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General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: Roseneath on September 03, 2018, 01:08:55 PM
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We are desperate to move house, move towns. Living here is making my Peri more hellish than it should be. We live in the sticks way North. Where is nice....and affordable...and north of say Shrewsbury but south of say Stirling. Ideas ladies?
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Northumberland? We love it up there. For holidays. The reason we didn't move to Rothbury area is a) prices are out of our current range; b) too short a growing season; c) too windy for archery practice ;-). Same with the Isle of Skye. There was a property not far from Rothbury that I fancied, it eventually came onto the market at over £700,00. Sadly, too expensive for us.
One has to cost in the fees: selling, buying, the physical moving i.e. hiring a company to take stuff from A - B. Medical records can take months to transfer apparently ::)
What are you hobbies? We like: gardening, walking, bird watching, reading, outdoor sports, sitting by the beach ......... so make a list of what you would like to do if you move.
We don't move because we have a Very Good GP and a Lovely Dentist with supportive Staff. Really. It is one of our reasons. So maybe have a look-see at the Clinics etc. in the areas you would like to live in. How close are shops, hospitals, dental surgeries, Vet Practices?
Many years ago I suggested that we and he sell up, then rent a flat/cottage for 6 months in various areas across the UK. But when push came to shove I couldn't [can't] leave our garden.
Do you want to live in a tourist area where there is a buzz but pavements etc. will be crowded? Do you want to live on a bus route so that you don't need to drive as much? Do you have family who would want to visit? Do you want family that you need to avoid :D [we do].
Norfolk and Lincolnshire are quite good for house prices. North of there properties get more expensive. Obviously tourist areas and those over-looking the Coast will be more expensive. Would you consider renting somewhere prior to buying?
My first choice would be around Durham or back to mid-Wales. Shrewsbury used to be nice but haven't been there for over 20 years ::). Welsh borders are nice but can feel remote when it snows!
Casleton in Derbyshire
Durham
Rothbury
South Shields
Alnwick area
Craster for long walks
The Borders are nice: Hexham area along Hadrian's Wall but again, prices might be 'up'. Lots of History to absorb.
Some people like Yorkshire but I find it too vast - Whitbuy and along the coast, busy but pretty.
The Fens are too flat. North Norfolk coast is nice but busy and the roads are very narrow. Again full of history.
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Did U look see ......... half the fun is trawling 'right move' in the area you fancy living in ;-). I also use 'rural scene'. Some places have been on the market where we used to live for 5+ years :-\
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It really depends on what you want to get away from where you are living at the moment?
Taz x
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I have been all over the UK and there is still nowhere I would rather live than Norfolk.
We have huge skies, beautiful quiet beaches, no motorways, we have a lovely coastline, we have loads of market towns with nice independent shops, we have heathland, woodland, the fabulous Norfolk Broads, we have the best birdwatching in the country, we are not densely populated and we are a very dry, warm county. I can't bear places where all it does is rain. We usually get the highest record in the country for sunshine too.
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PF, having been on holiday to Norfolk for the first time this year I have to agree with that. Absolutely beautiful!
Great! Where did you stay?
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We used to live in Hexham (Northumberland), which was wonderful. Cold winters though and cool summer evenings.
I fancy Bury St Edmunds. We have a long list of favour places and are planning to move next year. Where we will end up is anyone's guess.
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I really appreciate your input ladies. I always think it is connections you make that give a spark of ideas for live changes. We didn't appreciate when we moved ' north' that it is very hard to move back again without a dramatic decline in quality of life property wise (especially as we now have two kids so need more rooms!). We were dazzled by the size of house we could get for our ' four bed terrace in the city' . We have worked out we would have more money staying in the house in the south and not working than all the dozen years we have worked here! Current hit list is: Kendal, Buxton, Peebles, Matlock Bath, Shrewsbury, Pitlochry . Although I am beginning to think it will never happen. Three years this December and 35 viewings later!
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I think Dorset is one of the nicest Counties we've visited.
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Love Dorset but soo expensive.
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I'd give the Matlock area a huge miss. No character and loads of tourists, we went 10 months ago and were disappointed. Now Castleton ;) over-looking Mam Tor. Shropshire is lovely too. Do you want a garden, a view, to be close to shops ........... check the GP surgeries etc..
Holt in Norfolk. Wells next to Sea. Norwich ........ high Norfolk is lovely on a fine day ;)
That's why we don't move: close to the M1/M40/M5 and have a good GP and wonderful Dentist :-*
Many++ years ago I did suggest that we sold up and bought a small flat 2 come home to, with a view to renting somewhere for 6 months so that we could enjoy more of the specific areas that we have been to ........ but I would miss my garden too much :'(
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PF, having been on holiday to Norfolk for the first time this year I have to agree with that. Absolutely beautiful!
Great! Where did you stay?
we stayed near Foulsham.
Very rural around there isn't it? We are closer to the coast.
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We need somewhere that is busy with tourists for a good 6+ months a year...we like living near / in countryside but at the moment are a good 3 hours away from a decent (>50,000) sized town. It has been great when the kids were little but now nearing teens we fear they will miss out on a lot of opportunities (they are still scared of escalators and lifts as there are none in the town, there aren't the choice of clubs/sports facilities etc). If we lived an hour from a city we could at least do a day trip there. I have been a bit of a nomad my whole life living in 5 places before here but feel the need for roots for the kids sake now.
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Cardiff is pretty nice, I live close and want to move there once. I have since changed my mind because all my family are from there and they've all now passed away so for me, emotionally, it's like one giant memorial park but it's a lovely city.
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We didn't see many escalators. We lived 7 miles from the nearest town. 1 bus every couple of hours. We survived. If we needed to go anywhere we had to cycle.
Do you plan to continue with your business Roseneath?
Ross on Wye is nice. Close to the Welsh Marches and Hay ........
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Shropshire has many areas of beautiful countryside. It has relatively little traffic and you can access the West Midlands via the M54. Birmingham is within an hours drive or train ride.
Ironbridge (with it's world famous Ironbridge and being the heart of the Industrial Revolution and is very attractive) has tourists all year round Shrewsbury and Bridgnorth are popular too.
Ironbridge is quiet, but Shrewsbury is the County town.
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Ironbridge is pricey though, we had a lovely long weekend there in around 2006. Where wouldn't you want to live?
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Glastonbury is nice if you like peace and quiet, Liverpool is great if you like busy. Depends on what you want.
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Ironbridge is pricey though, we had a lovely long weekend there in around 2006. Where wouldn't you want to live?
House prices are fairly low anywhere in Shropshire. particularly Telford though Ironbridge is probably a bit more expensive as it's very attractive and a tourist trap
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Thanks for your suggestions ladies. Shrewsbury is on the list but I hadn't thought of the Iron Bridge area. Yes I agree Ross on Wye looks lovely. We just need to get rid of this place first! Spent hours making the place tidy for a viewing today. Waste of time...they want a place to turn into a doggie hotel and also had a dozen dogs of their own. You would need a place with a good bit of land. Back to the drawing board.
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Oh, bad luck Roseneath.
Better luck next time, im sure someone will come along soon.
Are you out in the sticks? You're in Scotland aren't you?
We went to Drumnadroit? Don't know if that's right spelling, we stayed in someone's
lodge for a long weekend, Inverness, it was beautiful, and that was November time.
Bloody cold, but lovely, my OH, would love to move up there, but I worry that when one of us ends up on our own, it'll be horrible being so far away from our sons.
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Thanks for your suggestions ladies. Shrewsbury is on the list but I hadn't thought of the Iron Bridge area. Yes I agree Ross on Wye looks lovely. We just need to get rid of this place first! Spent hours making the place tidy for a viewing today. Waste of time...they want a place to turn into a doggie hotel and also had a dozen dogs of their own. You would need a place with a good bit of land. Back to the drawing board.
Fingers crossed you'll get some serious potential buyers soon
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Is that what they told you? In which case your Estate Agent is wasting your time. Most people look on 'right move' etc. and get an idea of what is on offer and if they wanted land that you don't own ......... [we are thinking of changing the Agent we are using; long story short]
Ironbridge is costly. I've looked :D. We stayed in a lovely Georgian house with a huge wisteria across the front, cat would see me at the bedroom window, leave her cushion in the conservatory and climb the wisteria into our room :catscratch: :-*
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House prices are all relative according to where you are moving from. For us Ironbridge looks very reasonably priced.
Suffolk and Wiltshire are on our list. Both have cheaper prices than our area.
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I'm selling a property in the Fens ;D - needs dragging into the 21st century but ready to live in ;)
I actually like visiting there as we haven't much furniture etc. .............. 'dressed' to sell. It isn't a place that I would return to willingly!
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We have learnt. Places that are nice to go on holiday may be very different if you live there. Also what suits when you have no kids/young kids may not when you have bigger kids. I have always lived places where houses sell in weeks if not months so this came as a bit of a jolt. It's a lovely house, great business and on at slightly under what three state agency recommended. We have been living on hold for three years. It is mentally draining!
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Of course it is draining. Must it be sold as a going concern?
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I'm selling a property in the Fens ;D - needs dragging into the 21st century but ready to live in ;)
I actually like visiting there as we haven't much furniture etc. .............. 'dressed' to sell. It isn't a place that I would return to willingly!
I could never live on the Fens. We have friends who live near Bourne and I dont get good vibes when I go there. It is SO flat where they live and you can see for miles across hedgeless, treeless fields.
I also dont like the hamlets or few houses that are built alongside roads in a single row. They just seem creepy to me.
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North Norfolk within distance of Norwich- some good rural trains; Northumberland - border towns are lovely; Lake District- Penrith or Keswick, North Yorkshire- lots of lovely market towns. Very friendly people in all of these places. Be careful of villages- can be great but can be very insular or full of retired folk or commuters. Mixed communities better.
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Nowt wrong with us retired folks :rofl:
The Fens - [high 6 anyone ;-) ] - we would never go back, once Mum's house is sold we will be out of there! I never feel clean :-\. It's vast. As is Yorkshire, too wide for me to feel comfortable. I could live in Durham. Bath. Chester. But I am a country girl really. Right now if the removal van turned up, it would be Durham City ::)
Thinking of transport in future as well as dental, Vets and GP services. We didn't move to Skye 15 years ago because it was 75 miles to the nearest hospital and DH tends to be accident prone.
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North Norfolk within distance of Norwich- some good rural trains; Northumberland - border towns are lovely; Lake District- Penrith or Keswick, North Yorkshire- lots of lovely market towns. Very friendly people in all of these places. Be careful of villages- can be great but can be very insular or full of retired folk or commuters. Mixed communities better.
very true about some villages and I'd like to add cul de sacs.
My late MIL moved from Torquay to a cul de sac in a village where her daughter lived in Leicestershire. She said it would suit her down to the ground as she liked peace and quiet and no traffic.
Turned out she hated it as it was too quiet. She said she never saw a soul as most of the neighbours went to work and the only person who came up as far as her bungalow was the postman.
She used to come and stay with us and loved looking out onto the lane here as we get several people walking through to the church or cutting through to get to the shops and post office. If she was outside here maybe helping me pull a few weeds up people would often stop and have a word with her.
Places can be too quiet. a friend of mine has sold her house and is moving to another part of the country to be nearer two sisters. She is a widow and has no children but has a very wide circle of friends here and is involved with lots of craft groups, art groups, church events etc. I think she is making the wrong move myself but there.
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If she has skills that she can share, maybe she will be OK? Church and crafting groups are a good way to integrate.
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If she has skills that she can share, maybe she will be OK? Church and crafting groups are a good way to integrate.
You may be right but all her friends she made when she was much younger and still working. She is a person who is not really outgoing and certainly wouldn't make the first step to strike up a conversation but once she feels comfortable she is OK and she is very knowledgeable and willing to help people.
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Will you be keeping in touch with her via social media? Giving her a little :poke2: :kick: of encouragement?
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Try this for ideas ;-)
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Friends of mine recently sold their house in Sussex, to move to a fabulous house in North Devon, overlooking the sea. Absolutely stunnning. But then the husbands health started to fail, and now they are many miles from the hospital. Something to bear in mind as you get older, sadly
Jeepers xx
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People want places to visit after lockdown ........
I would never live near any of my relations.
We were going to buy on the Isle of Skye 40 years ago: then we looked at the distance to hospitals :o. Also it's a short growing season and not much stays in the ground with all the wind ..... but I yearn for a view :-\
We have a good Dentist, can get GP appts. within a few days, are central to all travelling that we would like to do.
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Friends of mine recently sold their house in Sussex, to move to a fabulous house in North Devon, overlooking the sea. Absolutely stunnning. But then the husbands health started to fail, and now they are many miles from the hospital. Something to bear in mind as you get older, sadly
Jeepers xx
This is why we failed to do what we'd always promised ourselves we would - we left it too late and suddenly age is a factor in deciding where we want to live. The hills of Ilfracombe didn't seem a steep ten years ago! That, and the thought of missing family of course. I hope that your friend will be ok. Have they made new friends there who can rally round, when we can all go out again that is!! I take it he will be treated in Barnstaple or maybe he needs a larger hospital - Exeter is the nearest.
Taz x
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I've moved around a bit and never had fixed friends.
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That's a shame CLKD - I thought you'd been where you are now for quite some time.
Taz x
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Since 1983. Until then I moved several times as a child apparently. I remember nowt. I was raised with my cousin until I was 3, then hauled away. We moved on my 7th birthday leaving that school behind. Because we lived in a hamlet with 3 bungalows and a shop I had no friends to play with. ......... then we moved again to an area where there were loads of kids but I was too shy to join in. :-\. HATED school.
Married and fled to Wales ;D then moved from there after 8 years to here.
However: Dad took us on long holidays in the Summer, traveling around the countryside so I saw many places that DH and I have returned to, Plockton springs to mind :-* and we discovered Northumberland much more recently 8)
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Housing is so expensive here. We considered moving to another area in the uk, where we could buy a much bigger, nicer property than our small bungalow. We looked around and played with ideas then decided to stay put. Where else could we walk in any direction in an area we love, see family and friends regularly? And anyway having a small home means less housework and maintenance. it's not a pretty home, yet I've always felt safe and welcomed by the house here
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DH apparently doesn't want to move North 'cos of the rain, high winds and snow. ::) but we can't afford to move South ....... I need a view. But my birds would miss me ;D
I don't want to leave it 'too late' though .........
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Friends of mine recently sold their house in Sussex, to move to a fabulous house in North Devon, overlooking the sea. Absolutely stunnning. But then the husbands health started to fail, and now they are many miles from the hospital. Something to bear in mind as you get older, sadly
Jeepers xx
This is why we failed to do what we'd always promised ourselves we would - we left it too late and suddenly age is a factor in deciding where we want to live. The hills of Ilfracombe didn't seem a steep ten years ago! That, and the thought of missing family of course. I hope that your friend will be ok. Have they made new friends there who can rally round, when we can all go out again that is!! I take it he will be treated in Barnstaple or maybe he needs a larger hospital - Exeter is the nearest.
Taz x
Thanks taz, he contracted Mrsa when he went in for a knee op, which led to lung infections. He's also had heart surgery, so they are shielding at the moment. I think they get everything delivered, so very much on their own, no chance to make new friends yet,
Jeepers xx
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MRSA - my Dad had that 3 times when he was poorly in Hospital but recovered each time. That was in the early 2000s. Shouldn't happen during surgical intervention though. Did the knee recover movement? Maybe they could look at their local Facebook etc. and reach out, making themselves known?
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I know, he was a super fit runner and cyclist before the op, and has been beset with health probs ever since.
Awful
Jeepers xx
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Has he accepted his Lot though?
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Hi
Yes, I think he has, although he was super gutted to get the letter telling him he was one of the vulnerable people who had to be shielded
Jeepers xx
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For his own safety? but acceptance is hard.