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General Discussion => Birthdays and Events => Topic started by: Spangles on February 01, 2018, 06:43:15 AM

Title: 50! Not happy
Post by: Spangles on February 01, 2018, 06:43:15 AM
I'm going to be 50 tomorrow and the thought of it makes me feel sick and anxious! Never really felt like this about a birthday, what's wrong with me?
Have you ever worried about getting old?
I know 50 isn't old but I feel I'm past the prime of my life and past the half way point of my life!
I feel quite sad about it.
xXx
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Shadyglade on February 01, 2018, 10:26:04 AM
Hi Shellb, 

The thing is none of us know where the half way point in our lives is.  I think you have to regard each day a potentially your last and that way you make the very most of it.  That may seem depressing but if fact can be truly liberating.

Motto for the day - 'don't just think positive, DO positive'

Really, it does help :)
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Alicea on February 01, 2018, 10:33:17 AM
Aw. I hope you have a surprisingly nice day in spite of feeling like this ❤️
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Ju Ju on February 01, 2018, 12:29:26 PM
My happiest and most relaxed years have been since I was 60! So you're a mere baby! Forget your age and go and do the things you want to do now! Don't leave it till you have time/money! If you really want to do something you can find a way. When DH and I were in our early 50s, we took a gap 6 months and travelled round the world on the cheap.....camping some of the time, even though we hadn't camped since being very young and I have challenging health issues. Now I'm having singing lessons. My friend is a drummer in a rock band in her 70s! What do you want to do? Just for you?
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Taz2 on February 01, 2018, 09:36:52 PM
From the age of almost 64 I wish I had realised that 50 was a great age to be! I have found that the difference between 53 and 63 seems much more than a mere ten years!

Taz x  ;D
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: groundhog on February 01, 2018, 11:42:39 PM
Every day is a gift, the future isn't promised.

Enjoy your birthday xx
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Lanzalover on February 02, 2018, 08:21:58 AM
Wishing you a very  happy  :hbday: enjoy your day.


Lanzalover
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Daisydot on February 02, 2018, 02:04:52 PM
Happy birthday Shellb.💐its only a number remember 😂 xx
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: CLKD on February 02, 2018, 02:13:59 PM
 :cake:

When I turned 30 I was OK.  When I turned 31 I was laying in bed and ran my hands down both thighs ......... looking to see if my weight had spread during the night  ::)

I'm 60+ now ..........

What's the worst that can happen at 50?  What do you miss from years gone by?
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: CLKD on February 03, 2018, 04:10:35 PM
Recovered Shellb?
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Katejo on February 03, 2018, 05:53:13 PM
I'm going to be 50 tomorrow and the thought of it makes me feel sick and anxious! Never really felt like this about a birthday, what's wrong with me?
Have you ever worried about getting old?
I know 50 isn't old but I feel I'm past the prime of my life and past the half way point of my life!
I feel quite sad about it.
xXx
I know what you mean! My 50th birthday seems like yesterday but I will be 55 next month. We just have to make the most of the time available to us. I wish I didn't have a bit of a conscience about spending money on holidays. I do spend it but a little voice in me says that I shouldn't spend more than a certain amount and that any further spare money  should be donated to charity! It doesn't help that my brother winds me up by saying that I go away too much.
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Woodlands on February 03, 2018, 07:14:56 PM
Hello ladies.
I'm 55 next month. I hated 40 but 50 just passed me by. I look at yes, having less years ahead of me but also planning how I want to live each day. As you know I know personally how short life can go in my DS....but I'm liberated being almost 55..my friends say I'm beautiful too....stunning natural grey hair ...good skin...so enjoy is my motto xx
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Katejo on February 04, 2018, 07:35:31 PM
Hello ladies.
I'm 55 next month. I hated 40 but 50 just passed me by. I look at yes, having less years ahead of me but also planning how I want to live each day. As you know I know personally how short life can go in my DS....but I'm liberated being almost 55..my friends say I'm beautiful too....stunning natural grey hair ...good skin...so enjoy is my motto xx
which date in March ? My 55th birthday is the 11th.
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Taz2 on February 05, 2018, 12:53:51 AM
Taz - its weird isn't it, when you get into your 60's, 50 starts to feel a long way off?

My sister and BIL are about 10 years younger than my OH and 6 years younger than me. In our 30s/40s and 50s that age gap didn't seem very noticeable but now it seems to be widening again just as it was when we were in our teens and 20s! Especially so because we have now retired but they still have years to work.


Yes it is odd how the gap widens again. To be honest I'm just grateful to have just reached 64 having lost friends who died in their fifties!

Taz x
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: CLKD on February 05, 2018, 05:01:40 PM
Is Shelby still in a darkened room, recovering  :-\
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Spangles on February 06, 2018, 06:49:38 AM
I'm back!
I had a lovely day, got very spoiled and went for a lovely meal with the family.
The whole thing felt like a chore but I did enjoy it.
Still can't believe I'm 50!
Trying to stay positive during menopause is the hardest thing for me, I really dislike the way it makes me feel.
Anyway I'm trying to focus on Spring and the warmer weather to come. I've really struggled this winter, I usually do but this year has been really hard.
Thanks for all your lovely comments and reassurance.
Love
Shellb
xXx
Title: Re: 50! Not happy
Post by: Taz2 on February 06, 2018, 07:28:23 AM
Glad you enjoyed it. It is difficult accepting the changes that menopause can bring but 50 is just another year. No different to 49 or 51. The next ten years will fly by if my experience is anything to go by so try to get something good, no matter how small, out of each day.

Taz ☺️ :bighug: