP to MHT I may try testosterone.

However if the effects are no different and I have to pay through the nose for it, I will happily continue with DHEA.

That all sounds sensible and it sounds like it's working well for you. I'm guessing a GP won't prescribe it as an alternative if they are unhappy prescribing testosterone, but I may bring it up with my GP and request an androgen test. Hopefully the meno clinic have suggested this in their letter. There certainly seems to be good feedback on iherb for DHEA.

I think if you add some oestrogen, even just for a couple of days, it won’t stay in your system long so maybe just pop some on and see?

I buy my DHEA from iherb and monitor my own bloods annually.

I doubt my GP would know what DHEA is.

The reason I use DHEA and not testosterone is partly cost and access but also because I am on the combined pill for suppression of ovulation.

DHEA has been studied for safety and efficacy in women on the COCP,  but testosterone has not.

I maintain testosterone levels in the upper quartile of female healthy range and FAI of 5.

When the time comes for me to graduate from COCP to MHT I may try testosterone.

However if the effects are no different and I have to pay through the nose for it, I will happily continue with DHEA.

I think it’s about perception.

When I read the original post I didn’t see it as him being abusive, rather just words he said in the throes of passion and her wanting him to enjoy himself whilst also being peeved at his insensitivity at times.

Then I read all the responses and could see it could be read in other ways, particularly if someone has been in an abusive relationship and it reminded them of specific situations.

The second post seemed to be to reassure us that she was not in any danger and that when she put her foot down he would comply. It didn’t sound as if he was forcing her in any way, just suggesting things she could say yes or no to.

The pressure to want to please can be tough but she just needs to be honest with him that it’s stressing her so much she has been contemplating separation. His response will then reveal next steps.

Your post has really made me think. For the last two weeks I changed my patch (Estradot) location to the buttocks. On Wednesday I reverted back to my usual place which is between the lower belly and top of the thigh (inside the knickers line). Where I put the patches I had a small bump which I thought was some sort of muscle as it's quite firm, but strangely the bumps on both sides have disappeared.

I'll keep an eye on it and see what happens in the next few weeks...

I haven't gone the super drug route but if want it on the NHS it has to be for low libido. Because there isn't a product licenced for women available on the NHS normally your GP needs it to be prescribed by an expert. I'm not sure if super drug count but you can ask. You can ask for a referral to an NHS meno clinic for it but it may take a year or more to get an appointment.The NHS will probably want a blood test for testosterone levels first. If you don't get it through the NHS they won't normally provide follow up care. I think there's a strong correlation between low testosterone and low libido, I'm not sure there is for other symptoms, but a blood test is the only way to know for sure.

Thanks for that Sheila, I've just checked and for women, Superdrug don't actually initiate a testosterone prescription, they only provide it if you've already been prescribed it. Yes, I had to wait a year last time for meno clinic but at the time I didn't know how testosterone could be related to my condition so it wasn't discussed. My GP has a service where they write to the meno clinic with your questions then get back to you. I'll find out what they say in a months time. At least it will point me in one direction, probably private but fingers crossed! I don't really know where to start and costs involved when it comes to trying to get it privately but will start researching to get the best options.

Hopefully she's taking the time to think things through. In her initial post she mentioned that she was googling divorce, which must be very scary, and she probably needs time to process everything.

I haven't gone the super drug route but if want it on the NHS it has to be for low libido. Because there isn't a product licenced for women available on the NHS normally your GP needs it to be prescribed by an expert. I'm not sure if super drug count but you can ask. You can ask for a referral to an NHS meno clinic for it but it may take a year or more to get an appointment.The NHS will probably want a blood test for testosterone levels first. If you don't get it through the NHS they won't normally provide follow up care. I think there's a strong correlation between low testosterone and low libido, I'm not sure there is for other symptoms, but a blood test is the only way to know for sure.