Menopause Matters Forum
General Discussion => New Members => Topic started by: spiritguide on June 11, 2015, 08:34:43 PM
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Thank goodness for this website. For the past couple of years I've known I was in the run up to menopause, but the last 4 months the symptoms have just gone into interstellar overdrive! Exhaustion, aches and pains (like flu), intense headaches that come and go, oscillating between love, anger and tearfulness ; feeling I hate my husband, and want to leave him, and then I adore (well ...like) him again. I really thought my marbles had rolled and weren't coming back. Reading comments on this site showed me that I was NOT insane...I was extremely hormonal...a normal occurrence in a women's life. Obviously the quality of my life has deteriorated somewhat and I want it back with a vengeance, so going against my usual method of investigating via a herbal way, I decided to go for the lab route. I have my pack of Femeston waiting for me to take when my period arrives. I hope it works for me, it did for my sister.
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Hi and welcome to MM spirit guide.
Femoston is a good one to try first - it has a kinder progesterone so is tolerated well by many women.
Let us know how you get on - I bet you will feel better in about 4-8 weeks. DG x
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Thanks DG, I really hope it does work. I just catch glimpses of my real self. I feel so far away...my husband wants me back too.
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:welcomemm: have a browse round, we talk about menopause sometimes ;). We have a 'funny' room too …….
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Thanks for message CLkD. I've also noticed that I have been self medicating with alcohol when coming back home from work. I have told myself that chamomile tea is the way to go but my head, my heart and my symptoms aren't having it. Well it makes me feel sane for a bit... But just the past few days I'm finding that my body is not processing it as well. What to do?? I never really thought I would want my period to come so badly; how things change: I want my meds!
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So sorry you are having such a difficult time. I hope you find the forum helpful and that you are able to start your meds soon.
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That's another thing ladies notice, that for years they have tolerated alcohol - now however ::)
I wouldn't even consider chamomile tea ;D :sick02: ……..
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Oh no...does that mean I'm a cheap date now!? Does your appetite reduce as well?I finding that I'm starving but I can't eat as much as I used to. Is that just me or a general symptom?
Also my period is overdue...again! What's going on...I actually felt a bit sexual last night! And I had sex (sorry if this is TMI)! I haven't felt like this in ages, maybe it's the hormonal period mix up causing this. Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining, it's just that I haven't felt this way in such a long time.
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;D nothing is TMI on here ;) and I found all my Life that in those few days pre-bleed I would be 'up for it' - DH never complained :D ……..
Appetite can vary. Eating little and often helps so that the gut doesn't feel over-full. How are your bowels? - I find that the latter in the day the less I can drink though I feel full and my taste buds alter too.
I've always been a cheap date ;D …… don't like alcohol anyway.
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Yay! Makes me feel better...thank you.
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You are very welcome!
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Bloody hell, I still haven't come on yet! I want the HRT. I am raging troll that is getting bitter over the smallest things ( things that wouldn't have got to me previously), and I getting blue more often and have got a "can't be fuckin' arsed" attitude. It's bringing me down...as is this exhaustion...
And I constantly want to flip the finger and glare at people...
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Bloody hell, I still haven't come on yet! I want the HRT. I am raging troll that is getting bitter over the smallest things ( things that wouldn't have got to me previously), and I getting blue more often and have got a "can't be fuckin' arsed" attitude. It's bringing me down...as is this exhaustion...
And I constantly want to flip the finger and glare at people...
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Whoops..
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Bloody hell, I still haven't come on yet! I want the HRT. I am raging troll that is getting bitter over the smallest things ( things that wouldn't have got to me previously), and I getting blue more often and have got a "can't be fuckin' arsed" attitude. It's bringing me down...as is this exhaustion...
And I constantly want to flip the finger and glare at people...
Oh dear. That's me too...I am trying to bite my lip but I feel a bit more aggressive these days than normal! >:( Mood swings suck
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Thank you, thank you... It's good to know that I'm not alone!
Maybe feisty people in general feel menopause the worst? My eldest sister is the more laid back one, she didn't need hrt. My other sister similar to me, bossy , feisty etc, she had menopause from hell. I am also going to hell on a frequent basis. It would be interesting to find out if personalities had a bearing on severity of symptoms but then again maybe talking through my ****!
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I have taken my first HRT tablet this morning! At last...it begins. Watch this space.
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You really meant what you said then Spiritguide ;)
I got more feisty the older I got ……….
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Totally feel the same about intolerance of others - but I've formed a new view on it all ....
It's not me that's becoming more intolerant - it's everyone else :)
They now say stupid things, and do stupid things - all of which are purposefully goading me to reaction
Am now contemplating HRT too - so let me know if it helps or changes things
(and good luck!)
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Ha, ha..a good way of looking at things! And thanks...I hope the monster retreats but I think it will take time.
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How was the head this morning ? :whist:
SmitsAnnie - have you seen the strange woman thread ;)
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Thanks for asking, it was fine. Plenty of water helped. ;)
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:lol:
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I have now been taking the hrt for 7 days. On day 5 I noticed I wasn't as exhausted, not aching as much and my mood on a more even keel since I don't know when. Result! However I am getting very bloated, which I know is a side effect, but I come my body will acclimatise with time. I have read that taking the tab with food helps, but I have to take it upon waking as I will forget (as I have a history of this) to take it otherwise. HRT is certainly floating my bloat (sorry that was terrible, but irristible).
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;D ……… do you not eat breakfast :-\
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Fingers crossed for you spirit guide.....will be watching your posts as I have femoston to try......had enough of this anxiety and depression and been raging the last couple of days and exhausted....period started yesterday.........had completely and utterly enough so taking a tab tomorrow.....did you feel OK the first few days?
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Hey CKLD... I do eat brekkie, but at work about 8.30 if not too busy otherwise I have it for dessert, after lunch.i wake up approx. 6am on a week day, (or earlier) and so I don't fancy eating but I have been gulping the tab.
TropicalVon69 - feel for you big time. I didn't notice much the first couple of days, but after about a week I've been feeling better (but with the preggie-like bloating). It feels like I have loads of trapped wind but there is no escape from the body. Stupidly wore a striped (yes, striped) bodycon dress, and took loads of rennies as I was expanding slowly and no amount of breathing in was (I felt) made a difference. I am hoping as I said earlier, that my body will get used to the hormones and settle down. Moods are better, but I have in life always been a bit of a moody, fierce bint anyway, the peri just magnified it.
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Now my boobs are starting to get tender! At least I've got more energy now, but hoping the physiological side of things calm down.
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If it ain't 1 thing it's another >:( ::) ………..
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My tummy has now settled down on the oestrogen part of the HRT. I've noticed that my moods are back to normal-ish and I've been upbeat! I have been taking the grey progesterone now for 2 days...husband said I've been a mare...very changeable. He's riding the dragon (his words)...
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Hey, TropicalVon, have you started your course of Femoston yet?
I'm feeling a lot better...and oh boy ,my sex drive is back...feeling flirty again! Which is about bloody time as I was feeling like shrivelled up old prune...Talking of which, I really got to look after my fanoir, as it's getting irritated and dry. Sister recommended Replens. What do folks think? or is there anything better?
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Yep - it may be the beginning of vaginal atrophy so a localised HRT i.e. Vagifem or Ovestin will ease symptoms. Start before it gets worse!
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Dr said to make appointment just before 3 month mark of taking HRT. Do you think I should wait or make an earlier one to get the localised hormone cream? I'm assuming hormone levels are quite low as not to interfere with the HRT?
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Just found this link on another thread which I'm going to print off.
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/local.php
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Treatment for vaginal atrophy is different to HRT so don't wait!
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Hello. Just a quick question...I'm now on my first period whilst taking. HRT, 10 days earlier. Sorry to be so graphic but it's sooo dark, almost black. I normally use tampons but I just feel I ought to use pads to to keep an eye on things..is it natural for it to be so sticky? As I was going through peri, things were changing, but it seems more clot-like than normal. I'm assuming it's normal...? I hope! Sorry...I just want to know if it's kinda normal or not.
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Red blood is fresh, black/dark has been 'stored' somewhere - probably use pads and keep an eye on what you are passing and how much. Hormones probably slow the 'shedding' somewhat ……… I had clots all my life, usually bright red :o …….. certainly I would mention it to my GP if the blood remains dark and sticky. What does it say on the leaflet with the HRT? Probably nowt???
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Thanks again CLKD...another thing I need to chat to the doctor about!
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Any better today? I thought about you as I was dropping off to sleep last night ::)
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If it's any comfort, mine was always dark and clot-like for first few days until I was about 35 (which, in hindsight, was probably the start of peri as periods started fluctuating and I got the odd hot flush) and I'm still breathing!
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Hi Spirit guide....how's it going with the femoston and has your bleeding settled?....delayed taking tabs last month but started this morning....fed up feeling weird, wired and exhausted ...fingers crossed I feel better and hope you are too xxx
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Hello All, I've been off the radar for a while, grappling with my new life direction, holidays and general life. I handed my notice in in July, and now I'm facing the world of supply teaching. I haven't got any work yet but I will.
Periods are now coming around the expected time...and the "flow" this month seems to be more "normal", however on the flip side the pain this month is worse, and so is my crying...:(
I've got 4 days left of my first packet of Femoston and have already got a new packet.
Feeling old...but I'm sure it will pass...til the next time!
Ps thanks for thinking about me.
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Hi there spiritguide
It's always a mixed blessing - peri, meno hormones HRT! If it's not one thing it's another. Glad the bleeding is not so bad but hopefully the pain will ease. Crying is par for the course during peri - well I found this anyway!
Good news ( I hope) about the job and with supply teaching at least you will be able to pace yourself and only choose days/schools that you want and when you feel up to it, I presume?
Feeling old - you get used to it! Some of us are actually quite old - but hey! Hope the Femoston continues to suit you.
Hurdity x :)
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We had an age related thread for a while ::)
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Well I shall most definitely find that thread, do you happen to know what area its under?
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Nope. Can't remember what I did this morning ::)
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Hello all. I have been absently recently because my life has gone shit shaped. My plan was to leave teaching and to supply for the sake of my sanity but I have now had to get a short term contact. Many reasons for this:too many teachers in the supply pool;lots of schools trying to keep cover in house, mild winter hence not as many illnesses. We had to use our savings to survive as work was few and far between. I'm trying to be positive and know this is for the short term while a plan b is thought of. Also my mother died suddenly in October and that has been so difficult. I did not know how much emotional pain I could feel and still am feeling.
My periods are skew whiff again...
I feel negative and depressed...don't like this version of me. I'm sure my tear ducts have emptied their reservoir...but they still keep coming somehow.
I try and smile...a lot if the time it's false...my real ones should come back...soon I hope.
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So sorry to hear your news. Sending you a :hug: Your real smiles WILL come back...it's early days. Be gentle with yourself; grieving takes more time and energy than you would think.
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of course the tears keep on coming - heavens I still have a little cry every now and again (birthdays etc) about my dad when he died in 2009 !
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spiritguide - you have my sympathies - so very sorry to hear about your mum. I've just been to visit mine today and I can't imagine life without her. It must be difficult working full time when you are feeling like this but hopefully it won't be for too long. I do hope things begin to look up for you, and yes, if you can it's so important for your sanity to try to stay positive. This came up in my FB a few weeks ago and maybe there is something here to help you - although I don't know if they will work when you are trying to cope with grief. Apologies if it's not the right time for this http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/healthy-living/these-two-minute-daily-habits-will-make-you-happier-immediately-researchers-say-10364823.html
Hurdity x
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Thank you so much for your support and I shall try and keep on posting as seeing the replies has made me feel warmer inside. I suppose you just can't plan life, no matter how you try to...
Love to you all.