Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Other Health Discussion => Topic started by: mandss on April 11, 2021, 12:39:17 PM
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I am due back at work tomorrow after being on furlough since Christmas. I am really pleased to be going back, and enjoy my job and have some amazing friends their. However I have this silly notion that between now (lunchtime on sunday and tomorrow morning) I will be come unwell and not able to go in, thus making me look bad and unreliable.
There is nothing wrong with me other than this feeling of panic, I woke a few times last night feeling hot and panicky. Today I am doing everything I can to calm my self down (taking calms, deep breathing, exercising and doing some hand reflexology). I am making myself feel ill for no reason. I am dreading going to bed tonight as it all seems worse when its dark. Any suggestions peeps............??
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U are not making yourself ill! This is a common reaction to a change of routine. I'm like this when we even thing of booking a holiday ! and it passed my mind about 2 hours ago, how I will feel in the morning ::)
U will probably feel fine in the morning, you've had too much time to think. It's the flight/fight response: knowing that however, doesn't make it easier to deal with!
......... and breath. Stay up later until you are really sleepy, watch rubbish on TV and criticise - keeps that brain busy ;-). Set the alarm for 15 mins earlier so that you don't wake with a rush = anxiety surges. Ask when you arrive at work "Any1 else feel like it's the 1st day back at school?" you'll probably be surprised ;-)
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I can completely relate to that particular anxiety and thought I was the only person who got it! When I was working very part time it seemed worse for some reason, and I often seemed to make it happen, although it was never anything serious.
Get busy and distract yourself would be my suggestion and if you watch TV make sure it's comedy. I also find the dark times the worst - when that happens I leave a really dim light on as a comfort.
Good luck and let us know how you go - you will be fine.
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I've had the landing light on at night since deeply depressed in the 1990s. When going away I take a plug-in night light.
How R U feeling now?
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Thanks ladies, I actually slept well, I might have overdosed on lavender!! I am now looking forward to going to work xxxx
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Fantastic mandss - good for you. I was going to suggest clary sage which is stronger than lavender but if it works save the CS for when you're more desperate (bit like first line antibiotics!)
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Anticipation anxiety is the pits >:( ::)