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Menopause Discussion => Other Health Discussion => Topic started by: Jeepers on August 05, 2020, 08:36:51 PM

Title: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Jeepers on August 05, 2020, 08:36:51 PM
Hi

Another day, another thing to worry about.  My eldest daughter rang me up today to tell me she has been referred for a scan as she is continuously bleeding, and they don’t know why. She is on the pill.

I am really panicking, so was hoping that someone could tell me some  possible innocuous reason for it? I’m so worried, and don’t dare google ( I didn’t let on that I was worried to her, didn’t want to freak her out).

Oh, and she had a smear come back positive for hpv this year, and called back in a year... for retest.  ( so much for the vaccine !). She is 25.

Thanks

Jeepers xx
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Salad on August 05, 2020, 10:15:44 PM
Hi Jeepers

Sorry to hear you’re so worried, a big downside of being a parent.

It sounds like your daughter is being investigated, which is good news.
It is possible that her problem is related to the pill she’s been taking- hormones   ::)

Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: CLKD on August 06, 2020, 08:20:11 AM
I agree with Salad - parents are born to worry. 

How long does she have to wait for the scan?  I found during treatments that the waiting was the worst, the results I could deal with  ::)

 :hug:
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Blot on August 06, 2020, 11:49:02 AM
Hi Jeepers. I totally understand your worry and I’m the worst person in the world with regards to worrying about my kids.

 Might just be the pill she’s on which is affecting hormones etc and she may just need something different. When is the scan and was it the gp who referred her? I had a quick google for you and nothing alarming jumped out at me. This is different but I know of ladies who have had the implant who had constant bleeding so maybe it’s just the hormones out of whack? Things resolved once the implant was removed so maybe she just needs a change.
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: CLKD on August 06, 2020, 11:51:55 AM
My 1st Contraceptive Pill made me sick ....... no scans then, the GP simply switched me.
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Jeepers on August 06, 2020, 08:32:40 PM
Hi

Thanks all for replying, feeling a bit better now.  Hopefully input is just something to do with the pill.

Her scan is on 25 August, so nearly 3 weeks away.  Seems like an age.

Yes, worrying is a parents job.  Coincidentally, my younger daughter is having a scan next week for bladder/ kidney investigations.

Just gotta wait and see I suppose

Thanks again

Jeepers xx

Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Penguin99 on August 06, 2020, 10:11:56 PM
I worry all the time about everything with my sons.  I too did a quick google, it says nothing bad that I saw and it can be a common side effect. I understand your worry though. I would be exactly the same, it's what us parents do ;)
I felt so bad when my son first got bad acid, I just gave him gaviscon, then after 18 months he started being sick after eating, turns out he is coeliac, how bad did I feel, still  have guilt now.
 :bighug:
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: 7dwarfs on August 07, 2020, 03:03:24 PM
Hi

Another day, another thing to worry about.  My eldest daughter rang me up today to tell me she has been referred for a scan as she is continuously bleeding, and they don’t know why. She is on the pill.

I am really panicking, so was hoping that someone could tell me some  possible innocuous reason for it? I’m so worried, and don’t dare google ( I didn’t let on that I was worried to her, didn’t want to freak her out).

Oh, and she had a smear come back positive for hpv this year, and called back in a year... for retest.  ( so much for the vaccine !). She is 25.

Thanks

Jeepers xx

Hi jeepers , to be a parent is to worry isn’t it! I am sure as others have said it’s most likely her pill that is causing the abnormal bleeding.

Five years ago I had an abnormal smear after ignoring my reminders for 18 months😳 testing positive for HPV , had treatment to remove the abnormal cells shown on further investigation and have had the all clear ever since , I had no symptoms at all ,so if your concerned that could be the cause please try not to worry. Easy to say I know x
Is she taking the combined pill or the mini pill, I think more women have issues with abnormal bleeding on the mini pill?
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Jeepers on August 10, 2020, 02:52:54 PM
Hi all

Thank you all again for replying. I'm not sure which pill.. if it's mini pill or not, I'll ask her.

She has come home for a while, and she told me yesterday that she has ovary pain, which has been going on "for months", in her words.

She said it's not severe, just low grade pain.

She seems to be coping okay and said " there are literally 100s of things it could be". So, I try not to let her know how anxious I am... She is probably right
 

Jeepers xx
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: marge on August 10, 2020, 03:24:18 PM
Thinking of you Jeepers; from the day they're born we worry about our kids. Even though it could be one of a hundred things (as your daughter so rightly says), l know what you'll be thinking. Fingers crossed all is ok for her.
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Lyncola on August 11, 2020, 09:15:16 AM
Hi Jeepers,

Thinking of you and your daughter and sending positive thoughts and hugs.

Interesting with your daughter ovary pain and bleeding. I wonder and believe they could be connected. Happened to me when I was 25 years old.
When I had 4 ovarian cyst and endometriosis I had mid cycle bleeding, but my ovary pain was like someone stabbing me.

I understand how you feel anxious about your daughter, it never stops this worrying.
 :bighug:
Lyncola
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Kathleen on August 12, 2020, 01:19:17 PM
Hello Jeepers.

I am sorry that you are having this worry. I have an adult daughter and son and I know how you feel.

Reading this thread reminded me that I had ovary pain when I came off the pill. My GP explained that when we ovulate sometimes the surrounding tissue can bleed a little and this can cause  pain. She said this can occur when our hormones have changed for some reason and she thought coming off the pill and re starting my natural cycle would account for the pain in my case. Perhaps this supports the theory that your daughter's change of pill is the cause of her problems.

Incidentally the pains soon subsided and I've never had any further problems with my ovaries.

I hope this helps a little and sending hugs.

K.
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Jeepers on August 13, 2020, 08:55:40 PM
Thank you all for your really thoughtful replies, they really do help.  My daughter is on cerazette,  but I think it was micrgynon before. Less than two weeks til her scan now, just got to try not to panic.

My younger daughter has had her scan and the so ovrapher said he could find no masses which is a relief.  She then   Went to the loo and he rescanned and said that 12 ml or less after emptying would be good, but she had 50ml, no wonder she is wanting to pee all the time. Anyway, she has an appointment with consultant next week to discuss the results, so hopefully she’ll get some answers?

I’m sorry to put all this down on here.  Other areas of my life are such a mess right now, and it helps to get a little perspective on my kids worries, which become my worries...

Thanks all  :-*

Jeepers xx
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: CLKD on August 14, 2020, 07:06:39 AM
Now your daughter is aware it can be sorted.  It's often the not knowing that gets the old brain wizzing!
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Jeepers on August 14, 2020, 08:40:09 AM
Yes, am relieved about youngest, hopefully will get a similar result (i.e no masses) when eldest has her scan on 25th

Thanks

Jeepers xx
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Jeepers on August 25, 2020, 10:35:13 AM
Hi

Thought I’d update this. Eldest had her scan today, and was told they couldn’t see anything wrong, and to her she needs to back to her gp.

Whilst she is relieved they didn’t find anything in her womb, tubes or ovaries, she is still really scared she has cervical cancer, as that would not show up on a scan.

As I previously mentioned, she had her first cervical screening at the beginning of this year, and she tested positive for HPV. They told her she would be recalled after a year. She is worried they may have missed something (I can so relate to that).

Hopefully she’ll get an appointment next week

ThAnks again everyone

Jeepers xx



Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: sheila99 on August 25, 2020, 12:37:48 PM
When I had pre-cancerous cells in my 30s the symptoms were different. I had bright red spotting between periods, I'd get it for a few days then nothing for weeks. Obviously I'm not an expert but it doesn't sound like cervical cancer to me.
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Jeepers on August 25, 2020, 03:51:41 PM
Thanks Sheila, that’s made me feel a bit better about it

Jeepers xx
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: marge on August 25, 2020, 05:32:59 PM
My daughter had a routine smear test and was immediately called back for laser treatment as the cells were so bad. Sorry,  l can't remember all the technical terms. She'd had no symptoms. After 6 months another smear test which was ok and they'd see her again in 3 years. But, anxious mother that l am, l'm paying for her to have private smears in the 2 intervening years. I thought 3 years was too long to leave it.
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Lyncola on August 26, 2020, 09:08:56 AM
Hi Jeepers,

Sending you and your daughter love and prayers. I hope she get some answers soon and it’s nothing serious.

💜 Lyncola
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Blot on September 19, 2020, 09:34:21 PM
How’s things with your daughter Jeepers? Any further forward?
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: dahliagirl on September 19, 2020, 11:28:36 PM
As others have said, continuous bleeding on progestogen only long term contraception is very common.  Also ovarian cysts are more common.

HPV is also most common in this age group.  It needs to be a persistent infection, then cause cell changes (which do not necessarily become cancer) for any treatment to take place.  Most often, it reverts by itself.

It is very worrying to go through.  :foryou:  Hopefully, it will all turn out alright soon.
Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Jeepers on September 21, 2020, 08:31:27 PM
Hi

Thanks for your responses, it really does help.

So, the hospital told her she really needed to go back to the go, and not to let it slide. So daughter went back and is supposed to be being referrred.  We talked about it and decided to invoke her private health insurance,

Provider now saying that they need medical history to prove that it is not a pre existing condition. I hope that won’t take long.

Dahiliagirl, I do wonder what the point of the hpv vaccine was. My daughter was in the first year to get it, so it obviously doesn’t work that well

Jeepers xx




Title: Re: Worried about my daughter
Post by: Taz2 on September 26, 2020, 07:53:28 PM



Dahiliagirl, I do wonder what the point of the hpv vaccine was. My daughter was in the first year to get it, so it obviously doesn’t work that well

Jeepers xx

Sorry to hear about your daughter Jeepers and I hope she is doing ok. Just want to say that the HPV vaccine protects against the four most common types but there are over forty types which affect the genitals so maybe she was unlucky in picking up one of the uncommon ones.

Taz x  :hug: