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General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: larkrise on February 05, 2011, 12:13:22 PM

Title: Contemplation Corner
Post by: larkrise on February 05, 2011, 12:13:22 PM
For all of us who are missing loved ones just now, post a tribute to them here.  It really does help.

It does not necessarily have to be a chat thread, just somewhere to leave our thoughts.

For my mum, the Queen of my Heart.  I love you and miss you.  Sweet Memories

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Post by: Bex on February 05, 2011, 12:28:31 PM
I would just like to post the first verse of my Dad's favourite song which he used to sing to me every time I left his flat.  I can still hear you Daddy. Love you best.

Arriverderci, Roma
Goodbye, goodbye to Rome
City of a million moon lit faces
City of a million warm embraces
Where I found the one of all the faces
Far from home

Arriverderci, Roma
It's time for us to part
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Post by: spursgal11 on February 05, 2011, 01:03:45 PM
To little Davey, who will be paying football with the angels in heaven.

Never forgotten little man. :'(
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Post by: terriw on February 05, 2011, 03:37:08 PM
To Mum and Dad

I miss you both so much.

When I'm out in the garden I think of you Dad and how much you'd have loved advising and helping me out.......remember when I was little and used to "help" you in the garden by gathering up all the worms before I'd let you dig anywhere....

When I see an old film with your favourites, Judy Garland, James Cagney, Gary Cooper etc. (so many more) I remember us watching them together, you always knew all the gossip, who'd been married to who and who'd had affairs with who etc. etc.
When I'm cooking Mum and forget a recipe......you never needed them.

sweet, sweet memories  :hug:
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Post by: CLKD on February 05, 2011, 04:15:45 PM
I don't miss my Dad much but last night whilst watching the Emperor Piano Concerto on BBC4 I shed a few tears inwardly - he taught me to listen to classical music properly and we whistled tunes as we travelled miles in his Austin 7 ......... I would take the solo instrument and he would do the orchestra ......
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Post by: viv on February 05, 2011, 04:54:21 PM
For my dad, the best a girl could ever want...its been 30years now but I never forget. And for my little girl who is sitting at her Papas side. She would have been 18 this month, I never really got to know you but you have a special place in my heart.

Honey
 :'(
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Post by: harem77 on February 05, 2011, 05:03:47 PM
For my dad and little brother,
Miss you both so much, our lives have changed forever, but as i promised you dad i am looking after mum so much, she misses you everday. I hope you know we visit you every week. Your loving daughter and sisterxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Post by: Margarett on February 05, 2011, 06:34:22 PM
For my lovely Grandma, who died the day my first baby was born, all those years ago. Always there in my heart.
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Post by: Eddie on February 08, 2011, 10:46:14 AM
For my naughty bull terrier, Bridgie, gone so not forgotten. Never had i seen a nature like it, gets into all your hidden areas and never lets go. Her last days were awful and i always will feel very guilty about that. Soon i will post something for my Dad, but can't think what to say, trying not to get hung up right now. Need to pack for holiday, but i'm sure he'd understand? Love and miss him. Eddie. x
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Post by: CLKD on February 08, 2011, 04:40:51 PM
You pack for the holiday!  Sit on a hilltop and shout 'hey Dad, we're here!'  ;)
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Post by: Rosebush on February 08, 2011, 05:43:32 PM
My Nan who i loved so much..xxx
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Post by: lubi loo on February 08, 2011, 08:33:47 PM
Thinking of my mum who died in May  after ten years diagnosed with alzheimers and a few depressed years before that dealing with my dads death, which she never got over...Why did it take me 50yrs to do as i was told and realise she was a wise loving woman and not just "mum"
She died at home with all support available ,her death was peaceful and she floated away like a butterfly at the end.

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Post by: Cazikins on February 13, 2011, 12:55:34 AM
For my dear old Mum - AKA the Duchess who passed away 05/02/05.

For my very special mate J, who died of bowel cancer at the age of 50 last year. She was a dog lover & loved her JRT. So sorry I couldn't attend your funeral J, but I think of you everyday  :'( & I miss our late night emails. xxx

Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: viv on February 24, 2011, 03:26:18 PM
Just my own thought for today.

It would have been my daughters 18th birthday today. I would loved to have seen her grow up into the beautiful young woman she would have been.

Always in my thoughts even after all these years.



Honeyb
x
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Post by: charliegirl on February 24, 2011, 04:10:46 PM
Bless you all for this,  for my mum and dad who both pased away far too early and never saw my sons grow up.
charliexxx
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Post by: coffee mate on February 24, 2011, 04:41:36 PM
Love and miss you so very much mum.
will post more when Im stronger and feel able to do so without tears streaming down my face.
God BlessXXX
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Post by: jopo on February 24, 2011, 06:17:31 PM
you've been gone for nearly six years now dad, and sometimes, rather depressingly, i still forget you're not there anymore and think, i'll go and see dad.
wish you were still here because i feel our relationship was changing for the better and i wish you could see that i've done well and i've done things i know you would have been proud of ... i was still a bit naughty when you were here!!!
x
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Post by: Joyce on February 24, 2011, 07:03:51 PM
Thoughts of you D! 
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Post by: Eddie on February 24, 2011, 09:01:22 PM
My dad's cousin passed away today down in Rothesay, she was the most amazing women i've ever met, i'll be taking Mum and Aunty down for funeral. God bless Aunty Silvia.
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Post by: Joyce on February 25, 2011, 12:03:48 PM
 :foryou:
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Post by: Eddie on February 25, 2011, 12:13:35 PM
Thank you Smiler. Eddie. xx
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on March 16, 2011, 10:34:50 AM
 :hug:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Cazikins on March 27, 2011, 04:11:30 PM
Cor Blimey - it took me ages to find this thread  :o- & I so need it today ...  :'(


Hang on in there SZ, you are doing so well. Family & friends are so proud of you girl. We missed you up the pub but I know you would have been there if you could have been. You have come such a long way Matey...


Can't say much more then that
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Taz2 on March 29, 2011, 03:52:17 PM
I am posting this for you Karen on your birthday. You should have been 47 today. Remember how we used to sing this song for our lost friends? We never thought that this year I would have been singing it for you instead of WITH you. I am still  "dancing for the two of us" but, sometimes, it is really difficult. Here's to you Karen - one of the best. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3n7PvA1pVyg

Taz x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: coffee mate on April 03, 2011, 04:54:27 PM
This is the first Mothers Day without you Mum.
Wish you were here with me so I can spoil you, but you are with me in my heart, and you always will be.
Love you forever and ever. xxxxxx
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Post by: Cazikins on May 26, 2011, 07:50:24 PM
For my mate Suze who passed away this morning.

The Rose Beyond The Wall
A rose once grew where all could see
Sheltered beside a garden wall
And as the days passed swiftly by
It spread its branches straight and tall

One day a beam of light shone through
a crevice that had opened wide
The rose bent gently towards its warmth
Then passed beyond to the other side

Now you who deeply feel its loss
Be comforted – the rose blooms there
Its beauty even greater now
Nurtured by God's own loving care.

A brave lady who left us way too soon.
R.I.P. mate & enjoy a pint or two up there.

xxx
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: coffee mate on August 04, 2011, 06:32:47 AM
Very thoughtful of you, thank you Larky.

Hope you are at peace now Dominic.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Cazikins on August 16, 2011, 08:30:50 PM
Thinking of my dear mate J who passed away a year ago yesterday from cancer.
Where has the time gone J? it seems to have flown by - but I think of you so often, & even more so this week. I knew it was the anniversary sometime this month & I checked in my diary today & low & behold it was yesterday... :'( now I know why I have been feeling so sad this week.

Always in my thoughts Matey.

Lots of love C & T
xxx
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Dyan on August 18, 2011, 01:53:25 PM
Only just seen this post.
It was my dads anniversary yesterday,18 years,he was only 57
when he died.

Here's some lyrics from one of his favourite Roy Orbison songs
I had played at his funeral:

In Dreams I walk with you,
In Dreams I talk to you,
I can't help,I can't help it
If I cry.
I remember that you said Goodbye.

On the bottom of my dads headstone are the words
" In Dreams I walk with You"

I thought the world of my Dad and still miss him
very much but I know he is still with me and watching over me.

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Post by: Margarett on August 27, 2011, 03:47:26 PM
Thinking of my Dad who died 14 years ago today, 3 days before Diana. I was grieving for him, and the rest of the world was in mourning for her. Miss you , Dad. xx
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Blue on August 27, 2011, 11:18:36 PM
 Dad 17 years ago 11th Aug, Mum 5 years ago 14th Aug. Still go to the phone to tell you new news.

Wish you were here to share our lives. You would be so proud of the kids.

Thank you Larky
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Cazikins on September 10, 2011, 09:27:51 PM
It would have been my Mum's 88th birthday today.
I took Dad to the crem this afternoon & we put some flowers down.
I said to Dad that I quite often have dreams about Mum & in them her mind is normal but then half way through she starts acting weird & the altzheimers shows up & she starts doing silly things.  :'(
Dad said that he often nods off in his armchair in the afternoons with the telly on in the background, he starts dreaming & he thinks he can hear Mum talking to him. He says to himself "what's she going on about now", he then realises it's someone on the telly.  :) :)

Missing you Mum.

xx
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Gobe on October 04, 2011, 09:24:19 AM
For my beloved Mother who died suddenly on the 24th August 2011. :'(

Always in my heart, Mum.  Love you best. xxx

Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: viv on October 04, 2011, 04:54:03 PM
Bex

You never said.....I wondered where you had gone.

My thoughts and sympathy are with you.

Honeyb
x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: sandie w on October 04, 2011, 05:03:30 PM


my thoughts and love are with you too.


TM
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Post by: Gobe on October 04, 2011, 06:57:02 PM
Thank you Honeybun and TM.
x
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Post by: Taz2 on October 13, 2011, 06:45:39 AM
Remembering my fun and feisty friend who died one year ago today after a horrible fight with cancer. If courage and positive thinking could have beaten her tumours then she would have won easily.

Taz
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: coffee mate on October 18, 2011, 01:12:32 PM
For Brian who lost his battle with cancer this morning.



                                                God bless you Brian.
                                                           RIP
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Julie. on November 08, 2011, 09:02:28 PM
In memory of Mary (my mother in law) who sadly passed away one year ago today.
Loving thoughts to my dear husband who misses his mum each and every single day.

God saw you getting tired,
when a cure was not to be,
so he wrapped his arms around you,
and whispered come to me.
 
You didn't deserve what you went through,
so  he gave you rest,
Gods garden must be beautiful,
He only takes the best.

God bless Mary, RIP. :ange:

 
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Post by: CLKD on January 26, 2012, 11:48:39 AM
 :hug:
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Post by: Cazikins on February 05, 2012, 09:59:28 PM
In memory of my Mum who passed away 7 years today.

Still miss you Mum.  :-* :-*
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Post by: san on February 14, 2012, 10:30:38 PM
Happy Birthday mum. You would have been 85yrs today. (http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/flowers/t68015.gif) (http://yoursmiles.org/t-flowers.php)
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Post by: Christine662 on February 20, 2012, 08:38:03 AM
For my beautiful little boy....you would have been 23 today & a beautiful young man.

Night Night Baby xx
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Post by: viv on February 24, 2012, 10:13:49 PM
For my lovely girl

Happy Birthday Sweetheart.

One day I will hold you in my arms again.

Sleep tight.



Honeyb
x
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Post by: purplenanny on March 01, 2012, 12:24:39 AM
(http://bestsmileys.com/flowers/1.gif)

To my dear sweet Auntie, a true lady who loved her flowers. Our time together was beautiful and you will always be in my heart. You were an inspiration with your courage and strength. Re-united with Mum, God bless you both.  x x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: san on March 02, 2012, 10:54:48 PM
A lovely poem which often brings comfort ....

"Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by my old name, speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me. Let my name be the household word that it always was. Let my name be spoken without effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolutely unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval somewhere very near, just around the corner. All is well. Nothing is past, nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before, only better; infinitely happier and forever."
Henry Scott Holland

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Post by: purplenanny on March 03, 2012, 09:12:53 AM
Beautiful, thank you for posting San

Purplenanny x x
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Post by: jax on March 03, 2012, 11:20:07 AM
its that time of year again mum. March still hurts so much. just came here to talk to you and 1st thing i saw was San had posted the poem I read for you when you went, that kind of felt spooky :-)
I miss you so much most times but March has mothers day and your anniversary on 10th. This year its our silver wedding on 14th and it feels so phoney. S is driving me nuts but is it him or me? either way I am miserable and feel like running away for a while which of course I cant ....wish you were here mummsy xxx
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Post by: sandie w on March 06, 2012, 05:36:28 PM
For my Dad who passed away 36 years ago today (only 52 years old)

Thought of you today, but that is nothing new. I thought about you yesterday and days before that too. I think of you in silence, I often speak your name. All I have is memories and a picture in a frame. Your memory is a keepsake in which I'll never part. God has you in his keeping, I have you in my heart .

TM
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Post by: Bette on March 15, 2012, 08:46:44 AM
Thinking of a sweet guy who I worked closely with for over 20 years who was taken by a massive stroke in his 50s. He was doing what he loved - walking in the Peaks - and wouldn't have wanted to face an inactive life so if it had to happen, this was the best way. He'd just taken (very) early retirement so he could do more walking, sailing, ski-ing; I just wish that he'd had longer to enjoy it. His poor widow....  :'( :'( :'(
Bette x
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Post by: purplenanny on March 15, 2012, 07:14:28 PM
Farewell my dearest Auntie, a most beautiful day for your funeral service. A sad but glorious goodbye. Reunited with Mum , rest in peace my lovely. x x
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Post by: jax on March 18, 2012, 11:16:52 AM
for everyone missing their mum today  :'( :hug:
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Post by: purplenanny on March 18, 2012, 11:36:22 AM
Mum and Auntie. Your first Mothers Day together. Missing you both on this special day. Forever in my heart. x x
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Post by: Christine662 on March 18, 2012, 07:24:25 PM
Love to Mum on Mothering Sunday xx
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Post by: Oldteen on March 21, 2012, 04:50:21 PM
Mum and Dad, I wish I could be a child again and have you both back.
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Post by: purplenanny on April 21, 2012, 09:32:06 PM
Missing you so much my dearest Auntie. Your Christmas Cacti is blooming its heart out on my windowsill and makes me smile. x x
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Post by: jax on May 08, 2012, 10:54:59 AM
Thinking of my ex mil (1st marriage)
2 years ago she struggled with bowel cancer and has survived it only to be told a month ago that she has advanced liver cancer now....they mistook her recent problems as depression!
she is at home with macmillan nurses attending. My ex told me today she has about a week to 10 days at most ...feel so helpless and sad.
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Post by: jax on May 11, 2012, 11:55:56 AM
ex mil passed away this morning, faster than expected but a relief for the family.
Thinking of A, he was so upset when he rang :-(
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Post by: Christine662 on May 11, 2012, 02:01:09 PM
Thinking of my MIL & my OH.

MIL is 95 & is slowly leaving us...not ill as such, very old & frail.

Only taking fluid on a sponge now.

Hugs to OH
Hugs to MIL

xx

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Post by: CLKD on May 27, 2012, 08:50:56 PM
 :hug:
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Post by: ricky on July 02, 2012, 01:26:44 PM
My darling grandchild whom sadly I will never meet, died in the womb about 4 weeks ago.
around the same time as my Mum.


 :'(
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Post by: CLKD on July 02, 2012, 01:30:29 PM
Oh Ricky  :'(  ..........  :hug:
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Post by: Bette on July 02, 2012, 03:09:03 PM
Don't know what to say, Ricky.  :-\ :'( :hug:
Bette x
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Post by: purplenanny on July 02, 2012, 03:33:28 PM
 :( (http://:() so sorry Ricky x x  (http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/hug/t4603.gif) (http://yoursmiles.org/t-hug.php)
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Post by: viv on July 02, 2012, 03:34:27 PM
So sorry to hear this Ricky.

I can say I do understand as I lost a baby too although she was 5 days old your loss will be no less. Be there for your daughter. Her hopes and dreams have gone. SANDS are very good and will offer support if she needs it.
You can ask for contact details from her midwife.
Keep talking, this is a bereavement and its so very hard to deal with.

Tell your daughter from me there is hope in the future when she may be ready. I went on to have another little girl who is now 17 and the light of my life.

 :hug:

Honeyb
xx
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Post by: CazzaT on July 02, 2012, 07:24:04 PM
So sorry Ricky  :'(

 :hug:

Cazza   xx
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Post by: Eddie on July 02, 2012, 07:50:03 PM
That's so sad Ricky......
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Post by: jax on July 04, 2012, 07:13:02 AM
Thinking of Trey and Don at this painful and difficult time for them both.
wishing them strength and courage xxxx
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Post by: Heron on August 12, 2012, 03:06:09 PM
Remembering my special mum who left us 4 years ago today.
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Post by: Anne B on August 12, 2012, 04:30:19 PM
Anne Marie and Isabel. Two special friends. Miss you both so much.

Gran and Grandpa. Thanks for the special memories.
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Post by: jax on August 13, 2012, 11:37:46 AM
thinking of my sister on what would have been your 67th birthday...7 years have gone so fast xx
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Post by: Cazikins on August 14, 2012, 09:47:32 PM
2 years tomorrow my very dear friend Jane died of bowel cancer. After a very brave fight she succumbed 2 weeks after her 50th birthday.
I miss her so very much every day.  :'( :'(

I do hope Jane that you ran to greet Jasper at rainbow bridge, I know you will have been there waiting for him with open arms & a smile on your face - & I know Jasper will have been so pleased to see his Mistress - hope you had a cooked sausage for him  ;D ;D. I hope you both remember the walks we all shared down on the beach & Jasper can have a lovely swim again in the sea.

Love C & T   :scottie:
XXX
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Post by: CLKD on August 15, 2012, 01:18:33 PM
 :hug:
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Post by: Dyan on August 17, 2012, 08:00:08 AM
Remembering my Dad who died 19 years ago today aged 57.

"In Dreams I Walk With You"
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Post by: purplenanny on August 18, 2012, 08:10:27 PM
Missing Mum & Dad and Auntie so much. Always in my thoughts, forever in my heart. You would all be so proud of my boys. x x
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Post by: jax on August 19, 2012, 04:49:08 PM
missing you mum, had the weirdest dream about you last night....nothing in it was familiar....your "house" in the dream wasnt yours ?? wish I knew what you were trying to tell me  :'(
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Post by: CLKD on August 19, 2012, 08:59:13 PM
Probably nothing Jax, the brain gets muddled; picks up old 'news' and history and mixes it with peripheray stuff. Nuisance ain't it  ::)
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Post by: Margarett on August 27, 2012, 07:20:23 PM
In memory of my Dad, who died 15 years ago today. Miss you, Dad.xx
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Post by: san on September 06, 2012, 04:53:52 PM
It was 28 yrs ago today you went. So suddenly ... I still miss you dad x
(http://i1.ytimg.com/i/LXKCD2RnWZ79jFQhD2l6jw/1.jpg?v=d3c6fe)
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Post by: Dyan on October 18, 2012, 08:29:01 AM
Remembering my Dad today which would have been his 77th birthday.
Hope you're enjoying your whiskey & dry ginger up there Dad! X
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Post by: jax on November 24, 2012, 06:55:44 PM
Thinking of you mum on your birthday. 14 years without you and miss you as much as ever x  :'(
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Post by: jax on January 17, 2013, 10:47:15 PM
Hi dad....
 gone 26 years already ! x
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Post by: honeybun on February 23, 2013, 06:14:32 PM
It would have been my daughter's 20th birthday tomorrow. I know it's been a lifetime but it is on my mind today. Not the easiest time because it still hurts.

I have two lovely kids but miss the one who is not with us.

Rest in peace my sweetheart.


Honeyb
X
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Post by: purplenanny on March 10, 2013, 06:40:11 PM
Remembering my Mum and her twin sister today. Very sad not to be sharing Mothers Day with them both. x x
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Post by: lily on March 10, 2013, 06:53:38 PM
Remembering my mum and mother in law on mothers day.
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Post by: Cazikins on May 14, 2013, 06:35:44 PM
If any of you remember my Dad, could you please say a prayer for him as he only has a few more days left with us.
91 & not out yet & still fighting like the proud soldier that he is.

Liver cancer.


Thanks.
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Post by: Taz2 on May 15, 2013, 09:30:22 AM
Oh Cazi - I am so sorry to read this. My thoughts are with you and him.

Taz x
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Post by: honeybun on May 15, 2013, 09:41:16 AM
My thoughts are with you too.

May his passing be peaceful.


Honeyb
X
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Post by: littleminnie on May 15, 2013, 11:45:13 AM
I hope he doesn't suffer much longer Caz. My thoughts are with you and your family.   
LM x
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Post by: Greyhoundgal on May 15, 2013, 12:36:43 PM
My thoughts are with you and your family x
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Post by: CLKD on May 15, 2013, 01:18:08 PM
 :hug:
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Post by: ladybug50 on May 15, 2013, 09:31:31 PM
Caz for you  ...   :hug: :bighug:
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Post by: Cazikins on May 16, 2013, 03:16:22 PM
Thanks everyone for all your posts.

Dad has now been moved to a side ward, & when I left him 1/2 hour ago to come home & have a quick shower & something to eat he looked peaceful & comfortable.

He had a blood clot in his leg at the weekend, he then had a stroke yesterday afternoon & has been unconscious since, all this after being diagnosed with liver cancer 2 weeks ago.

They are giving him morphine & letting nature take its course.

We really thought he was going to be ok for a bit longer, but as soon as they told him that they were going to send him to the hospice he semed to go downhill so quickly.

I am going back there to sit with him (along with my BB, SIL & nieces) later this evening.

Love Cazi xx
 

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Post by: CLKD on May 16, 2013, 03:34:21 PM
Nature takes over.  We can only wait and watch.  Remember though that hearing is the last sense to disappear so talking to him and not about him is important!!!! reminiscence over the bed between yourselves too.  Holding his hand?  So he is aware.
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Post by: Scampi on May 17, 2013, 08:26:34 AM
Thinking of my Dad today on what would have been his 75th birthday - hope he's having a BBQ to celebrate in that campsite in the sky.  Love you and miss you Dad, always.

Thinking also of Cazikins and her family xxx
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Post by: Dyan on May 17, 2013, 11:04:46 AM
Thinking of you caz.

Dyan X
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Cazikins on May 17, 2013, 03:32:08 PM
CLKD, thank you for reminding me about the hearing scese being the last to disappear, I had truly forgotten that. We put it to good use last night & again today.
I had a few minutes to myself with him this afternoon, & I sang to him.
I've been a Wild Rover,
Home, Home on the Range,
Country Roads.
And he squeezed my hand, just a tad but I knew he could hear me & was humming along.

Thinking of Scampis' dad too today. Happy BBQ'ing up in the sky, save a burger for my Dad. :)

Thanks Dyan,  :-*

We think he is in stage 2 of 3 now. They have upped the morphine dose.
The custos of the alms house where dad lives came round to read the last rites this afternoon, it was very moving & fitting.
OH & I are back up there this evening - just might have to have another sing song..... Inky Pinky Parlez Vous... no no no I must not sing that song (but then again it is a song I overheard dad singing once).
 ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on May 17, 2013, 03:33:56 PM
There were 10 green bottles; I'm a pink toothbrush, you're a blue toothbrush ....... incy wincy spider ........ ; moon river .....

 :hug:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Dyan on August 17, 2013, 07:18:05 PM
In memory of my Dad.
Passed away 20 years ago today.

"In dreams I walk with you"

Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on August 17, 2013, 07:19:18 PM
 :hug:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Dyan on October 18, 2013, 08:35:15 AM
Thinking of my Dad today who would have been 78.

Cheers Dad :drunk:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on October 18, 2013, 01:18:59 PM
He was young then?   :hug:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Dyan on October 21, 2013, 01:53:44 PM
Only 57 CLKD.

Thanks for the hug.
Only saw it today,haven't been on for and a day or two.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Rowan on October 21, 2013, 03:22:32 PM
I thought this might be right for Contemplation Corner

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/enter.cfm?l=eng
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on October 21, 2013, 06:40:06 PM
Thank you.  I lit a candle for my spaniel  :'(
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Rose on October 21, 2013, 11:17:42 PM
I just wanted to say good-bye to George the most beautiful cat in the world and didn't he know it! Hope all the angels give you loads of love as we have loved you.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on October 22, 2013, 10:37:54 AM
Recently Rose ?
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Rose on October 24, 2013, 12:42:08 AM
Yes, just last week. We are all devastated by it as he was the most beautiful big ginger fur-ball with a big attitude. He was only 3 and he was loved enormously by us
but someone put down poison and he got out and well the rest is history. There are a few cat haters around here but no one we can point a finger at. Thank you for asking CLKD.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on October 24, 2013, 03:43:32 PM
 :'(  The police and RSPCA have been told about the poison?  It's never easy but when an animal is targeted or picks up anti-freeze etc..
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Taz2 on October 24, 2013, 03:49:24 PM
How awful for you Rose. What type of poison was it and I hope that your local press has published a warning to others.

Taz  :hug:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on October 24, 2013, 03:58:11 PM
In the Fens it was air-gun pellets for about 2/3 years  :'(
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Rose on October 24, 2013, 11:11:54 PM
Thank you for asking. The RSPCA said that as the poison was weedkiller then they had no proof of who had actually done it. I suspect one person but they questioned him and of course he denied all knowledge. We raised George from a tiny kitten who had to be bottle fed to this great big fur ball! He was one good looking cat and knew it! If my daughter wasn't there at night, he'd try to sleep with anyone. One night he scared the living daylights out of a guest when he forced the door open and got in beside them! I know we are supposed to keep cats indoors but he got out every so often and used to play with Daisy the dog. We miss him so much. I don't know why anyone would be so cruel to hurt an innocent animal. I have had my fair share of pain but I hate to know how much he suffered. As I said, hope the angels are taking good care of him x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Taz2 on October 25, 2013, 11:56:22 AM
I suppose that it could be that George had wandered across somewhere that had recently been sprayed - some of the lawn weedkillers are very toxic and some people just don't think about visiting animals unfortunately. He would then just have to have licked his paws to ingest enough to harm him. One of my cats died after licking a newly creosoted fence - the fence owner was really upset but it wasn't her fault obviously.

You gave George a wonderful life - he was lucky to have you.

Taz x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Greyhoundgal on October 25, 2013, 12:24:11 PM
Poor George, but he had a good life with you for his short time - he'll be waiting for you at Rainbow Bridge x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on October 25, 2013, 02:43:54 PM
I was going to post about Rainbow Bridge too .........
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Rose on October 25, 2013, 09:33:46 PM
Where is Rainbow Ridge? Would love to hear about it.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Taz2 on October 25, 2013, 09:40:42 PM
Here you are Rose https://rainbowsbridge.com/poem.htm

Taz x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Rose on October 25, 2013, 09:45:39 PM
Thank you so much Taz 2 that is so beautiful x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Taz2 on October 25, 2013, 09:47:17 PM
... and very comforting..

Taz x :hug:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: honeybun on October 25, 2013, 10:04:11 PM
No matter how many times I read the poem it always makes me.  :'(

And warms my heart.


Honeyb
X
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on October 26, 2013, 10:19:53 AM
I can't read it or type 'If it should be' without  :'(
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Rose on October 26, 2013, 09:56:44 PM
I had a dream about George and he was with someone who was obviously taking care of him. This made the Rainbow Ridge all the more beautiful and yes so comforting. I have always believed that animals have souls. Just look into their eyes and you can see them. My dog, Daisy has been staying very close to me and as she played with Gorgeous George (as we always call him) she knows something is up. Thank you all. :hug:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on October 27, 2013, 06:30:25 PM
I saw the Spirit leave my bunny when he was pts and saw 2 of our cats afterwards  ;)
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Rose on October 27, 2013, 09:53:52 PM
Was it a lovely experience for you, CLKD?
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Hurdity on January 10, 2014, 10:23:45 AM
Remembering my dear father who died 10 years ago today

This song is for him
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Fq6lCcAkpU

..... and thinking of my uncle in America having major surgery today also.

Hurdity x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Greyhoundgal on January 14, 2014, 01:20:04 PM
Remembering my dearest Dad who passed away 9 years ago - finally reunited with Mum.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on January 14, 2014, 08:00:41 PM
Yes it wasn't something that worried me. In fact I felt relieved. I think the little cat had visited to tell me it was OK to let her 'brother' go ……… they were pts 9 days apart.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Cazikins on January 14, 2014, 09:33:49 PM
 :hug: :hug: for Hurdity & Greyhoundgal - Dads are so precious aren't they  :'( :'(


Pets are special too  :'( :'(
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Eddie on January 15, 2014, 12:20:26 AM
A wee bit late, but I have been thinking of my dad today, we'll 14th, would have been his birthday. Gone now 11 years august past, sometimes still feels like very recent.
Eddie.x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Chaotic on January 15, 2014, 06:54:41 AM
It's been a hard few years,mum,dad,brother,6 dogs - really find it hard to cope sometimes,miss them all so much  :'(
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on January 15, 2014, 12:38:17 PM
I didn't have a relationship with my Dad.  He was there. An ominous prescence  :'( and 7 years down the line, I am more aware of why he was as he was  :'(
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Cazikins on February 02, 2014, 11:26:26 AM
Remembering my Dear Dad who passed away last May
He would have been 92 today
Off to the crem in a mo
Maybe then I wont feel so low. :'( :'(

Missing you Dad, hope you are having a waltz up there with Mum xxx
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Cazikins on February 05, 2014, 09:32:18 PM
Thinking of my dear Mum who died 9 years ago today  :'( :'(

Hope you are having a waltz up there with Dad xxx
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Rose on February 06, 2014, 03:53:32 AM
I haven't posted much of late as I've been feeling very low. My other beautiful cat who is on my posts, has vanished these past 2 weeks. I really haven't got the heart to have another cat as we've lost 2 now.
My thoughts go out to all who have lost loved ones. It's the love that matters.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on February 06, 2014, 11:43:59 AM
Vanished  :o .......   it's the not knowing  :hug: and like you, I don't want to go through it all again  :'(  Have you put out a message on your local radio etc.?
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Rose on February 07, 2014, 01:25:13 AM
Hi CLKD, yes we did all that we could but I know she's gone and yes it hurts not knowing. There is no closure. Thank you for the hug x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on February 07, 2014, 11:50:12 AM
Local radio; vet's; pet stores; village shops; posties (who have their eyes/ears to the ground  ;)); schools; PetSearch?  It really is the not knowing  :'(
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Dyan on February 07, 2014, 04:07:18 PM
I lost a cat when I moved to this house 17 years ago.
I had two and they both went off for a couple of days,but only one came back.
I rang the radio station,paper,put up signs in the village but to no avail.
Missed him so much,although I loved them both, he was my favourite there was something about him.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on February 07, 2014, 05:35:28 PM
 :hug:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: lindyloo on February 07, 2014, 09:12:02 PM
I just want to say how very very much I miss my dear mum and Dad 
Mums been gone 3 yrs ago Dad 25 yes
Seems the older I get the more I miss them so
Just writing this is making me cry

Perhaps it's because am a only child feel as it no one remembers me as a child

Sorry to moan must be the time of year and the weather !!

Xxx  Lindyloo
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on February 07, 2014, 10:17:48 PM
No cousins?
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: purplenanny on February 07, 2014, 11:47:08 PM
f :hug: (http://f :hug:)big hug coming your way lindyloo, hope you feel happier soon. I agree , the older i get the more I miss my mum and dad and they passed many years ago. PN x x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: honeybun on February 24, 2014, 10:26:36 AM
Happy birthday to  my precious baby girl who would have been 22 today.


Sweet dreams my darling. I think of you every day.


Honeyb
x
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on February 24, 2014, 12:00:33 PM
My dog - pts in 2002  :'(
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Scampi on February 24, 2014, 03:01:35 PM
Been missing my Dad, who died 2 years ago at the beginning of February, very much these last few weeks.  Another of our old caravanning friends died last week - talking about our weekends together and the laughs we've had in so many fields made Dad's loss vivid and painful again.  Miss you and love you Dad, always.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Greyhoundgal on February 28, 2014, 01:23:43 PM
Happy Birthday to my brother - he would have been 48 today.  I only found out last week from reading through some of Mum's old diaries that he died the day after my birthday and although their hearts must have been breaking in two they still gave me the birthday party they had already organised (1966)  :'( :'(
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on February 28, 2014, 03:16:42 PM
Looking after the living …….. important to keep a sense of 'normality' at a sad time  :hug:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Cazikins on April 13, 2014, 09:06:20 PM
Been thinking of my Mum today as it was 12 years ago exactly that she "flipped" & was put into a "special" hospital for 3 months, then transferred to an EMI home where she lived for 3 years.
She never recalled that day, she must have blocked it from her memory (shame we couldn't).
It wasn't her fault but it was a horrible, horrible day & one I shall never forget - sadly she is no longer with us.

Dementia (cardio/vascular), an awful, awful thing to witness - but even worse to have.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on April 14, 2014, 01:31:08 PM
 :tulips2:
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Scampi on April 15, 2014, 01:58:46 PM
Don't know if this is the right place, but my thoughts today are very much with the families of the 96, and all others affected by those horrible events 25 years ago.  It was the day of my first marriage, but my abiding memory of the day has always been those scenes - may they never walk alone.
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: CLKD on April 15, 2014, 02:00:11 PM
It's OK to post here  ;) .............    ............
Title: Re: Contemplation Corner
Post by: Hurdity on January 10, 2015, 08:00:44 PM
Thinking of my father who died 11 years ago today while I was away and couldn't be near him. I can't believe it has been another year already.

He loved this modern folk song which I used to sing and play on the guitar ... can't find the version I used to know sung by Maggie Holland, but the first one of these two sung by Nic Jones is similar.
http://mainlynorfolk.info/nic.jones/songs/icarus.html

Also thinking of anyone who has lost someone close to them recently.....

Hurdity x