Menopause Matters Forum
General Discussion => New Members => Topic started by: Booroo on October 20, 2019, 07:53:11 AM
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I'm 47 in peri for prob 3?years have lots of stress lost both my parents within last 6 years have 3 children one away at school uni in different country one who works full time and has crohns active and primary school little one. I come on here lots for reassurance I suffer terribly with anxiety and ibs am doing online counselling at mo am looking for help to stop me going off my head ;D
Thanks
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Sorry that you don't have parents for support. As well as having youngsters to co-ordinate, it can take a toll on daily life.
How does the anxiety manifest itself?
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Hi lump in throat come and go seen 3 different gps all happy that nothing untoward and anxiety with ibs can cause upper gi problems I don't have friends as such I don't trust that many after couple of so called ones have dropped me in poo over th years and my proper friends are younger and nit going through it so don't have the chance to discuss so that winds me up I guess and other people can't keep their mouth shut and what you tell them ends up doing the rounds!
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You can vent on here booroo,I joined this site over a year ago now,with dreadful health anxiety and depression,the ladies on here helped me immensely,just to know you're not alone can be enough,my daughter has crohns/colitis and I was diagnosed with IBS over 25 years ago, I also had the lump in throat,which can just appear but it is probably anxiety,had it checked out with a barium meal and nothing there,then mysteriously the lump went,funny that🙄 keep posting and you will find the help here,much love
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Thank you
Yes have had health anxiety in past dr google not way to go but still do it! Yes then you keep swallowing to see if ok ridiculously true
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Going to NHS sites on GOOGLE is OK.
As oestrogen levels drop so muscles may become lax = aches and pains, hiatus hernia, throat problems ......
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Sorry to hear you have joined the Meno anxiety club too.
Very similar story to yourself. I am 49 and since Peri at 45 have had bad health
anxiety on and off. I don't have many friend as have moved to somewhere remote and those I have
only want to hear the good stuff. It's tough.
I have diagnosed myself with everything via Google over the years and find the health anxiety very hard to
beat. Now I just go to the GP rather than spend weeks/months fretting. 'Funny' (but not) that I am worried about
lump in throat at the moment despite two visits to the GP telling me it is just anxiety!
There are so many niggling Peri/Meno symptoms - gastric/mental/physical/gynea etc that is is easy to be
worried and not know what is normal and what not .
My kids are quite young still - I had them late - so there is a lot going on to contend with. Sometime I feel my life isn't
fun anymore.
Anyway you are not alone.xxxxxxx
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Squeaker99 thank you yes it does feel an alone place and I never knew that it could be so debilitating it was so taboo never talked about and all you think is hot flushes so so more than that. Yes reassurance from dr google not good cos sends you off even more. When you don't have anyone to ask though at home that's what we do lol.
It's all a pain in the bum xx let's hope we can support each other
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Ye you seriously begin to wonder where your head is at never used to be like it feel little bit thick at times lol
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Hello. I'm in the age 47, health anxiety, perimenopause club too. Agree to all. I've had the throat thing, reflux, tummy problems..... ugh - it feels never ending when I list it. My diary helps me - “I had this last October and I'm still here...†(that kind of thing). Welcome, by the way xx
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You should try going on the funny side of menopause and read the ....what I've diagnosed myself with this year thread,
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Thanks everyone we are not alone x
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Hi AgathaC
Thats what I should do, keep a diary of things. I'm sure I've been worrying about my heart for at least 3 years!
Love
Jeepers xx
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Hi Ladies,
Can't tell you how reassuring it is to hear that I am not the only one to be diagnosing myself with all manner of things ! My thoughts fluctuate constantly, I can be utterly convinced that I have something terrible one minute then am rational the next and tell myself it's just hormones. But at the time is is really frightening. At the moment I am having lots of tummy troubles, wind, nausea loose stools etc so of course in my head I can convince myself that it is something nasty. After reading lots of stories on here I am reassured that lots of ladies suffer the same.
Gillyv
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Oh yes gillyv,we can actually cause half our ailments by ourselves,anxiety is truly awful,go to the funny side of meno,we've had everything from our hearts falling off to Ebola 😳😆
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It is rare that 1 person in the World will have a medical condition! so most of us are 'within normal limits' ;) :whist: I think we worry more at our age because we haven't peer support - when at school there was someone to have a moan with and an answer for ...... now we know more and have access to less than useful information on the net.
I work on the premise that if I haven't lost weight it ain't going to be terminal ;-). I've had a constant daytime cough for 12 months and now my GP is doing investigations .......... ::)
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Have you done the asthma test clkd
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Not yet. Apparently reflux related ::)
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On a serious note, what Jeepers and I say about a diary is very true. My health anxiety often returns to similar worries - boobs, digestion, throat, skin. By noting down what I worry about and the date and my particular symptoms, it's really helpful to return to. So looking back I can see that my current health worries were also foremost in my mind in August 2018. They are not better, but not are they worse! This can (not always - otherwise I would/could just stop worrying!!) reassure the sane half of my mind that it is really is just a worry rather than anything too real. I probably haven't explained that very well because the worry is real even if I manage to tell myself that I've had it before. Wishing everyone well tonight xxxxx
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My phobia ruled my Life 24/7. No room for any other worries ........... indigestion is that: not a heart attack though as it's the same time every night it happens. That the cramp is not a DVT as it's happened B4 .......... but in the early hours it's not easy to reassure myself!
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Gillyv oh yes everything is o god I must have got this then it's o I must have that it's a very frightening time isn't it
Hard to reassure yourself at times cos you then hear someone say I started like that and now it's terminal,,,, yikes
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It's trying to get things into perspective that's the hard part,health anxiety ruled my life at one point,every minute of every day, I'd been to hospital as I'd a recall after a mammography and there is a big history of breast cancer in my family,then I'd to have a lump removed from the back of my throat (just a skin tag) and thankfully all has been ok but your body goes on high alert at these times and it all became too much for me then every little ache and pain was oh,it MUST be something this time and it spiralled out of control,it was probably one of the worst times of my life,if you can ride through the storm,you WILL come out the other end,fluctuating hormones with the meno cause it all and if you can grasp on to that and think rationally you'll get there,my saving grace was this site and the help I got from the wonderful women on here,I'll never forget their kindness 😊
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What do we fear the most about a 'worst' diagnosis?
For me it's lack of pain control. I have spoken to health professionals who tell me that end of Life drug control is good. Why then are people left in agony until the next dose is 'due' >:(. We all die. But I'm not ready yet ;)
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Morning
Finally feel like I've found all the voices in my head chatting on the same page .😍..
New here....anxiety Has got me too..as a previous sufferer I thought it was old panic attacks from years ago coming back to Get me but seems the meno had a trick up its sleeve I didn't know about...just started to write diary when mine kick in( normally early hours) mainly to divert my train of thought.,helps a lot but at my worst I can't even sit down and pace the house....sorry to hear you girls also have it as I really wouldn't wish it on anyone and if you never had them before I can imagine that was a shock it was as well as many of the other symptoms we get ,..
R x
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Hi rainy kelly,morning is always the worst for it, I had to give up running as had to have an op on my foot and after that,that's when it set in,I'd panic attacks many years ago but for a very different reason,so yes,when this anxiety hit me,like you,I'd no clue that the meno could do this to a woman but coming on here made my anxiety drop so much but by then it had led to depression and I'd definitely never had that before, I couldn't stomach ADs so just weathered the storm,eventually I think my hormones started to settle down, I do still get little bouts of anxiety and always in the morning but it seems to settle as the day goes on. I really hope this forum helps you like it did me
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Hi lump in throat come and go seen 3 different gps all happy that nothing untoward and anxiety with ibs can cause upper gi problems I don't have friends as such I don't trust that many after couple of so called ones have dropped me in poo over th years and my proper friends are younger and nit going through it so don't have the chance to discuss so that winds me up I guess and other people can't keep their mouth shut and what you tell them ends up doing the rounds!
You sound just like me. I also have lump feeling in my throat that is driving me crazy, I've come to the conclusion that mine is a combination of reflux(bad since starting hrt) and anxiety (which I had never experienced before all this nonsense kicked off 18 months ago). A lot of my friends are male and the female ones aren't going through all this yet, and if I'm honest The female ones haven't been at all supportive. I'm 41 and I'm peri according to the doctor. It's a very lonely place sometimes :foryou:
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And not to mention the digestive issues does anybody else have ibs and what symptoms do you get and wha causes your flare ups? And what meds you on please xx
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I'm on mebeverine(colofac) it really has helped with cramping but you need to take them every day 20 mins before food,that was the advice from a dr,I'm always suspicious of the diagnosis of ibs as it covers a HUGE amount of symptoms,I'm a big fan of people doing an intolerance test,since I found out I was wheat and nut intolerant and cut them out of my diet,what a difference
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Larkspur12 it's weird how you can for days without digestion problems then eat something and then bit of indigestion then health anxiety and nervous stomach and it all kicks in
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Well it's upoed the anti on anxiety now! Been back to gp as unsure if having reflux sweet taste in mouth dry mouth etc so on peptac acid to shut door on acid coming back up but can't take it after breakfast cos my other meds need to stay in me to work. I have asked for endoscopy he sthinks I have hiatus hernia causing reflux and is pretty sure sure nothing else
In meantime trying not to panic I'm having sedation no question about that just want it over and done with need support from you lot you really do help xx
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Hi Boroo
I had a gastroscopy about 15 months ago. Because I didn't have anyone who could take me, I had to do it without sedation. It really wasn't that bad, honestly. so, if you are having sedation then I think it will be fine.
Have you had your appointment through yet?
Jeepers xx
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Hi and thanks for replying
Yes before Christmas get it done and dusted xx