Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: lollipop on June 18, 2019, 09:18:57 AM
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Morning ladies i am sitting in beautiful san Antonio bay ibiza and for the last 2 days i ave felt fearful that something bad is gonna happen its making me physically sick i am with all my family daughters and grandchildren i wish i could snap out of it xx
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Hi Lollipop
The first thing is, well done, for getting there. Also, whatever anyone says to you, it isn't going to stop the anxiety, so, take deep breaths, hold, let go.... distraction is good, so every time you feel something starting up, get up move around, try to stay as calm as you can, I find the more I fight it, the less it gets, if I give in to it, I wouldn't leave the house, so, I keep fighting, it seems to completely overwhelm me if I don't fight.
Nothing bad is going to happen, all your family are there, maybe, you should try and get five minutes away, so you can deep breathe, or gather yourself together, I do that, I give myself a good talking to, shake myself down, and carry on.
It's not easy, and you have my complete sympathy, wishing you well,lollipop, and hope you have a great time....xxxx
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What's the worst that might happen? For me it's getting ill or DH getting ill :'( - I don't cope at home leave alone when away :-\
...... and breath! Do you hide your feelings? I tend to.
I always want to rush through the holiday and get home, so that I know if I've got through without a panic attack, if that makes sense :-\
However: you have packed cases, got on a 'plane, not lost your Passport and arrived! It isn't easy. I envy anyone who can do stuff without apparent problems.
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Hi
I was same last week in the beautiful Canary Islands I was looking for nearest hospital incase I needed to go to A& E , it's bloody crazy
I'm half way through my second week and seem to be ok now tho anxiety can peak at any time
Hope your anxiety settles down and you can enjoy rest of your hols
Kaz x
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Hello lollipop.
I completely sympathise, this type of anxiety is horrible. I tell people that it may not be rational but it certainly feels real.
I hope that it's a comfort to know that other women feel the same so you are not alone.
I'm sorry I can't be of more help but hopefully you'll feel better soon.
Take care and sending hugs.
K.
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Hi Lollipop
I just wanted to say well done for going so try and relax now you're there. I say this because I should have gone to Corfu last week with my husband last week for 2 weeks. Instead, we are at home in rainy England.
I had a meltdown (breakdown) with my anxiety about 8 weeks ago so we cancelled it about 5 weeks ago. I really wish I was there now but at the time we cancelled it I could not have gone. We also lost the majority of the money😢.
Anyway, you are there with all your family, so as the others have said, take some deep breaths and use distraction techniques. Have a lovely holiday- you are certainly in the best place for the weather.
Jules x
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Thankyou for the replies yeah i was ok the first couple of days then wham it hit me i have been having a heart attack since Monday 🙄lol we are home Friday so not long now what are we like running back to our work we are literally mad🤪🤪xx
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Do U feel better the closer you get to returning home?
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Yeah i do tbh i hate the way ut makes u feel i ave been period free for 6 yeats i thought it would be getting easier i had a couple of years feeling okish perhaps its old age as well lol 55 on Monday haven't had anything medicinal wise just tried to cope xx
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Was that your birthday last week or next Monday - :hbday:
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Ah thankyou its monday coming xx
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Lollipop == :hbday: for Monday.....💐
Save me a slice cake.....🎂🍰
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... and ice-cream?
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Thankyou ladies xx
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I know its naughty to Google but i did :'(and there is a thing called morning anxiety due to hormones perhaps its that thats happening to me n i aint dying lol my eldest daughter is a cardiac sister and she isn't concerned about it she just tells me to stop getting so worked up about it xx
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Easy for her to say that >:(
Cortisol may well be the culprit. My anxiety is worse in the mornings, as I work through any daily commitments, by evening I'm a different person :-\
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Well i am home :'(still feeling a bit jittery but that could be the journey i say that to my daughter wait till its her turn x
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Better 2-day? Laundry done?
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Morning ladies been back a few days and feel absolutely fine few aches n pains n palps but nothing like holiday how can we let this thing ruin our quality time,my other half went and book our annual xmas holiday just me and him n i cant get excited thinking what if it all happens again,i know 100% nothing is gonna but that blooming anxiety over rides how is everyone else this fine morning xxx
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It doesn't help me knowing that others suffer too. It's a sudden physical jolt for me, can be OK then wham. Holidays make it worse :-\
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So right clkd we were supposed to be going a nice wedding on Sat but i ave talked my oh out of going we are just going for food and a few drinks for my belated birthday treat xx
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recently I didn't go to a funeral but met up after - worked ;-)
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Lol sounds like me rosie100 i would of gone back packing up the amazon we used to go to goa its an amazing place but now I think its so far from home its magical i used to say i would live there in a shack on tbe beach,but now the idea is a long distant memory :'(xx
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I got back from Ibiza on Friday, only went mon-fri but the anxiety kicked in on the weds! Although I'm home now I'm not 100% but better than I was. The only thing is, it worries me about future holidays in case it happens again! Anxiety is the worse, you aren't alone with this and holidays.
xXx
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Probably worrying about the return journey ? >:(
Did you manage to enjoy any of it?
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I can so so relate to this.
Every time my husband books a holiday I panic the week before & going to the airport is awful. I dread it. I feel ungrateful to feel like this but can't help it. It just seems one big stress. I know it is the menopause because I used to absolutely love going away & flying.
Xx
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I always wobble after we book and my anxiety ramps up big time, I look for excuses not to go, then I calm down and it starts again a couple of weeks before we go! CLKD, despite the anxiety I really loved it, just did nothing except for going out to eat xXx
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Morning everyone! Currently in Turkey and anxiety is horrendous :'( Just want to go home, like you all, used to go anywhere no fear, this spoils your quality time, it's the pits .... Home on Sunday so hanging on in there.... may start packing this evening to help me feel better ??? Silly thing is evenings I feel calmer. Going to have to go back on SSRIs to cut through this adrenaline and cortisol. Not worth this. Hope you all have a good day ladies xx
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Hello ladies
I can so relate to all of this! Holidays and any special occasion puts me into an anxious spin. I never used to be this way and when I recall the places I've been and the adventures I've had I know this is the menopause. It saddens me to think how difficult it's become to do even simple things.
Lilyloos - I often feel calmer in the evenings even at home. Yesterday for example I was okay and energetic in the morning, totally crashed in the afternoon feeling tired and wired but in the evening I was much better and calmer. It's exhausting.
Take care everyone.
K.
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Well it makes me feel better cuz i aint alone it really does my head in knowing that it rules our life,i ave been waking up the last week with what feels like morning sickness not being sick and very jittery and today the hottest day ever i have got 8 kids to look after pool is already filling up god help me 🙏xx
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Hello again lollipop
You deserve a medal. Eight children in a pool would be a challenge at the best of times! I hope you survive the day and I wish you luck. Perhaps you can rest up this afternoon to help you recover.
Take care and sending hugs.
K.
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Well my first little one came at 610 this morning and the last one goes at 630 tonight i hate Thursdays its such a busy day my daughter works with me so not too bad i do look forward to my bed tbf lol going for a cheeky weekend away with the hubby this weekend so fingers crossed i will feel ok xx
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Well all fired ul ready to go feeling fine and got up this morning and its absolutely piddling down so that literally as put a dampener on it oh is moaning that he doesn't want to go now cus it will be pointless 😭😡😡 so perhaps another weekend sitting around doing stuff all xx
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oh that's a pity lollipop, but yeh miserable out (here anyway!) hope you still enjoy your weekend. x
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It's really dependant on where you are going? I would rather be home if it's raining unless I have a view to watch ;-). Being together is never a waste!!
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Thats very true clkd just looking forward to a little break it was to a quiet little town with a canal n barges and to have a nice stroll take in the sites perhaps next week weather permitting xx
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Nowt booked then?
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No not as yet husband working next weekend,and the weekend after that going out on a jolly girls outing lol every so often me my 3 daughters sister neices friends from old all go out weather is to London to see a show stay in Manchester,Liverpool Nottingham for weekends this time having a day out in brum with food drink n lots of activities booked by my neice so god help us she forgets some of us are over 55 lol and i will stay at my eldest daughters who as just bought a apartment in jewellery quarter so looking forward to that also xx
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I would love to visit the jewellery quarter but it means going on a train :-X Can't :'(
However: if we see lots of ladies of a certain age around Brum in slippers fanning their faces and trying to keep up with young 'un.s can we assume :whist:
I want to visit a friend in Glasgow but when I think about going I get the jitters :-\. Bugga ........... I want to stay in a Hotel and DH wants to camp :-\
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Hello ladies how are we all my weekend with all the girls was brill had a bit of jitters till late afternoon,couldn't really eat my meal i felt nauseous n a bit spaced out 🤪🤪then we went to the event that was organised a karaoke booth n we had a scream we sang n danced till 130 in the morning but oh boy did i suffer the next day lol but it was worth it to catch up with friends and family cant wait till next time xx
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Well I Finnish work today for 3 weeks annual leave.
Going to Halkidiki next Tuesday for a week. Have been so looking forward to it, but the closer I get the more anxious I'm getting.
Had what I think was another “silent migraine†at work today. I feel rubbish just now, mild sore head, bit tired feeling and fizzing legs.
I hope I calm down for the holiday, have got myself some rescue remedy drops.
I am very lucky as when I get back from Greece, I am off to Nice with friends.
Need to get a grip. I know I'll have a great time on both.
Don't understand why this happens😡😱👙
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lollipop - was it due to lack of food maybe? My gut immediately shuts down when anxiety hits.
My anxiety is in case I spoil 'it' for others whatever 'it' might be >:(
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Clkd it possible is down to lack of food not a morning eater n u have just hit the nail on the head i always think what if i fall ill i will ruin there time also will they be able to cope with me falling ill its all so stupid really we just spoil our own with our head full of nonsense,i ave recently started having some stomach issues thought it may be gall bladder but its seems an all over not even pain but a bloating and very windy 🙈xx
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Teresa i used to think i had a cast iron stomach till about 6 months ago now i eat it cus i like but but it ends up not liking me lol i haven't had a period since 2012/13 and ave been really fortunate with stuff but its like i am going backwards xx
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I was raised to keep to what I promised "Otherwise you'll spoil it for everyone" .......... :'(. "You'll B OK once you're there". Well I usually was in that I was never sick, didn't faint, didn't see anyone else be ill ..... but the anxiety prior :-\ :'(
So that response remains.
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Hi all, it's been a very long time since I posted on here, but I can so relate to this thread. We're off for a 2 week cruise on Sunday. Sounds fabulous doesn't it, and we've been looking forward to it for such a long time.
However, my sciatica flared up again last week, added to which I had tingling round the genitals, especially when I sat down. Needless to say that sent me into a flat spin, convinced that I had everything known to man, and that I'd either end up in a wheelchair or in a box. Holiday thoughts went completely out of the window. I finally saw my GP yesterday and husband came along with me for moral support. He did all the tests, listened to my symptoms, and said he was not hearing anything that concerned him in any way. He has referred me for an MRI as he says mainly that will put my mind at rest, and then we can look at how we treat the sciatica. It didn't quite calm me down, and husband and I had some quite tense words last night, but I had a good night's sleep and feel a bit better today.
I was thinking that I'd end up in hospital in Spain or France (where we are going) and was even looking up the facilities for the medical centre on the ship. I swear to god sometimes I think I'm going mad. I just can't believe how anxiety rears up and just completely floors you but it always seems to happen when I am looking forward to something, particularly holidays. Many's the time we've gone to our favourite place in Greece, and I've spent the first few days wishing I could go home.
The menopause, and post-menopause, is just pants sometimes :(
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OK turn this on it's head! You have looked at the medical facilities on board. You are going to Europe and presumably have the green card/equivalent to carry with you? Taking appropriate pain relief with you or buying when you get to the Pharmacy on the ship?
So get that case packed! I have had sciatica for a few days, can't fathom why ........... a gentle walk and a bath have sorted symptoms thus far.
I want to go on holiday, come home quick so that I know if I've had a good time ::)
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Morning ladies finally got the weekend away with the hubby was lovely strolled round in the goergous sunshine few drinks lovely meal,woke up yesterday morning with such anxiety i wanted to cry the guest house did a beautiful full English breakfast n all i could was look at it n think omg how am i going to get through that my throat felt like it was closing over,hubby had demolished his before i buttered the toast lol,n low and behold it had gone by midday 😡😡 i love my food but it was a horrible few hours xx
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I can't face food, that's what goes immediately when anxiety hits.
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I know its bloody annoying cuz its all in our heads and we know it just cant help ourselves getting worked up gotta stop soon had enough of it taking over my happiness xx
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Not in my head, it begins in my gut: queasy, thighs go weak followed by calves and then I'm floored. A Psychologist once tried to insist that I had to think of problems in order for anxiety to begin. Nope. I walked from the session and never went back.
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Actually clkd thats a coincidence cus thats what i feel like i am gonna collapse or something so then ya races on all sort of 💩happens lol xx
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Anxious about tomorrow - bugga :'(
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Not being nosey just concerned whats happening today clkd xx