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Ok, new mindset.

I will get there, things have improved over the past 8 weeks from where I was. So I have come a long way.

I am going to be kinder to myself and accept that things can take a while. I need to be patient and give HRT time to work.

Things could improve massively over the next few weeks. I didn't think 8 weeks ago that I would have some improvement even if its not as much as I had hoped.

I think I was just in a different situation in 2023. It was spring time and I was able to get in the garden more whereas I am finding it more difficult with the colder weather and darker days/nights. Also just 0.5mg of Sandrena helped so much.

I am determined to stay positive as that will keep me.going.

Totally agree Ayesha, maybe we should all  re read her post, this man says “he’s over it all” now and knowing she is in great pain,says he “wants to DO HER” in every country,yeah,sounds delightful.😏 plus she’s googling divorce proceedings,so she is obviously looking for an escape. Gone are the days the little woman at home was there for every need of her husband,this poor woman is nearly screaming out in pain, my god, I feel so sorry for her

Hey looplou can I ask how Nick Paney was?

I'm in a terrible state. Unfortunately chem meno made me worse not better. I react to every hormonal change. So I'm looking for stability. Which at 49 is impossible.

So I'm looking to see Nick Paney as a last resort. Any advice? Thanks

Ha,god forbid we have anything nice to eat or drink these days 🤨

This sound just like me many years ago. I eventually was under Nick Panay who was my saviour. He supported me all the way through PMDD and then through Menopause.
Hopefully new medication will help. Eventually I was put onto zoladex injections to see if a hysterectomy would work.In my case the moment I was put onto zoladex injections the hormonal issues stopped therefore a full hysterectomy was the answer.
At 30 I had a full hysterectomy and was put straight onto estrogen patches. I finally felt so much better. Keep fighting and try and stay strong, you will feel better soon.

Oh I hate ABs.  They mess up my stomach something chronic, and it doesn't take much.

I had a class of mulled wine yesterday 😟.  Big mistake.

I am cheerful most of the time and I manage my symptoms but it all has left a bit of a hole in my physical relationship with my husband who tells me quite frankly, he is a bit over it all. 
He is very sexual and wants it all the time.  If I cannot do things 'normally', let's try anally instead.  OMG just messing about with that a little hurts and makes me feel awful (things do not fit in there so he just wants to keep trying) but I persevere because these days, it's the only time my husband tells me he loves me.  He is surly often and tells me he is being patient, but he tells me constantly that he is EXTREMELY frustrated and NEEDS intimacy that I am not providing.
I have sat down with him and tried to explain how it feels - that I feel like I am not even in my own body anymore. That hopefully there is some light at the end of the tunnel but for now, things hurt, not to mention the fact that I just don't want to be poked and prodded. I would love to just be held and nurtured but he says he just cannot do that as he ends up frustrated.
We go on holiday soon, just the two of us and he tells me he plans to 'do me' in every country in Europe we visit and won't it be good to not have any interruptions from the kids. 
So now I have to think about either being in pain for days to keep him happy or endure his obvious disappointment and anger if I say no.
Has anyone else out there had issues with a husband who just doesn't get it?  I'm at my wits end and I have even been googling how to start the divorce process 

This is the behaviour of a sad, weak, pathetic, gaslighting man, this is not the way a man behaves in a loving relationship, by treating his wife with total and inhumane disrespect. You can analyse it all you want, but this is abusive behaviour and needs to be called out as such. 
This is the reason they castrate dogs for such behaviour.

A GP would never prescribe dhea but a bottle of 100 is about £8-9 which is less than the English prescription charge,

It's known as the poor man's testosterone.

Obviously conversion varies between individuals so it is wise to check testosterone before and after.

If someone was a poor converter they may be better taking testosterone directly.

Thanks, I'll see what the menopause clinic come back with. If they don't want to do tests then I have a private baseline total testosterone test I got done a few months ago for what it's worth. If I decide to use the DHEA I'll do another test before starting then again a few months later. Can I ask, the self monitoring you do, are you looking for increase in oetrogen and testosterone levels? I'm just wondering what bloods I should be doing if I did take it. I notice there is some concern that DHEA "may" increase the risk of hormone-sensitive cancers due to its conversion into estrogen and testosterone.

I’m the same Aprilflower,blimmin well hate taking tablets, I’m on ABs at the minute,day 4 and I’m now feeling 🤢

Hopefully this will make you smile menohell77 funny but true

https://youtu.be/nC91rtSR2tw?si=OrwfUe2sRrQrj2wt